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Wiseman2

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  1. Sorry this is happening. Your relationship seems awful. Can you move out? Are you supporting him as well as putting up with this behavior?
  2. Sorry this is happening. How long have you been dating? How old is he? Do you live together? How is your relationship and intimacy overall? Do enjoy being the recipient of this? It doesn't seem very satisfying. Hopefully he cleans up after himself.
  3. How long have you been dating? How old is he? As long as things are consensual, he is probably fine with it. You don't have to worry about his past or being "triggered". Please try not to be his therapist. If you dislike the activity, just say so. Communication is important as far as what people's sexual desires are.
  4. Yes. Libidos fluctuate. Especially since you couldn't be messing this up more with what you're doing. Especially holding her past against her slot shaming and your sense of entitlement and disrespecting her mother, her house and her boundaries. Add to this withholding affection in a passive aggressive manner. She's not cheating, that's not the reason. You're messing it up fine on your own. Stop judging her and her past.
  5. That's ok. However you took it upon yourself to go on this road trip adventure without really knowing much about him. It's not about pecans and gift shop items. It's that he is long distance , complains about his ex and child support and is living life a bum off his parents. If you wanted a road trip, hotel stay and adventure, you found that, but there are so many red flags not to ignore.
  6. Sorry this is happening. It's good you're taking care of yourself and your physical and mental health. Breakups are difficult and with mixed feelings after so long together. Please don't promise each other to not move forward and expect to not see anyone else. Don't put each other on hold. Unfortunately moving out is the end of a relationship, not a variation of it. She has had years to figure out whether she's happy or not.
  7. Please respect your GFs boundaries. Being passive aggressive and withholding affection is backfiring. Please stop abusing other people's medication. Antidepressants are not candy.
  8. You already know about her recent breakup, her crying on your shoulder about it and that she's not interested in a relationship at this point. Please don't blurt out your feelings since she's already aware of that. Is this the same woman?
  9. How did you meet? Did you answer an ad,? Please try to focus on the logistics of the lease and living together. Bills, house rules and so on. You'll learn more about her that way. You did not move in as a couple so it's completely inappropriate to hit on her. Please slow your roll and let cooler heads prevail. Try to organize your personal life and your rebound and mixed emotions. She is there to defray costs, not rescue you.
  10. Listen to your friends. There's nothing but headaches and headaches if you wait in the wings for someone who is with someone else now.
  11. Sorry this happened. Between the distance, living with his parents and being broke, it seems like you dodged a bullet. He may be nice but he's looking for a sugar mama and meal ticket. Once you tried to discuss finances, he may look for an easier target.
  12. She seems to really like you as you are. Please don't let vanity or body image obsessions stand in your way. It's fine to be in shape and bodybuild, but be cc careful about putting all your worth into vanity.
  13. Sorry this happened. At least she was honest so you're not being led on or wasting your time. Hopefully you can move forward to local interested women and invest more in that.
  14. Sorry this is happening. Do you live together? How old is he? How is the relationship otherwise? Have there been incidents of inappropriate behavior? What are the family issues and reasons for separate vacations? Your BF is the issue, not the friend. She openly posted pics, but with your BF getting a little too cozy. He seemed to lap up the female attention.
  15. Sorry this is happening. LDRs are lonely, difficult and frustrating. Trust your instincts that he's holding you back from experiencing life on campus more fully. However the real issue is the possessiveness, jealousy and trying to tether you, make you feel bad and hindering you.. Please rethink the relationship and consider setting each other free..
  16. Please try to have fun and mingle with other singles. It's not worth investigating this guy to the point of contacting the "competition". Any guy who calls you just for booty call, should be a red flag and deal breaker.
  17. Hopefully he has a lot of ancillary care options available such as occupational therapy and physical therapy to help with Exercises and rehabilitation.
  18. Sorry this is happening. How long have you been dating? How old is he? How is your relationship otherwise. It's good you're getting help with your mental health, however you may be in the wrong relationship if it makes your mental health worse.
  19. Try not to expect so much accommodations from your friends and try to respect their lives instead of expecting special treatment. Especially try to understand that they have their own lives and you've grown apart, so staying stuck in the past while they evolved is your issue not theirs. Perhaps a referral to a physician for the severe anxiety and other issues would help with more complete treatment because talk therapy alone doesn't seem to alleviate your discomfort.
  20. Sorry this is happening. Do you live together? How old is he? If he's on dating apps it sounds like he's cheating. Either way talking at him hasn't helped. Porn is the least of your problems if he's checked out and on dating apps. He's interested in sex, but with others. Please get tested for STDs. Why tolerate his dating apps?
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