Rysen

Thank you for replying. One of my biggest problems is I tend to overanalyze everything. I have an anxiety disorder, which I was on medication for, for awhile, and although it is not nearly as bad as it was when I was first starting to get my panic attacks, there are still a lot of traits that come along with it that I have to deal with. I'm doing my best, and it is getting better as time goes by. But I agree. I think things are looking good for us, but at the same time I'm still just not sure about what I should do. If she wants me to try and contact her more, etc. But I think you're right in that I should just let her keep contacting to me and try and make her feel comfortable about it. It's just like that whole topic that Mix Maxster started awhile ago about knowing if they want to come back, if you should make the move, or if you should wait for them to, if it is the case that they do want to come back. I remember when her and I first started seeing each other, she told me she had this dream that we broke up, but in her dream she wanted to get back together with me and was hinting at it, unfortunately, she said, that I wasn't "getting it", so we didn't end up back together. For whatever reason that dream has stuck with me for a very long time, and I think about it often now, as it makes me wonder if because of the way she's been acting around me lately, I should be taking it as a hint to do or say something. I know that it was just a dream, but I almost take it as a way of her telling me that even if she wanted to come back she might be too afraid to approach me about it. .....wow I really do over analyze everything Well, then I shall take your advice and just go with the flow. Take everything for what it is, and hope for the best. Thanks again for replying. Cheers, Rysen

Hi everyone. For those that have followed my past posts you'll know that I was to be my ex's date at her graduation banquet. We broke up almost three months ago now, and things have been iffy between us. I won't go into it as I'm sure this post'll be long enough without an intro, so I really just felt like writing about what happened last night as I'm so confused and don't know what to think anymore. Two nights before we talked on MSN for awhile, and had a great conversation. The next day she called me and we talked for another hour. Again, having a great conversation. I arrived at her house yesterday and met up with her, her best friend, and her best friends date. She looked absolutely amazing all dressed up...I was blown away. She's a natural beauty anyway, and just...she just looked amazing. She hugged me and told me how good I looked and things were great. We arrived together, and she was so excited about the whole banquet. We were very close all night, and found ourselves walking alone together a lot. The view outside was beautiful, we were right along the ocean and you could see the city lights accross the harbour. At that point she put her head on my shoulder and we just stood there for a few minutes. Neither of us said a whole to each other when we were alone. I just didn't know what to say I guess. We didn't dance until the very end, where they played a slow song. I just walked up to her and she threw her arms around me, held me close and we didn't say anything. Just danced. After, she ran off crying. I went after her, but her best-friend stopped me, saying that it might be better if she went instead so I said, okay. Her best-friend's date said that it might just be some thing to do with her finishing high school, and feeling nostalgic. Don't think too much into it, just play it cool, and pretend like everything is okay. I agreed. On the bus ride back, I asked her if she was okay, and she said she was fine, so I just left it at that. I didn't want to pressure her into talking to me. After, her Mom met us at her school to take us to her best-friend's house. We sat in the back of her van, and she grabbed a pillow that was in the back, placed it on my lap, and fell asleep on me. We arrived at her best-friend's house, before her best-friend did and she decided that she wanted to have a shower, so I talked with her best-friends Mom for awhile. After she got out of the shower (her best-friend still hadn't made it home yet) we sat beside each other, really close, and didn't really say too much. She had gotton into pajamas (as she was spending that night), and was cold, so she got even closer to me for warmth. I guess we were pretty much cuddling. In any event, her best-friend showed up, with her date, and we just sat around talking for awhile, until eventually the girls decided that they were tired and wanted to go to sleep. We tucked them in, and she said to me "Thank you so much for taking me tonight. It really meant a lot." So I replied "It was my honour ****. It wasn't like you couldn't have found another date, thank you for asking me." She gave me a big hug, and then said good night. Her best-friend's date and I left together (he took me to my house to grab my car as we were going to an after party). On the way he said "I have no idea how you did that. If that were me, I would've had to leave hours ago." I just laughed and said "I don't know how I did it either. I guess I just want her to see how much I care about her." So I went to the party, got a little tipsy and really didn't think too much about the night, just concentrated on having a great time with some friends. It was fun. But today, I'm confused. Today, I don't know what I should do. I didn't talk to her at all today, and I really have no idea what's going to happen now. I talked to her best-friend, who said that she was "Sorry that breaking up is so complicated" which for whatever reason made me feel like things aren't going to work out between my ex and I, despite how much chemistry is there. I guess it's because I just assumed that they would've talked about what happened that night, after I left. So I guess that comment just made me feel like nothing was said that I would've hoped was said. (Although I know her friend would never tell me anything, anyway, and I would never ask). I just...wish she would talk to me about what she's feeling, but she's not the type to, and I know that if I ask her, it's just going to push her away. Any insight, or comments/suggestions would be greatly appreciated, as I just really don't know what I should be thinking or doing right now....thanks for listening everyone.

