poorlittlefish

In my opinion, that's inappropriate behaviour from someone who's in a relationship. How did he meet this woman and is he spending one-on-one time with her or are you always around too? If he's doing that when this woman is right in front of you, I hate to think what's happening when you're not there. I've never fed a male friend anything, off a spoon or otherwise.

Your boyfriend is 6 hours away, so he's going to do whatever he's going to do with this other girl (and has likely already done it), because he's not going to be caught. He's told you to your face that he desires her, so he's making it clear that he no longer cares about you or your relationship. Leave him to it and go find yourself a better guy who's much closer to home.

Why waste your life with someone who rates you a pathetic 2/10? I wonder what rating she's given the guy she's texting? She has access to your phone because you have nothing to hide, but she doesn't want to offer the same. You renovated your apartment to meet her demands? OP, can't you see for yourself how one-sided this relationship is and how badly you are being played? Ask her to pack her bags and tell her that you wish to spend your life with someone who values you far more. (Oh, and maybe let her know that her behaviour is 2/10.)

My ex said he'd never had issues with any of his previous partners and made me feel like I was the problem. However, after I met his mother she asked me how on earth I put up with his horrendous moodiness - and I knew he'd gaslighted me. Of course he's not having issues with her, because they've known each other for all of five minutes and both parties are still on their best behaviour. That won't last and eventually he'll be treating her the same way he treated you. Be glad that you're out of it.

They can have you report to whoever they like, unfortunately. As for the promotions/pay rises, in my company nobody can be considered for either of these until they have successfully passed their 6-month probation period. I missed out on a pay rise because I still had two weeks to go, so I appreciate how that feels. If your pay hasn't been reduced and you are generally carrying out duties that are commesurate with your job description, then you haven't been demoted. As your role has evolved and you now have a different title, it could be that they need to update your job description which could affect your salary, so it's worth asking for a job evaluation.

Maybe she assumed that, as the two of you had become intimate, you were exclusive. I wouldn't want to be having sex with someone who was still looking to have sex with others. She should have been up front with you about it if she found out you were seeing other women, but she probably feels bad too.

You seem to enjoy being mean to him. There are plenty of people of both sexes who stay in relationships with partners who treat them badly, but here there's no relationship, he's just getting free sex. At some point he's going to meet someone decent and he'll drop you like a stone.

What kind of workplace requires its female employees to wear short skirts? If the uniform is making the male employees "horny all day" then it appears to be inappropriate!

Why should she get more time? The woman has treated the OP badly. He needs to realise there's nothing wrong with him and find himeself someone who's a way nicer person.

If she liked you as much as you like her, she'd have heard you out. She might even have apologised for getting the wrong end of the stick and laughed about it. Instead she chose to completely blank you, which is pretty childish, though I'm not sure why she's not blocked you, unless she enjoys playing games. Either way, she's shown that she overreacts to the simplest things. Even if you pick things up with her, the same thing will happen again and you'll forever be crawling after her. She's not as great as you thought she was.

I don't know if it's a culture thing, but my friend is in a relationship with a Brazilian woman and she never offers to pay for anything either. When someone's not asked me anything about myself, I've said something along the lines of, "It's dawned on me that I've been asking lots of questions about you. What would you like to know about me?" As for the dates, I'd do something similar, eg "I've realised that our dates so far have been on me. How about you choosing our next one?"

My ex-husband took ELEVEN attempts to pass his driving test (and he must have got lucky on the day because his driving was always atrocious)!!! What's not helping, probably subconsciously, is the fact that you don't really want to drive but don't have other options unless you start cycling places? The therapy should help you control your anxiety, especially if they teach you some relaxation techniques.

I'm curious to know whether they were talking in general terms about the girl and your boyfriend introduced the topic of her body or whether the conversation was about her looks from the start? Depending on how it went, he was either bowing to peer pressure or he gave away that he's been checking out this other girl when he's in a relationship with you. He recognised his behaviour was wrong and apologised, but I'd be a little wary.

