Raiders79

well i think it is too much of an age difference because shes an older girl and girl grow faster than boys so even though she is only 4 years older than you its actually like 5 to 6 years because of how much faster they grow than you. however i dont have any room to talk because when i was 14 i dated an 18 year old senior when i was a freshman... so it was the same age difference but not as much of a difference in maturity.(i was a VERY early bloomer though also... i started puberty when i was 11-12)

i'll tell you what... i think high school is the best. im 15 and going to be a junior. im in football, baseball, wrestling, and track so you could call me a jock but im also in choir, drama, speech, FFA, NHS, and well just about everything, and also im an "A" student in most classes. so i basically "belong" to every group in one way or another. and i must say that for me football is worth it... not so you can be cool but because i love football and im a lineman so i get to hit people every play and i think its fun. it helps me get over any aggressions i have and everything (and plus it doesnt hurt your chances with the ladies , but thats not the reason i do it.

to add to computerguy's reply, if she is being sarcastic... a lot of times this is a way of flirting that isnt quite so obvious. also she could just be a sarcastic person which would probably then cancel out the possibility of this being flirting.

hey good news for me here. i saw her today when i was getting my football pads (YES FOOTBALL IS STARTING BABY, its my favorite sport). anyways i saw her while she was in dance practice and in the middle of the dance she just stopped to wave and yell out my name. maybe she misses home more now then usual. i dunno but girls are definitely complicated and i dont think i will ever understand them. hopefully tho this one will give me a chance. (ive felt something for her since i met her and its never stopped) just thought id give you a rather exciting and unexpected update!

well this is really a past thing. its been a few months ago. anyways here it is... well there was this girl that im sure a few of you might remember in some of my last posts. we were best friends and told each other everything and flirted alot and everything. whenever she was down and crying i would comfort her and hold her and console her and whatnot. she felt really comfortable in my arms (she fell asleep while i was holdin her a few times). she might've just trusted me a lot since i was her best friend. but see the thing is she asked me if i liked anybody in our class and i told her that i liked her and then i reciprocated the question back to her and she said that she wasnt sure because of all the things that were goin on in her life at that point in time. she used to love to have me sing to her and stuff because it would comfort her and help relieve stress and make her feel like everything was ok... I know right now you guys are thinkin H*LL YES SHE LIKED YOU but the real kicker is that she is from another country and she left this boyfriend back there (they're not goin out anymore). and she said that he treated her better than anyone ever has and all of that. (which i dont understand how you could possibly treat anyone better than i treated her). and anyways i think she kinda felt reserved for him and everything. and the other thing is that i reminded her of him and stuff with the way i acted and treated her but he is a lot more physically attractive than me and also shares her culture and religion and i dont even though my ancestors came from right around where her home country was. I guess my question is do you think she actually liked me for being me or do you think that she just liked me because i reminded her of home and her ex bf that she loves. (notice how that is not past tense). like i said this was a few months ago so please dont reply saying something like "I think you should just go and ask her out" or anything like that. just a simple yes or no and an explanation of why you think that would be nice. THANK YOU

ok well ive been there, really recently actually. I thought everything was goin great, she was being flitacious with me and i was to her and she layed her head down on my lap and told me to play with her hair so she could take a nap (she was pretty stressed and wasnt sleepin well), SHE ACTUALLY KISSED ME ON THE CHEEK, then one day i gathered up all of my courage and told her how i felt. she asked if i had feelings for anybody so i figured that she is askin cuz she liked me and wanted to know if i felt the same way. well i told her i had feelings for her, (didnt ask her out or anything just told her) and she was acting even nicer to me and everything for the rest of the night and then we both went home and it was a weekend and so the next monday during school she gave me a hug and never said a word to me for the rest of that day then. she also didnt tell me everything that she used to. like how her life is, and what crappy hours she had to work, and how this guy at work was hitting on her, etc. and all of a sudden it seemed like she never wanted to talk to me. i tried but she never talked back. so my advice is for you to decide if you would put your friendship on the line to ask her out, or you could be her best friend, or you could be her best friend and then one night when you KNOW you have her wrapped around your finger just kiss her out of the blue. then say "im sorry you just looked so beautiful and i couldnt resist." see if that gets you anywhere. i've never tried it but it seems like it might be a good attempt. good luck and i hope your situation doesnt end up like mine did cuz trust me IT BITES THE BIG ONE.