Hey twiggy, you're definitely not alone. I moved a lot when I was younger (father was in the navy), and because of that every time I made new friends it wasn't long before I would have to lose them again. Finally, I decided that I was tired of meeting new people only to be upset again when I had to leave them, so I became shy and insecure, never trying to make new friends. This made me extremely lonely, and I often wanted to find someone to make it go away. (like a girlfriend). I only have one person I will call a true friend today, and he some times stops by to get me out of the house, but when he does I find myself making up excuses as to why I shouldn't go. So, I often just stay home all day, keep to myself, and do whatever I can to pass the time. I do have a job, but even there, I work by myself, and only talk with my boss once a day, for a short time, so it's hard to make friends at work too. In any event, I had an epiphany of sorts recently, where I realised that I was tired of being alone. I'm not going to move anymore, because I'm 20 and don't have to so why not go out and have fun while I'm still young? Now, whenever I"m asked to go anywhere, even if I don't want to, I force myself to go and I usually have a great time. And with this new found positivity, people are more attracted to me, and enjoy being around me, so although I still only have one true friend, I'm meeting new people and starting new friendships. Some may not last, but there's always the chance of them becoming great. You're only 16, and I'm only 20. We both have a lot of life to live, and along that way we're bound to meet some great people. Unfortunately they're not just going to walk into our house and introduce themselves. We gotta go out there and find them. You've got a good heart, and I see you have tried to make new friends before, and perhaps that didn't work out, but that's no reason to stop trying. I see in your profile that you play guitar. I've been playing guitar since I was 9 years old. I really sucked when I first started. But by the time I was 12 all I wanted to do was play Master of Puppets by Metallica, but I mean, I had just started getting into metal then, and didn't have much experience playing it. But I practised, and I worked hard, and eventually I got my skills up to par, to the point where I could actually keep up to the CD. It took a long time, but in the end it was definitely worth it. Basically, don't give up. It can't always be raining, and so we just have to keep looking forward knowing that we are great people who wll find others that we can relate to, and those that will appreciate us for who we are. Cheers, Rysen

Very beautiful song. Thanks for sharing! I'm a musician, and often resorted to singing/writing a song to express how I feel. For mine and my ex's one year anniversary, I wrote a song about her, and sang it to her. Music has always been my number one passion, and I find that in a lot of situations a good song can express so much without having to worry about stumbling over your words, etc. etc.

