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  1. Dissed
    I am very sorry to hear how your husband reacted when you told him. It would make most men extremely happy to have a wife who wanted them sexually. Addicted to porn - not so sure because I would still think he would want to have sex. I do have my suspicions that someone else may be involved. You say he does not go out after work but has long lunch breaks. Does he work long hours ? It is possible he is seeing someone at his work. It does sound like you may need to separate or even divorce as you can not go on like this. I totally dissagree with eltayeb - do not lower yourself to having an affair - it would be better to get out of the marriage, affairs solve nothing, take it from me as I have been cheated on twice & it causes so much pain & children suffer incredibly. Be strong & perhaps the seperation option is the best way to start. I wish you good luck & God bless
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    Nothing wrong with being naive, in a perfect world you would not have to worry. Sometimes even when the signs are pretty obvious you just cant believe that the one your so close to would do that to you. You pass it off as if its just you being stupid. Sadly some people are so selfish & don't care who they hurt. Not seeing their mobile phone left around anymore is another big tell tale sign. Sounds to me like your better off out of it. Good Luck.
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    No one seems to mention the fact that if he had a t-shirt in his suitcase kind of suggests that clothes were being taken off. Cheating is cheating whether they had sex or just kissed. I don't know how long you have been together but i think once this has happened it changes your relationship forever. I've had counselling, didn't do anything for me but were all different. I think you would be better off without him, you don't want to spend all your life with someone you can never completely trust. I hate it when the word "mistake" is used, a mistake is an accident & 2 people being intimate is not an accident. If you truly believe you can forgive him that will give you a chance but as someone else said you will never forget. I hope you make the right decision for YOURSELF. I wish you well good luck.
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    This may sound abit negative but for someone to cheat on you 2 weeks after you have got married is unforgivable to me. If you believe that you can forgive & trust her again you can make a go of it but if deep down inside you know you cant it wont work. I found counselling did not help me at all, maybe it gave me a better chance to talk to my wife about what she had done. My personnel opinion is you can never trust her & if you have the strength you should leave her. Its very hard to leave especially when you have children, my heart goes out to you, good luck in making your decision I wish you all the best.
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    Sorry to say but it sounds highly suspicious to me. i would go with your gut feeling, i would ask her if she was seeing someone else. I asked my wife about 4 times & each time she denied it unto I finally caught her out so asking does not always solve it..
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    Sadly i found out that my wife had cheated on me in July 2004 & I am finding the betrayal very hard to get past. I have 2 kids & have been with my wife for 15 years but only been married for 4 years. It was her that wanted to get married so badly & it took her just over 3 years until she started having an affair. I sometimes feel if I was stronger I would leave her. I do love her still & know she is so sorry for what she has done, but I don't think I'll ever be able to look & think of her in the same way again. The most amazing thing is everytime I think about it I just can't believe she done it, I know she did but I just can't believe it. Its not been a year yet since I found out but I was pretty much on the ball when it first started (end of Jan 2004) trouble is you think it is just you going mad. I hope you get past this but sadly there is no quick fix it is down to each person as an individual to how they deal with it. I can only wish you the best of luck
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    Sadly I think you should trust your intuition because from my experience I found it to be incredibly accurate. You often don't believe that someone that you trust & love can do this to you, so you don't follow it up but I think you are right in thinking he has something to hide otherwise he would not have a problem letting you know what you want to know.
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    My wife cheated on me after 15 years together, only 3 married, I to have a vivid imagination & although I found out 5 months ago I still have some pretty painful days. I was always one to say if my partner cheated I would walk away but put in the situation it is totally different. I can see how sorry she is too, but don't know if I can ever look at her in the exact same way again - Yes I still love her & I am trying to get through it. I would say if you are young enough & have not been with your girl friend for to long it may be better to cut ties with her but of course thats easier said than done. Good luck in making your decision
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    Sadly to say it does seem alot in life that nice guys finish last. Someone once said to me that you can never trust anybody totally & I always thought they were wrong but I now believe this is true as it does always seem that people closest to you hurt you the most. You are fairly young so hopefully you will meet some people that will restore your faith in human beings. There are some nice people out there believe me, I wish you luck
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