Hello. This is my first post. I have spent the last two or three hours reading this forum. I am 30 years old and married the love of my life. We have two children and 10 years together. I just found out about a month ago that she has cheated on me aleast twice. Once before we were married ans once afterwards. Two weeks afterwards.
A couple of months ago we decided it was time to stop smoking. I walked in the bethroom one day smelled smoke. I found her cigerettes and confronted her with them. She said they must of been there for a while. I ask her if the smoke in the bathroom had also been there awhile. She insisted that I was imagining things. Over the course of the years we had become accustom to telling each other little white lies and we agreed that would also come to a stop for the children's sake. This was her idea. She then accused me of smoking at work. Then a suggested a lie-detector test for both of us. At first she agreed but when I suggested that both of us get to ask any ten questions we want, she flipped out. I wasn't really serious about any test but I guess I must have struck a nerve. Latter that night I ask her why was she so opposed to a lie-detector test and she dropped the bomb on me. I went to the bathroom, puked my guts out and she spent the rest of the night apoligizing.
The first time she actually didn't "do it" but explained that there was alot of touching. The next time it happened we were only married for two weeks. She was working at night McDonald's and had a one-time affair with the manager. We had a nasty fight a few days before and I had told her that maybe we shouldn't have gotten married.I realize this was a very stupid thing to do and I regretted it as soon as I said it. I admit that I have not always been there for her emotionally. She explained to me that he was comforting her and one thing lead to another. She came home that night crying from what she said was a fight with her mother and she never went back to work.
I nolonger see her as my perfect angel and to be honest if it were not for the kids I would just leave. There has been a few guys that I have suspected her of being more then just friends with in the past and this haunts me day and night. Can anybody here with experience in this councel me on whether or not my suspecions are valid?
Do y'all think she do it again?
Lost&Destroyed
