emotionalcheating

Thanks everyone. We have only been married for almost 3 years, which is why I hesitate,I guess. They were not in our lives until recently. I don't know what the falling out was about, but seems as if it's over. Wish I would have known before. We've been toghether for 4 and a half years, and they just came back into the picture recently.

They talk most weeks and typically more than once a week. She has a disabled daughter that he loves very much and I understand his desire to help, but I think it's to the point where they are both being very disrespectful of me. He does all sorts of work at their apartment, and work at the new apartment is already under way. Tonight she called him at 10PM to ask his opinion about something. IE: She wanted to see if she could do something she wants done. She asked the maintenance guys, but they want to charge her and she knows my husband will do it for free. She asks him for help or advice on how to proceed what feels like constantly to me. He helped her move from one apartment to another while I was at work. He spend 1/2 day after bringing her lunch packing her apartment until about 5:00 pm and all day the next day with her, her disabled daughter and another daughter packing and moving things and also took everyone out to eat lunch for a break. I don't think he's cheating, but I feel that the potential is there. I feel that they still treat each other as spouses and it upsets me. He took the daughter to the doctor one day and she called and had them meet her for lunch and they did. He didn't ask or tell me about it until I asked him where he and the daughter went to lunch and then he said they met the ex wife. He was supposed to be taking the daughter to the doctor and putting together a dresser for her, so since that didn't get that done, he had to go back the next day and finish. She has asked him to bring her some lunch to her job, saying she couldn' t get away to get food, and he has complied on two occassions that I'm aware of. Her job is within 15 minutes of our house. He says I should trust him and it's childish for me to get upset, but I can't help the way I feel. Am I being childish? I know he loves the daughter very much and I know she requires a lot of assistance and I know that him making things easier for the ex makes things easier for the daughter as well, but I still feel that they are inconsiderate of my feelings and her asking him to bring her or meet her for lunch is way overboard.... Be truthful with me - if I'm being childish let me know.