poorlittlefish

OP, I can understand your frustration. If someone is interested in meeting you, it is reasonable to expect that they'll reply to confirm the new arrangements are OK for them. However, this guy is from a culture where men do not treat women as equals and other than his looks, he really doesn't sound like a catch. Be glad that he blocked you, because I think you've saved yourself a whole lot of disappointment.

You blocked her just because you didn't like a joke text, then you told her you should be dating other women and THEN you said you're not fit for relationships and you have the cheek to question why women (huge generalisation) are sensitive? Can you hear yourself?! You sound like someone who would benefit from some therapy so you can improve both your self-esteem and outlook.

What kind of boyfriend allows his friends to disrespect you like that? The first time it happened, he should have had the balls to tell them it wasn't on. He didn't, so they think it's OK to continue making you feel awful. You could talk to your boyfriend and say you don't wish to spend any more time in their company, but you could also reconsider whether your boyfriend cares enough about you.

Four days to reply = no interest. At best, it's saying she wants to keep you on the back burner in case things don't come to fruition with someone else she's communicating with.

What does "still helpful to each other" mean? If your ex keeps phoning or you go over to do things for her, it's no wonder your girlfriend is getting fed up. If you've been very generous to your ex, to the extent it negatively affects your ability to have a decent lifestyle with your girlfriend then again, I can see why she's fed up. Maybe your girlfriend is testing the water by what she said, not because she wants to run off with another man, but because she is tiring of feeling second best or a third wheel. You can be friendly with your ex in relation to seeing the kids, but as they are teenagers, you can make arrangements directly with them. Other than that, she's your ex for a reason and if you prioritise her feelings over those of your girlfriend, then you can expect your girlfriend to leave.

She's his ex and the daughter is not his. There is no actual reason why he must have any involvement in either of their lives, but he is choosing to do so, to the extent where it he seems to be prioritising them over you. He has poor boundaries and a lack of respect for your feelings. I couldn't put up with that kind of situation. It sounds like the ex is hoping that if she can manufacture enough reasons not to stand on her own two feet, then they will get back together. Y our boyfriend should be saying no to everything other than occasionally taking the daughter out, but he's choosing to keep her in his life as much as possible. If he prefers to continue acting as maintenance man, taxi, waiter and everything else to this woman, then end the relationship because nothing will change and you will get hurt.

I once replied to a guy on a dating site who made a point of saying his photos were real. I uploaded them into a reverse image search and found they were of a male model, different name, occupation and country. You can never 100% trust anything that someone you've never met tells you online. Suggest a simple coffee date and if they baulk, you'll know not to waste any more of your time.

Another powerful man in the public eye who thinks it's OK to abuse women behind closed doors. He thinks his position gives him the right to behave as he pleases, but you have to realise that you have power too - the power to get the heck out of there. What if you stay and further down the line he puts you or the kids in hospital (or worse)? Don't risk it, just because he's presumably got money and you live in a fancy house or whatever. No man is worth getting injuries from, no matter who he is.

This is what I was thinking. The talk about exclusivity can be started by either party. If that's what the OP wants, there's nothing stopping her from asking the question.

Trying to help someone shouldn't involve making yourself just as miserable as they are. If your boyfriend won't take responsibility for her own mental health, then you need to look after your own by walking away. It's not selfish, particularly not when he has family - it's sensible.

Your husband's addiction to porn has now infiltrated into real life. Only Fans provides the opportunity to interact with women offering porn and by joining hook-up groups he is clearly intending to go the whole way and cheat on you, if he's not done so already. Your husband has no respect for your marriage vows and doesn't care about you. I don't think therapy would put a stop to his behaviour. It might make him more secretive and deceptive. For me, this is behaviour I could never accept or forgive and I'd be filing for divorce.

Your husband's behaviour is not appropriate. Regardless of the rights and wrongs of going through his phone, he started this mess. It sounds like he's lost interest in you and your marriage and has turned to seedy gratification instead of dealing with the problems. Forced affection and compliments aren't sustainable, so I think you need to consider whether there's enough to warrant staying.

Cancelling dates at short notice is disrespectful of your time. If she's going to cancel, she should offer an alternative date/time. You need to put the ball in her court. If she fails to contact you or doesn't make any effort to arrange a date herself, you know she's not really bothered. Expect better for yourself.

Maybe the fact that you're asking the same question using different words. You're getting the same advice and rejecting it. Either you need to accept your situation and fill your life with other interests or get help to improve your mindset.

Those questions are extremely personal and not ones I would want to be asked after having known someone for a month. To be honest, they may well have come across as red flags and indications that you were going to be into kinky stuff she has no wish to participate in. Definitely not a good move on your part and quite likely the reason she put the brakes on.

Unfortunately some people are just not affectionate and don't understand others' need for it. I spent 5 years with someone who was like that and it really got to me. If affection is important to you (which it clearly is and is reasonable to want in a relationship), then you can tell him this and how it would help if he demonstrated it more, but ultimately I think any effort on his part will soon drop off. I think you're unlikely to be happy long-term if you continue with this guy.

Have you actually asked him why he tags others but not you? Have you told him how you feel about this social media thing? If he cares about you enough, tagging you too shouldn't be a big deal for him. If he has a wandering eye, then that's the far bigger issue and being tagged in photos is unlikely to stop disrespectful behaviour.

You hope that if you tell him, he'll suddenly leave his wife and declare undying love for you. That is 100% not going to happen. This man you 'love' is just an infatuation and he is in your mind but not your day-to-day reality. The sooner you can put some serious distance between you and him, the better you will be.

It sounds very dodgy to me. If she wants privacy on her phone, then why doesn't she just set her WhatsApp so that nobody can check when she was last online? Normal, genuine people do not use virtual numbers.

Get all this stuff in place and THEN move out. Your cat doesn't need the upheaval while you sort your life out. Let him stay where he already is.

Often when someone is so paranoid about their partner, checking their phone and generally policing them, it's because they are themselves untrustworthy. I think your girlfriend is a prime example. This relationship is very unhealthy and you would be better off cutting your losses before things get even worse and you get hurt.

But what's your point? You didn't actually ask a question in the original post. Guys like this can have casual sex with anyone they like, because women like you agree to it. It sounds like you were hoping he'd spend more of his money on you, when unfortunately you were just another notch in his bedpost.

At some point I suspect you're going to wish you'd have "got there" sooner - maybe when he's given you an STI or run off with some other unsuspecting woman. He cheated on his first wife and he's cheated on you. Do you really want this constant anxiety and betrayal for yourself? He's never going to change because he has the best of both worlds. Only you can rid yourself of this awful situation.

If you state in your dating profile that you do not want children, then those women who want them will not match with you.

Your girlfriend is cheating on you and has so little respect for you that she's actually flaunting it in front of your face and getting away with it. None of the things she's doing with other men would be acceptable in any normal relationship. She's cancelling weekends with you so she can spend them with other men and she's keeping you dangling on a string so she'll have something to do if those men don't work out. She clearly doesn't care about you or your relationship. You may be 59, but you shouldn't be putting up with this nonsense just to keep a younger woman.