My situtation is a bit complicated with this. My ex and I were together for a year and 4 months, and have now been apart for almost 3 months. The complication is that I work for her father, who just so happens to have his business on the same property as his home. Most of the time it's okay, because she is at school all day, and usually by the time I'm finished work she's not home. (I work part time from 10am-3pm). However, she's been coming home earlier than usual recently so I bump into her all the time. Today, for example, there weren't any classes, so she was there all day. She came out and said hi, and then left to visit a friend. She'll be there far more often when summer hits as well. She has expressed since the beginning of the break up that she wanted to be friends, that I was her best-friend and she never wanted to lose me. At first I thought that this could work out, but I knew, just like so many of you, that I had a hidden agenda, which was to get her back. I think a part of me is still thinking that if I remain her friend, and spend time with her, creating positive moments, that she'll maybe fall for me again....but, I know that that is probably not going to happen. I find the most difficult part of it all is the "hot and cold" feelings she seems to show me. Some times she's really happy to see me, other times she's cold and distant. Some times she'll give me a big hug before we part, and other times she'll just leave. So it's really frustrating at times because it's hard for me to know what she's feeling. We spent the day together last Sunday and went shopping. After, her parents invited me to stay for dinner (I'm very close with both of them) and she asked if I would like to watch a movie. She sat right next to me, very close, and she even fell asleep and put her feet under my leg (something she used to do when we were together to keep them warm). Then, for the next few days, she becomes distant, or gives me her fake "Happy-tone", as I call it. (This is the voice she uses when she's shy/around new people/nerouvs. It's higher than her normal tone, and she acts incredibly polite, but if you ever got to know her well you'd realise that she is a polite girl, but you just know that really isn't her true self.) In any event, I'm not really sure *what* we are. We aren't friends, because we don't act like friends around each other, and were definitely not together anymore. So we're somewhere in the middle. I think that my conclusion is to agree with those that said it takes a long time before one can truly be just friends with their ex. It seems that becuase our break-up is still fairly recent, we're just not sure how to act around each other. So if I could, I think the best option would be to cut contact with her, but as I said, it's very difficult to institute NC when the chance of running into her is so incredibly high. But the bottom line is that yeah, I agree. It takes a very long time to be just friends with an ex, especially if you've spent a significant amount of time together, and impossible if you still harbour feelings for them.

Thank you very very much. I really appreciate the advice and have taken it to heart. Thanks again.

I agree with everyone that has all ready posted. A few years ago there was this girl that I really liked. She was beautiful and we got along really well. I had so many awesome talks with her that, I just fell for her more and more. I thought she had an interest in me, she gave me a lot of signals, and so I finally decided that I should confront her about how I felt. A part of her really wanted to be with me. Appearntly she almost said "yes", but, because of circumstances (ie. too busy with school, etc) she decided it wasn't in her best interest to be in a relationship at that time. Despite not having what I had wanted to happen, I felt a heck of a lot better just letting it out. And then about a month or so later I met my (now ex) girlfriend who I shared a wonderful year and a half with. Because I had gotton my feelings out, and found out that nothing more would come of it, I was able to catch an opportunity I would have other wise missed out on. As someone all ready said, you only live once, so make the most of it! Oh and if you're wondering, to this day that girl is one of the greatest friends I have. So even though what I had originally wanted to happen, didn't, I was still better off just letting her know how I felt. You never know until you try. Good luck!

Hey Dragon Girl, Thanks for replying and sharing your situation. I've actually read quite a few of your posts. Basically after I found this site, I've tried my best to find situations I can relate to, and apply whatever wisdom has been given to people on here. I can say I definitely can relate to yours. Sucks doesn't it? I tried the letter writing thing, although mine was sent at 2 weeks after the break up and it was an e-mail. My message didn't get through to her as she told me the letter was "overwhelming", but I know that it was at the wrong point to send a letter anyway. I know I wrote some things that, after looking at advice on this site, made it seem like I was trying to pressure her into talking to me, giving me another chance etc. Even though that wasn't my intention, on the outside, I think a part of me was trying to do just that. But again just like you, I'm glad she didn't take me back because I would have never learned what it is I know now. She responded to my letter though, and just basically told me she was sorry for hurting me, and that if it was any solace she was suffering too. I took no solace in that though, I just wanted both of us to be happy. I can't say for sure why your ex hasn't talked about the letter. I guess this is where patience is key, (I know how much it sucks) but it's definitely best that he doesn't feel pressured into talking about it. I'm still waiting for my ex to talk to me about the reasons she felt we couldn't fix things, but again, it's got to be on her terms either wise I'll just end up pushing her away. All I can say is hang in there. It's tough some times, but in the end it's worth it, regardless of what happens, because we can take what we have learned from our mistakes in the past and apply them to whoever is lucky enough to be with us in the future.