Think how many famous people there are - on TV, in movies, in music, in politics etc etc. Thousands and thousands of them. Is the news constantly filled with salacious stories about what each and every one of them may or may not have done with a previous partner, long before they became famous? No. I think you have delusions of grandeur that are stopping you from thinking/behaving rationally about how your life is right now.

I can't see any doctor encouraging a patient to drink alcohol as a 'treatment' or form of escape from their condition. That would be rather reckless and potentially damaging advice.

Years ago I had a friend who used to use men in order to get her rent paid, get expensive gifts bought for her etc. At first I thought she was just lucky with the guys she dated, but eventually I realised it was a deliberate ploy. I also realised that whenever we met up, I was there as some kind of wingman, as if she got chatting with a guy then I'd spend the rest of the evening alone. Her behaviour was very much against my personal morals, so I was direct about it. I told her that what she was doing wasn't compatible with my values in life and that I no longer wanted to continue the friendship. She couldn't care less, so clearly I was only a friend when I was useful. I think that actions have consequences and doing the slow fade means she has no idea why you don't want to be friends with her. If you are direct then she will understand your reason, even if she doesn't agree with it.

How can she sustain a job if she's sleeping up to 16 hours a day for one week every month? Hasn't her employer referred her to Occupational Health or insisted she seek help from her doctor? As she is unwilling to help herself and refuses to acknowledge the impact her behaviour has on you when she's feeling bad, I think it's down to you to protect yourself, should you wish to continue in this relationship (bearing in mind she could be like this until menopause). Inform her that you will no longer spend time with her the week before her period and make sure she is clear that her behaviour towards you is the reason why. Whether she then chooses to do something about the situation will tell you a lot about how she views your relationship.

She is blatantly cheating, OP. Something happened with that guy the first night, she's been messaging him ever since and most likely it was he she was going to meet at the nightclub. She is literally messing about with another man right in front of your face and you're asking whether you should forgive her? The simple answer is NO! She is seeing where things go with this other guy, while keeping you in the background and in your shoes, I would have ended the relationship as she cannot be trusted.

WiFi is available pretty much anywhere. Nobody is too busy 24/7 to send messages to the person they're supposedly in love with. He's been in a relationship for 5 months and there is zero excuse for his failure to maintain contact. He could have done so, but has chosen not to. It's like he forgot about you as soon as he boarded the plane and has likely been enjoying himself with others. I would not accept his behaviour and would move on.

When your body becomes aroused, it produces lubrication. What you experienced could be as simple and as normal as that. As for what it feels like, I remember reading something one time that likened it to a sneeze - a build-up of intensity, followed by relief. There's no right or wrong length of time it takes to achieve orgasm, but if your head is not in the right place then it likely won't happen. For me, it takes a couple of minutes before I even start feeling the pleasurable sensations, so be patient with yourself. It's great that your boyfriend is so willing to give you a hand (literally), but I think you'd do better learning by yourself what works for you, then moving on to showing him once you feel confident that you've picked up the knack. Having him there while you learn your own body is probably additional pressure that won't aid you right now.

If you're not comfortable having sex as much as he wants it, could you/would he be OK with other sexual activity that doesn't include penetration? Might that be a compromise both of you would be happier with?

Turning things around, maybe she didn't like how the OP reacted to being ill. By his own admission, his symptoms were akin to a cold, yet he had to explain his 'atypical' behaviour to her. We don't know how weird or badly he came across with this behaviour, but maybe the way he acted was a red flag to her.

After 8 months, you should feel able to tell your boyfriend what does and doesn't work for you. Rather than saying what he's doing wrong, guide his hand or say what you'd like him to try. If he asks, you can say you want to mix things up a bit, which is true. If you aren't forthcoming, then all he has to rely on is guesswork. It may well feel awkward, but isn't it better to cross that hurdle than dread intimacy or end the relationship?

Yes, they post things like, "OMG, today was terrible", knowing full well that it will make people ask what's happened. They could have just posted what happened in the first place, but they enjoy the drama. Some people's self worth seems to revolve around around the number of 'likes' they get or followers they have. I find it all rather tedious.

If he matches with you on Discord then his wife or local girlfriend might ask questions and he can't risk that for someone who's safely hidden away in another country.