in my personal opinion that is based on personal experience, i prefer the quiet, nice girls because they are seemingly less needy or one could say less "high-maintenance" and more independent and smart and a lot of times have a better sense of humor and in my class at school the girls belong to one of three groups. 1) the girls that go out and get drunk every weekend and date the guys that do the same and end up getting pregnant and labeled wh*re. most of these girls are unbelievably beautiful, yet very high-maintenance. i'm not rich... dont have enough money for these girls. (i dont need a baby or have my parents hear that im dating a wh*re and besides, im a straight "A" student that is out for 4 sports and start varsity on all of them and i dont need to get drunk and f*ck all of that up) 2) the girls that are fun loving but less risky and would rather go watch a movie and have a slumber party then go out and get drunk every weekend. these girls are the more innocent, shy, smart, funny, independent ones that i would want to date if one of them would have me. 3) the girls in between... one weekend the designated driver and the next weekend with the other girls having a slumber party... I guess the reason i want a nice innocent girl is cuz im a nice innocent guy and they are ?less of a risk? sorry it was so long... thats my 2, 3, or 4 cents

no i think this guy must just totally agree with what i said... or he was mockin me, either one

i think that as long as they are nicely cupped and not saggy then they are nice... the bigger they are while still being nicely cupped the better. but mostly around a C cup for me... as long as they are in proportion and can "defy gravity" and still be natural and not silicon then we're in business

Panties or thongs: neither Painted nails or not: not Regular or sports bra: Regular Bra straps showing or not: not Cute n' mysterious or wild n' sexy: Cute n' mysterious Dark or blonde hair: Dark Long or short hair: Long Curly or straight hair: straight Dark, light, or crazy cool eyes: blue Long or short nails: dont usually notice Hat or no hat: if it looks good on the girl then she needs to wear it Good or bad girl: good Hair up or down: Down Jewelry or none: nothin too expensive or that makes them look high-maintenance Tall or short: shorter than me but not so short that i have to bend way over to kiss her Accent or no accent: BOSNIAN ACCENT (this one chick has the sexiest accent ever) Pants or dress: skirt Tan or fair: Don't matter, but no tan lines. Glasses they fit the face Pretty indoor chick or crazy party chick: indoor Freckles or none: none Shy or outgoing: outgoing Funny or always cool but more funny Talkative or shy

OK heres what i was gettin at... askin for help on this forum is like calling 911 to tell them that you are on a bridge waitin to jump off and kill yourself. (it does happen... my dad is a firefighter and this has happened many times that i know of) The people that called 911 probably really didnt want to die, am i right? do you see what im getting at here? so basically, why tell somebody you're gonna kill yourself? the only reason would be to try to get them to stop you. and if you want for them to stop you then you really dont want to die in the first place. am i right here? if you want to die then get a gun and get it over with. as Trigve said. also to johnagent1911, i didnt say it didnt happen to many... what i did say is, " although it does happen, not many people will seek advice about it before doing it. they are usually too far over the edge." I never said it doesnt happen to many because i actually do not know the exact or even relative number...

i am going to apologize in advance if i offend anybody... there is no need for this forum because if people actually are seeking help or trying to get advice then they really dont want to die. I say get over yourself, and stop trying to act like you are actually going to kill yourself because although it does happen not many people will seek advice about it before doing it they are usually too far over the edge. My advice for all of you is to think about all of the GOOD things you would leave behind and how all of your loved ones would feel and how they would handle... I know that i would never kill myself just because of my family and my friends and how they might react. PLEASE DONT COMMIT SUICIED!!!!! YOU WILL GET THROUGH WHATEVER IT IS THAT'S MAKING YOU FEEL THE WAY YOU DO...

Take it from me, I am a wrestler and know what it is like to lose a bunch of weight. You can lose a lot of weight very fast and it WILL NOT take 3 months. I've lost 25 lbs in 3 weeks. granted that probably wasnt very healthy but it can be done and you can keep it off afterwards also. I used the Atkins diet and did a ton of running and wrestling. I ate as much as i wanted to just as long as there were no carbs. I've heard that this diet doesnt work for everyone but it certainly worked for me when nothing else did... GOOD LUCK, hope it works out for u. P.S. Im pretty sure that you're gonna have to do more than just sit ups to get your abs to show... I have some great ab workouts that i can tell you if you want. PM me

When the rain is blowing in your face and the whole world is on your case I would offer you a warm embrace to make you feel my love When evening shadows and the stars appear and there is no one there to dry your tears I could hold you for a million years To make you feel my love I know you haven't nade your mind up yet But I would never do you wrong I've known it from the moment that we met No doubt in my mind where you belong I'd go hungry, I'd go black and blue I'd go crawling down the avenue No, there's nothing I wouldn't do To make you feel my love The storms are raging on the rollin' sea Down the highway of regret The winds of change are blowing wild and free You ain't seen nothing like me yet Nothing that I wouldn't do Got to the ends of the earth for you I could make you happy, make your dreams come true To make you feel my love Who made this song?

Truly all i really want in a girl is one that will be my best friend... I know that sounds kinda cheezy but seriously if we can always have fun together and never have an awkward pause in a conversation, that would be a match made in heaven... Plus i know this is gonna sound REALLY shallow but quite honestly there has to be some kind of physical attraction between us... basically she has to be at least a little bit good looking... I would never date a person that let themselves go so that they weighed more than 200 lbs... I wouldnt leave somebody if they were to get that big after we were going out for a while but i certainly wouldnt just go up and approach them if i saw them in the mall or something and i knew nothing about them...

