Cher_C

Just because you live with someone doesn't mean you are living as a family. Have you ever heard of roommate?

I saw him today and he told me that his mother has Cancer and that he's been looking after her. That he's currently laid off. And that his bestfriend(a woman and her kid) is living with him. He's been knowing her for 10 years and he said he's helping her and he said it's stressful. Because she's going through a rough time. I asked him if they were in a relationship and he said no. I told him I didn't want to come between anything if they were together and he said they weren't. I feel bad for him about his mother he's really close to her. I don't know if I should just stop talking to him. I really don't know why he told me about his mother.

No, I just don't get why a person would put up with someone who has issues just because they are getting free sex. When they can easily find someone else. I wouldn't have sex with a man if he treated me the way that I've treated him I'd be done with him.

Just because I have unresolved issues doesn't mean I'm not a decent person. If I weren't decent, I wouldn't even acknowledge that I've been mean to him. And wouldn't even care to apologize which I actually have.

I accused him of having sex with his best friend, I contacted his best friend and asked if they were in a relationship. I walked in his house announced and I've said bad things to him. I've called him a liar told him he wasn't attracted to me etc.

When I act like a low-life? You obviously don't know what that is otherwise you wouldn't be calling me that. I said I know that I was wrong with how I treated him. Hence the reason why I decided to get help with my unresolved issues. Not sure why you feel the need to insult me? That says more about you as a person though. I'm saying that even easy sex isn't worth all the drama I've put him through. And that he can easily find someone else to have NSA sex with. There are a million women in the world and a lot of them are ok with no strings attached sex.

So he basically he has no self-respect and no self-worth?

If he were having sex with other women he wouldn't keep having sex with me. Because he would have others and wouldn't have to put up with any drama. The way that he does with me. It wouldn't make sense for him to keep having sex with a woman who treats him poorly. When he has other women who are nice to him.

I have been having casual sex on and off with this guy since the summer. I have treated him badly on several different occasions and I have accused of him certain things I've crossed a lot of boundaries. I am aware of my behavior and I know the way that I have treated him is wrong. Hence the reason why I decided to go to therapy to work on my unresolved issues. We stopped talking in January and recently I called him and he asked to see me. He's a good looking guy, he makes good money and he's sweet. He can easily find another woman to have casual sex with. Women like men who have good paying jobs and who make decent money. I get that I'm available to him which is why he probably prefers to sleep with me. But still at some point the sex isn't worth all the drama. I guess I'm just trying to understand why he hasn't left me alone after everything I've done?