Hey. I’ve never posted here before, but this is urgent.
Important context for this: I come from a well-off background, and my husband is a “powerful” man with a position in the public eye (I’m not going to elaborate). We met three years ago, and we’ve been married for two. Because of his age, and the phase of his life, he’s been really eager to start a family, but I haven’t been so sure — I enjoy partying, and I was nervous to become a mother. I’m selfish.
About 12/13 weeks ago, we were getting ready for a small dinner party we were hosting for his colleagues and some friends, when he decides he wants some “fun”. However, earlier that day, I’d discovered he’d been flirting with a male colleague, so I was justifiably mad at him and rejected his advances. He gets annoyed, but drops it.
Later on we have a heated argument about this, and other things and then he starts getting angry, and calling me some very derogatory and misogynistic names that I don’t think I can use here. Obviously, I have been nothing but loyal to him, so it hurts. I get a bit loud, so he smacks me so hard I fall down and hurt my back. This shocked me, because he’s slightly controlling, but aside from some kinkiness, he has *never* been physically aggressive or violent with me.
We’ve always worked really well together, and although we got married quickly (we got engaged 4 months into our relationship), I never saw this coming.
Afterwards we “made up” (yeah…), and I decided to forgive him. A few weeks later, I find out that I’m pregnant. I thought we took measures to prevent this, so I was visibly shocked and a little upset. He was mad at my reaction, and it turned into another heated argument where he yanked my hair, and pinned me against the wall. I was terrified, but I bit back and (wrongly) threatened to abort the baby, so he slapped me again.
Afterwards, he profusely apologised again, but I’m worried. Finding out that I’ve got twins has got me thinking. On the one hand, I can see him being a really good Dad. On the other, I fear for their safety as well as mine.
But I don’t know if I can just divorce him! Our statuses make this such a hard situation, because the ramifications on our careers (particularly his) and personal lives could be massive. I also know that he would kick my ass in court, and I don’t want to lose the children. I feel like they would be safest where I can keep an eye on them, and if he gets full custody, that’s impossible. I’m scared that the consequences might outweigh the benefits, and I really, really love him. I’m mad about my husband, and cannot see myself living without him, truthfully. On many levels, I don’t want to leave him, but I’m worried. Is divorce the wisest course for us? Feel free to ask questions.
TLDR; my husband has started hitting me after two years of marriage — I’m pregnant with his twins and I’m worried that I might have to leave him.