Also! Is it okay to compliment your ex on their appearance? She's a very pretty girl (but has low self-esteem in the compartment, I really have no idea why) and she asked me to remind her to pick up some make-up. I told her that she "didn't need it" and then after wondered if I should've said that. She didn't seem to mind, but didn't say thanks or anything either, so...yeah. Just wondering.

Hey all, I won't go into major details of my break-up it's somewhere else on here, so I'll just say that we were together for almost a year and a half, and she broke up with me about 2 months ago now. Her reasons were she was feeling pressured and stressed but that overall she was unhappy. I didn't treat her poorly, but I am guilty of smothering her which I think was a big factor in that she was trying always wanting to please me, but because of school and other things that kept her really busy, she was unable to do the things she would have liked. However, because of the way I react (I get really defensive, or rather used to) she was afraid to talk to me about things that were bothering her. I think she bottled it up so much that just one day EVERYTHING hit her, and it was too much. It's not that I was never willing to communicate with her, I am always one to talk about things and try to encourage people do so, but I guess I never took criticism that well, and consequently would get really scared if there ever was a problem, I was worried that she would break up with me, etc. etc. I was extremely insecure, but I have worked on myself, and I have come to think better of myself as a person. And I really have a lot of you to thank from reading your posts and the advice given. In the past 2 months I have done a lot of soul searching, and I feel far more confident in myself than I have before. But on to my problem: So, if you've read my other posts you'll know that I am taking my ex to her graduation banquet at the end of this month. We've been on really shaky terms, and because it's an incredibly special night, one that should be unforgetable, I really felt it was a good idea to try and get on better terms with her. I really don't want to ruin the evening just because things are "weird" or whatever between us. Before I came to this epiphany though, my ex had made a few attempts to contact me. One on my birthday, where she told me she missed me, and one where she called from a cell phone on her way home from a school trip (The same trip I met her on 2 years earlier), which came as a big surprise. Both conversations went extremely well and weren't awkward in the least. Recently her and I have actually gotton together. We went to the movies one night, and then picked out our corsage and butineer's for the banquet. Both times we had a wonderful time and it was very comfortable, very positive, and no talk of the relationship from either side. In any event, after that, contact went back down to very little (actually none). Until recently she got a new job and was very excited about it, so she sent me an e-mail just saying she got a job and where it was. That was it. So the night I got it I had been out with a few friends celebrating a birthday and was a little tipsy, I decided to hold off replying until the next day. I congratulated her, and showed my genuine interest in what she's going to be doing, etc, but basically I didn't hear from her again for a couple of days. She came on MSN a couple of times, but I didn't message her and she didn't message me. Some times she messages me online, but not very often....in any event I've been really confused as to what she's been feeling, or if she's avoiding me, or...if she herself is confused because we'll have a wonderful time then I won't hear from her for awhile. Before I go on though, I should point out that she is NOT the type of person that would string me along intentionally. She is a very sweet girl who has always been extremely wonderful to me and her friends. I just know that right now things are kind of iffy between us, so I have done my best to understand where she's coming from and give her the space that she seems to want at times. In any event, I had to call her Father tonight and ask about working for him. He offered me a job for the summer, and because I really need the money, I decided to accept. So I called and what I feared might happen, happened, she answered. So we talked for a little bit and then she asked why I called, if I just wanted to talk to her or something, and I said "well, I actually called to talk to your dad about working for him" to which to she replied with a very disappointed "Oh....", but I then said I was in no hurry and if she wanted to talk I'd be more than happy to, to which she got very excited and started talking about all these things she wanted to do for her dress/hair, etc. for the banquet. She then had this brilliant idea of going to a city that's about a 45 minute drive from here, tomorrow, to go shopping. She asked if I wanted to go with her. So I said sure. Which made her extremely happy as well. As far as I know there is no one else in the picture, but I am very confused about these "hot and cold" feelings she's been showing me. I'm just wondering...is this normal behaviour? I mean, when we talk or get together I never mention the relationship, and it's never awkward. We're both comfertable and have a lot of fun, yet, after she seems to not want to talk to me for awhile. Yet, when I called she was really happy to hear from me (Even if it wasn't on purpose), and now we're even getting together tomorrow to go shopping. So I guess I'm just wondering what people might think that she is thinking. I know the only way to know for sure is to out and out ask her, but I'm trying to take myJoy's advice and continue creating these positive moments between us. I think bringing anything up relationship-wise would just make us go back to the start, and I have to admit it's taken awhile to get to where we are now. Any ideas guys of why the hot and cold? I think I mentioned it but she is the one who broke up with me, and I'm just wondering if maybe seeing me happy and being the "great guy" she fell in love with again, is making her have doubts? I don't want to read too much into this, and really, I know that if things don't work out that I can definitely be content with having my best-friend back, but....her behaviour really confuses me some times, as I really have no idea what she's thinking or feeling about me these days. Thanks to all who read this.

