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I am entering month 8th and I can still hide it. It is winter now and wearing a pullover or a larger clothes does the trick! Good luck!

I recently went to two weddings. Both were of close friends of mine. Both couples had requested that I do not go plus one. It might seem strange to you, but in their case they had limited finances. So ...I went alone. However, I did tell my boyfirnd why he cannot come. He did overreact a bit, but understood. Ultimately, it is about how you feel. Just ask him if he can bring a guest and if yes, whether he would consider bringing you.

Thanks for your replies, I agree with them. He has been gone now for a cople of days. Before he went I confronted him and we had a long talk. It is time for me to reassess the situation... Thanks a lot! Good luck

I gues I need to vent. My boyfriend of three years is going on a hike for a week with his exgirlfriend and two of her friends. I am not invited to go along. I am not jealous of her. However, he did not tell me about the hike until yesterday amd he is leaving tomorrow. I feel left out. He claims that he did not tell me because he was concerned that we will have an argument?!!! I am seriously annoyed and worried about such a claim and his behaviour. Do you think that that's OK behaviour? I do not want to appear controlling, but I do feel left out. Thanks

Thanks for the input... It seems that I myself know it. But I keep finding excuses for him. I do care for the guy. I do not want to break up with him, but it seems once my time here is over, breaking up might be my only option. He claims that his reasons are that his job is temporary (true), he wants to move to my city and wants a better job. However, I guess he does not love me enough. Have you had your boyfriends move for you?

I recently moved temporarily to be with my ldb for a few months. It is great and stressful at the same time. We had talked about it and decided that we want to be together and he will be applying for jobs in my area and move with me. This was decided and two years ago. Whenever we get back on the topic (I initiate it he confirms that that is what he wants). He has sent one application only (?!) which was not successful. He sent the application after the deadline for submitting applications had passed. Now everytime I mention applying he refers back to the application and tells me that he is doing something about it and that I do not trust him to apply. I am frustrated. He does not want me to move to his city because my job is better and pays twice as his (his reasons). I would also not leave my job and just up and go. But recently his company offered him placement in another city and he is keen on going. I am frustrated because he would not apply to be near me. What shall I do? We have talked about it many times. Does talking again and again help?

He may just need time. I was badly hurt by a guy to whom I said that I loved him for the first time. It happened when I was in high school, but ever since I have had a really hard time saying "I love you" to my boyfriends, even if I do love them. I feel blocked and the words just do not come easy. It took me a year and a half to say "I love you" to my current boyfriend. Give him the credit of being an honest guy. It may be linked to his past and not only to his feelings about you. Good luck!

Hi, I used to be exactly like that. I still am in certain situations. Once I was afraid that I would suffer blood poisoning because there were only public WC available for 36 hours (I was travelling). I partially got over it. It just happened (not before I turned 23...). They say: once you start you do not stop. Good luck!

Hi, it is probably not a comfort but I would not let it become an issue. Men like variety and if that is what turns him on it is best to accept it. I once bought an FHM magazine for my boyfirend and he vas really thrilled. Remember, these girls are not a competition for you. Pron and erotic magazines exist because men need and use them. Be smart, use them to enchance your sex life, not to hinder it! Good luck!

I felt compelled to reply. I do not think you have a reason to worry. It is often the case that guys want to look tougher than they are and they often discuss sexy girls. It is just something that one says and it does not mean anything. Its a way of recognizing that there are sexy girls around. But, hey, he has chosen to be with you and if he wished so much to be single, he would have been by now. Do not worry!

I think that if he has not been in the situation, there is no reason to be upset. Everything might happen, but you are not married, he has not cheated. Why worry? Let it go, may be he thinks that he will never cheat, that's why he made such a claim.

Dear all, I would appreciate your advice... I have been with my boyfriend for almost two year now. We have a long distance relationship. It has not been easy but we have tried to visit each other as much as possible and have grown closer. Recently, however, I have been feeling very lonely as I moved to a new city for a new job and I feel the need to settle down, to have a family, to be with someone. My boyfriend will not move to my city and country at the moment and I cannot move to his. He plans for us to be separated for another three to four years until his contract expires and wants to maintain the relationship as it is. I however feel that I want to be with someone who is closer and feel that will not be able to deal with the separation. So I wonder: shall I break up with him now? I love him, but I find it increasingly hard to cope. What do you think?