annie03

I had asked for input on whether finding out your mate was calling ex g/f's was considered cheating. I received some useful advise and decided to keep my head and wait. Well, after weeks of his strange behavior I put a tape recorder in the livingroom and went to work. He had a different ex g/f he was talking to telling her she has been heavily on his mind and he'd sent her a text message the night before asking her to lunch the next day. During this conversation he was asking her if she was touching herself and began reminicing on past sexual times they'd had. When I confronted him he said they were joking and only going to lunch to catch up. He said he loves me with all his heart and I'm his soulmate HOW WOULD YOU RESPOND TO THIS SO I CAN MOVE ON. HE DOESN"T THINK THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THIS.

He blocked all my access by telling the company I would have to provide a secret password to get information. I can't access the phone itself because he put in a 4 digit pin that only he knows.

I'm sure I'm quite biased in my view of this situation as my husband has been carrying on a secret supposedly" phone relationship "with his ex-girlfriend. The fact that he keeps this relationship going with you tells me he thinks he can have you when he wants to. If it's just a friendship why hasn't he included his wife in on this great friendship? A married man has zero business staying in touch with an ex on this type of a regular basis. Why are you keeping so close to a man who vowed to forsake all others and stick to his wife? Would you want your future husband to do this to you? He's wanting to pursue an affair and you are a safe bet in his mind. You need to break this off because ultimately it will only lead to alot of heartache for all involved...including his innocent wife.

When you find out your husband has been making phone calls to an ex-girlfriend ,is having his bill sent to work, no interest in sex, has blocked your ability to even access his phone unless you know his pin # then tells you it was only a harmless phone call and he was drunk when he did it he is sorry and it meant nothing....would you feel this is cheating? I told him I didn't believe him and I wanted all the past bills and his phone unblocked. He said no because he has to use it at work and figured I'd go through it and call all the #'s on it and make him look like a fool. I said if you have nothing to hide and want my trust you'll do what I've requested. He has refused. I called the ex and left a message telling her I know about them and wanted to talk to her and she's never responded. What I feel is crazy is my husband claims since that one innocent call he made he's never talked to her again and he's not heard from her in response to my call to her. All in All he's twisted so much around in my head I'm feeling like I'm crazy and an insecure woman. anyway I need help.