Hey Mix, I just wanted to extend my support. You gave me a pretty great reply when I was in need, and although I don't feel I'll be able to do the same for you, I just want to let you know that I feel for you. My situation seems to be getting worse as well, this whole friends thing. We'll get together, have a wonderful time, and then I don't hear from her for awhile. But, it just saddens me every time we do talk or get together, which makes me realise that I am not yet ready to be her friend either. I promised her I would take her to her Graduation banquet, I never break a promise (something my family has always held dear), and I will. But after that, I think that I too will finally say good-bye. I don't know if I'll have the guts to do it the way you did but...I know that something must be done if I am to move on. I love her too, just like you, and the fact that all she seems to want is my friendship makes it so much harder. You gave it your best man, I've read a lot of your posts and I know that she was really lucky to have someone care about her the way you do. This post definitely hit a spot in me, and your courage is extremely admirable. I wish you the best of luck in the future, and know that things will work out for you in the end. Take care, Rysen

Yeah, I understand exactly what you're saying. I have the same fear as you do. I mentioned this in my reply to the reply you gave me, giving you my take on the only thing I've been able to come up with to do about it, but I'll mention it again for those that didn't read my post. In my post I explained that I am extremely good friends with my ex's best-friend. She, the best friend, as always called me the big brother she never had, so we have a pretty close relationship. Now, I would never EVER ask the best friend to try and change my ex's mind, or talk to my ex for me, or even ask information about what my ex has been up to as I've always felt it would incredibly immature, and also completely unfair to the best-friend, as I never want her to feel that she is stuck in the middle. In fact, I always try and make it a point to never bring up my ex at all, whenever we speak. Since the break up, anyway. However, I did ask her that if for any reason my ex felt like talking to me about us, our relationship, or anything, but was too afraid to, and mentioned this to the best friend, if she would please encourage my ex to do so, as I am always open to talk/listen about anything my ex might have to say, regardless of how long it has been. Not push her to talk to me, but rather, try and make her feel more comfortable about the idea, but *only* if my ex had expressed a want in doing so. One of my biggest problems though, is that I over-analyze far too much. This is in my nature as my family has a long running string of anxiety disorders which I was on medication for, for a long time. In any event, I think it's best to try and not over-analyze your situation, or keep wondering if her doing something means she wants to get back together. It's difficult, I know, as you have hope that she would want to, but I've kind of noticed that both sexes, tend to give off mixed signals when they're with their ex out of comfortablity. That's not to say that they mean to throw those signals at you, or that they're trying to keep you on a string, it could just mean that they comfortable and, out of habit, just do things. Mine stays very close to me, grabs my knee and tickles me, and other things that she would do when we were still together, but then I don't hear from her for a few days. So, I've come to the conclusion that she probably does these things because that's how we used to act all the time when we were together. I really don't think that it's because she wants to get back together with me. It's probably best to think that if she really wanted to get back together that she would talk to you about it and make the first move. As a lot of people have said, if you think too much of these subtle hints (if they're hints at all) you might just be setting yourself up for another bout of hurting, as I have done myself. DragonGirl I'm in your shoes right now! It's very frustrating at times because some days she'll talk to me all night, then she'll disappear for a few days, or she'll be online and not talk to me at all. But then when we get together, it's like we were never apart, but then, again, I don't hear from her for days. I would out and out ask her what's up, but, we've made a lot of progress in the past two months and I really don't want to mess anything up by pushing her away. I guess, the only thing we can do, as you said, is take it one day at a time despite how hard it is. Good luck to you and everyone else who is going through this!