Now i know not everybody is me or even a little bit like me... but i am a very outgoing person and i dont have a problem with hangin out with people i dont know... also she probably would be really disappointed is you were to not go... I would go and just try to have a good time... I once had a math teacher that said "if you are bored, then you are boring"... Basically this means that if you go and dont have fun it is because you arent allowing yourself to have fun... Just go and allow yourself to have fun... Good Luck

Trixie you're only 13 so your boyfriend probably hasnt gone through puberty and thus probably isnt able to cum... I personally think its is weird that you 13 year olds are giving each other oral SEX and such... I havent had oral sex performed on me and i havent performed it on a girl yet but i just find it really odd how young you are and how sexually active you are at that age... just my 2 cents... Had nothing to do with the original post but o well...

Well im no poetry expert.. in fact i hate writing and reading and everything like that but i loved this poem... it really hit home for me... GREAT JOB!!!! keep it up i look forward to hearing more from you.

Well i know both how you feel and how ur guy friend feels... I am that guy friend right now(not literally that ONE but you get the idea)... I certainly hope that you can feel comfortable around him again because trust me when i say that it REALLY REALLY REALLY HURTS when you love somebody and then they start to drift away o so slowly after you tell them how you feel. Just dont think about it and dont bring it up and if hes smart he wont bring it up either... that helped me the when a girl that i was friends with told me how she felt and then we went on like normal... but for some reason i dont think girls can do that or else refuse to do that because now im the guy that likes the girl and told her and then i told her to forget that it happened if it was gonna make things weird between us and now it seems as if we are becoming less and less of friends...I HATE IT P.S. for any guy out there in the previously stated situation, DONT TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL UNLESS YOU KNOW FOR SURE SHE IS FEELING THE SAME WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I personally HATE telephone calls unless its just to ask if they want to get together... there is no eye contact or flirting really or anything in a phone conversation. It's not as fun to talk to her if it's not in person... plus it's WAY harder to work your charm on her on the telephone... Just what i think... Do what you feel is best

Well im a guy and i have the same problem but probably for different reasons... see im a rather large guy (6'0" 220lbs) and was a FAT kid all of my life so i have some insecurities and im still fat now, even though im very active and athletic and stuff and also have a lot less fat then i used to (only 7% body fat). but now i still feel like people think im fat or something even though i know they probably arent thinking about that at all. anyways if he says he likes you and you cuddle and stuff then he probably does really like you. It's normal to think you're not good enough for other people. but in order to get over that you need to make yourself how you want to be... if that means losing 10 lbs then go ahead and do it (IN A HEALTHY WAY, NO NEED TO BECOME A BULEMIC OR SOMETHING) If you are happy in your own skin then he will be even more attracted to you.

Well the thing is is that she knows that im there for her because i've told her this (im a step ahead of ya)... I dunno what else to do? any suggestions? Any way i could get her to tell me how she feels without actually asking (cuz that hasn't worked)?

well its been like this for about 2 weeks but today she finally said hi to me instead of the other way around but it was right before our teacher handed out our semester tests so we couldnt really have a conversation or anything. I know her life is very stressful being from another country and nothing is the same for her and also there are some troubles with the government and her family as far as adoption goes... But she used to always tell me about these things and lately when i ask her what's wrong she just keeps the frown on her face and shakes her head... It really isnt good because she seems like she is about ready to cry and then she just walks right by me... It makes me feel helpless and makes me want to cry because i used to be able to help her with ALL of her problems and now she doesnt even tell what the problems are... i really care for her and how she feels and I think i actually LOVE her... Im not the kind of guy that just throws that word around either... actually i've never told anyone that i loved them or even really thought it... I need some help because i would really like to mend things up between us.

well some of you that have already read some of my posts know what my situation is... Anyways, There is this girl that i like and we are/were best friends (not sure anymore)... there are two other girls that are attracted to me, that im not attracted to, and i think their flirting with me and hangin all over me may have something to do with the other girl drifting away from me. Well we used to be sooooooo close and would tell each other everything and we would walk to classes together and i would have my arm around her and her arm around me or we would just walk close and talk to each other. we have lockers right next to each other so it wasnt hard to find each other between classes. Well tomorrow is our last day of school and lately she wont even say hi to me unless i say it to her first... Even when i do strike up a conversation and ask how she is she will just say fine instead of telling me what's goin on in her life like she used to... Why is she acting this way? i dont think i did anything to her to hurt her feelings or anything. I dont know why she's driftin away but i wonder if maybe im pushin things between us when i say hi to her whenever i see her and no matter what she is doing... I dunno what the problem is... Could she be getting bored with being around me? Should i just give her space and wait until next school year? Or should i ask her to go out with me or just hang out as friends? even if i can't be her bf all i really want is to at least be her friend like i was when we had a good relationship before.. The trouble with waiting until next year is that she MIGHT not be coming back next year. She hates most of the people in our school. WHAT SHOULD I DO? WHAT IS MAKING HER FEEL THIS WAY OR ACT THIS WAY? I would hang out with her throughout the summer but we both have jobs and i have baseball and we are both really busy so i wont be able to see her much if at all this summer... but im sure if we really wanted to we could make it work out so we could hang out. Please help me!