I just wanted to add on to my reply as I didn't have much time when I posted the last one. I think you have the right attitude in thinking that she has a lot of decisions and life to go through, and perhaps just staying true to her will make her realise how much you care about her. I noticed your age on your post, and it makes me realise how much, in some aspects, it sucks to fall in love at our age. I some times wish that I had met my ex later on in life when we both had gone through our experiences, and lived a lot more, so that our "wonder/freedom" phase would be done with. But, it is true that it is from these experiences that we grow as people, and learn from our mistakes. I am very thankful to have been with her for as long as I was, and just for the fact we were together at all because we had an amazing relationship. This is why it's so hard to accept some times, that it's over, because it really came as a shock when she asked me for an intial "break" 2 weeks before our breakup. I really didn't see anything wrong (that wasn't fixable) before the break and unfortunately even now can only look back and speculate what it was that made her unhappy. She just wouldn't tell me, as I said in my first post, despite how hard I tried. (Right now I don't want to bring it up again, as we're finally on good talking terms, and are hanging out. So I'd really hate to mess that up.) I also understand what you mean about how to know if they DO want us back. The idea that she would want to be with me again, but be too shy to talk to me about it, is a fear of mine. I could understand why she would feel this way too. I mean, they realise how much they've hurt you, and know that you probably don't ever want to feel that way again, so they might fear you rejecting them. On the other hand, the dumpee wouldn't want to ask her/him about getting back together, in fear that they too might be rejected, and then you're back at square one. So, I kind of like to hold on to this hope that if it was meant to be, then no matter how afraid they were, if they truly loved you, then they would express their feelings despite not knowing what your reaction may be. But, at the same time this might not be the case, so in my situation what I have done is spoken to her best-friend (who is also a very close friend of mine) and just asked the friend to please encourage my ex if she was ever wanting to talk to me about anything regarding us and our relationship, etc. to do so, as I am more than willing to listen and talk through anything that she might have to say. I'd never ask her to speak to my ex for me, or go try and make her change her mind, etc, but just asking her to make my ex feel more comfortable about talking to me about our situation/where things are going, if she ever felt like she wanted to, I feel, isn't a bad idea. I've been spent a great deal tonight at these forums reading through a lot of old back logs and I feel a lot better tonight. Maybe having finally let a lot of things out has helped. Thanks to all who read, and good luck in your own situations.

Thanks a lot for your reply Mix Maxster, and I completely agree with you on all points. Perhaps right now her and I together doesn't seem like the best idea to her, but as you said, that could change some day down the road. I will still continue being a great friend to her, and do it without any expectations. I will hope for the best, but if not, as you said, at least I've still got a great friend out of it all. Thanks again, for you reply. I really appreciate the advice. Cheers, -Rysen

Hi everyone. First all I've gotta say how awesome all of you are. My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me about two months ago now, and reading people's stories and the advice that goes along with them, has really helped dealing with it. So before I ask for advice, I just want to tell you all how wonderful it is to see the great support given by all of the members here. As I mentioned above my girlfriend broke up with me about two months ago now, and never really gave any reasons. Just that she was unhappy, that I was an amazing guy that was very good to her, but there was something about the relationship that was making her unhappy. Despite my efforts to try and get her to talk to me about what she was feeling, she would not, and I decided to back off as I realised the more I asked the more pressure I was putting on her. She is in her final year of high school and I am currently taking a year off of school before I enter university next year. I should mention that she broke up with me over the phone and at the end of the conversation told me that she loved me. However, we had planned on attending her graduation banquet together, so when she broke up with me I asked her what was happening with that. (Tickets were all ready paid for, had my tux rented, etc.) It's at the end of this month (May). She asked me if I would still go with her, and I think the thought of her being with someone else scared me, so I agreed without really thinking it through. I did the usual, begging, telling her that I miss her, etc. and just everything that you're not supposed to do. After finding this site, I decided that the best thing to do was to give her space, and not contact her for awhile. So we went two weeks without speaking to each other, until I had to get some information on the banquet. It took a couple of days, but she replied saying she was sorry that she didn't reply earlier, that she really wanted to, but was afraid. She didn't know why she was afraid, so I replied telling her I understand and didn't push her to talk to me (Like I would have in the past.) In any event, things were pretty shaky between us because I still wanted her and just didn't think being friends was going to work. I began to get nervous about the idea of this graduation banquet and going as her date if we were on such bad terms. It's a very special night for the person celebrating it, and I really don't want to have it ruined for because of me. So I suggested that we try and get on better terms. (This was last weekend). She invited me to a movie last Tuesday and that was the first time I had seen her in about 2 months. The awkwardness wasn't there as I feared, it actually was really nice to see her. It was just her and I, and there was some flirting between us. (Ie. she grabbed my knee a couple of times, tickled me at points, and during an embarrasing part in the movie burried her head into my shoulder.) It really felt like old times, and I had a really great night. So we've been talking off and on, and I've been feeling pretty good about things. I think maybe I was getting my hopes up and expecting too much. But last night she asked me if I wanted to go pick out our corsage and bootineers together today. She picked me up this morning, and again, we had a wonderful day. Her body language was again, sticking pretty close to me, grabbing my knee in the car, play-fighting/pushing/etc. After she dropped me off, I became sad though, because I really miss her and all the things we used to do together. The worst was yet to come though. When I got home, I spoke to a mutual friend of ours, who told me that she had said that she had "finally stopped hurting over [me]" but was hurting again because she's become attracted to this other guy (I have no idea who it is), who appearntly has no interest in that regard towards her. I know that I should probably not think the worst until she's told me herself, and I DO want her to be happy, but I still find myself still upset at this because of the past couple of days we have spent together. Anyway! My problem is....we're talking a lot more now, and when we get together I have the best of times, and I know she is both comfertable and having fun. When I'm around her it's not an issue of not being able to control my emotions, because I find no....want, I guess, to express how much I miss her and how much I would like her back, maybe for the fact that I understand how much more it would damage any chances, rather than improve them. Or it could just be that when I'm with her all my problems tend to go away....I can honestly say I've never felt that way about anyone before. I guess what I'm trying to ask is...am I in a good situation here? Where we're friends, and having fun with each other, no awkwardness, etc. Is there a chance that because of this she might rethink her decision to break up with me? I know I made a lot of mistakes in our relationship by being far too clingy, and I think that that was probably the thing that made her leave, but I understand that now, and know that if given the chance I would prove to her that I wouldn't be as dependant on her. I'm just not really sure how to prove that to her now. Sorry for the length, I tend to get over-zealous with my writing, and I know that I jumped all over the place, but I know that you all know what I'm going through, so I'm hopeing you understand. I also felt that a bit of a backstory was probably appropriate. Anyway, thanks to all who read and/or reply.