Shyness_overwhelms

heh.... well...... i just cant do it.... it seems i really am shy around this girl........but i just cant do it for some reason.... her work looks pretty busy everytime i walk by, so i cant even talk to her at work.... she gets off work before me and comes into the place i work to get a few things (drinks, food.......i work at a mall deli/restaurant)....she comes in and we talk a bit..... like today.... she came in and grabbed what she came for.....we said hi and talked about work and school..... it was THE PERECT TIME to ask her out, but i just couldnt do it for some reason!! WHY? WHY CANT I DO IT??? I HAVE PERFECT CHANCES AND I EVEN KNOW HOW TO ASK HER OUT, BUT IM JUST TOO FRIGGIN DAMN SHY!! there is not much that you can tell me of how to overcome my shyness though..... and that sucks.....!! we talk lots, but it is never, what are you doing tonite or anything like that..... its always about school and work.... the business chat....... do u think i could actually ask her that question???? lets do some role playing (i walk into class.... i sit down and she then walks in) ME- hi HER- hi ME- how are you? HER- pretty godd and you? ME- not too bad (this usually happeneds) **(the person who sits beside her walks in)** ME- *@#^ (silently) ME- so, you finish your homework? HER- no, did you? ME- me? ha.... not likely HER- *laughs* ME- ....ya (then she turns around and looks toward the teacher) ... .... ..... ...... ....... now what should i do?? should i wait until the end of class or ask her what she is doing tonite now?? (*all of that role playing is made from actual words that came out of our mouths*) but, ya.... her name is Genvieve or Gen for short,.... what could i do??? thnx again in advance........[/b]

will do..... well.... ill at least try..... thnx for the help

hi there..... been a while since i posted something.... i know i help out people in situations like this one, but this time its happening to me and i would like to hear from you people.... you see.... this one girl is sort of new and she already has quite a few friends.... me being one of them.........k .... i really like this one......she really is beautiful in every aspect...... she also knows that i like her..... supposively......but... theres another one of her friends that is trying to go after her.........she does pay more attention to him than me....... but thats only because he has to sit right behind her.... we talk all the time.... we both work in the mall and we talk at work every once in a while....(we dont work at the same place) as i said... she is just ....beautiful..... what should i do????im not shy around her or anything...... so.... ya....thnx in advance.....i hope you can make out what i typed....cuz i sure cant......heh

heh.... well.... just actually be as cool as you can be.... dont try to be overproud of yourself and to be too nervous.... i know its the weekend now, but just phone her up and just say something like "hey, hows it going? so.. would you like to go to the dance with me?" you know.... the basics... you cant beat an original!! go to it.... (you said before that you have their numbers so phone her) GOOD LUCK AGAIN

go for it!!! ask her..... what do you have to lose?! nothing....... but just do it... if she says no, then ull know for real if she does like u or not.... and itll show her that u like her...... so,..... ya.... do it....

dont you worry anything.... u definitely will.... and good job so far on the not thinking about her thing!! ur really taking it pretty dam good!! talk to ya later

no problem....see... i had the same thing going on as well... a while ago... and when your not looking for anybody .... it bacomes alot faster than you think... dont give up..... just go along and be cool.... the thing between u and me is that.... my friend going after the girl i liked... was really going after the girl i liked.... and he got her... but... im a better person from it.... good luck

the thing is..... you say that your not going to find someone else like this again, but to actually tell you the truth (and this isnt BS) ther are women out there that are most likely extremely better!! you WILL meet someone perfect to your standards. frankly.. i dont even think even IF you told them... i dont think neone will even care that you have been in rehab twice.... you just have to keep it on a low down and stop.... take a few deep breaths and just go on with your life... from your story... (this is my thought) i think that your friend is trying to keep you two away from eachother... he might want her for himself... you never know! even though he has a girlfriend.....OR... just as you said... he could be protecting you... when he was talking to her... he could have found out something really horrible that could burn you to the ground..... if you stop looking all around for her and just carry on with your life before you met her you will most likely see her walkin the halls.... then you have your chance to talk to her.... VERY CALMLY ask her "so, where have you been all this time" or something like that....... just be yourself and act like none of this ever happened..... I KNOW, I KNOW..... it IS hard to get rid of something like that, but.... its only puppy love..... i am not trying to change anything you do.... i am just giving you suggestions.... i am sorry IF i make you mad at me or anything loike that, but this is just my view on things.......

ok ppl... like she would even ... for no reason walk up to him and grab his crotch!!! ....lol.... im just kidding... you are only 14... go and be yourself... give a few pokes here and there and just.... be yourself... if he doesnt like you for who u are... then... u know........

well.... it looks like u got a shy one on ur hands.... its pretty simple. he is probably really shy seeing ur his 1st. it is different between guys and girls. guys can be all comfiterable one second and the next they are hiding in a corner. girls mostly give it all out from the start and it doesnt stop. this guy could be doing this for attention. or something couldve happened.... a friend ofmine went through this same thing ..... she asked a guy out, he said yes,...they were all happt but one day he came to school and he wasnt talking to her anymore. she tried and tried, but nothing.... finally a few weeks later he finally went up to her an appologized..... after that he was all over her..... its all in how u look at it.... i can understand y u and ur parents are mad..... he is treating u like trash...u have every mean to be mad.... but there are many possibilities as to why he is acting like this.....he could be craving attention, or some thing happened or he could have even hit puberty..... we dont know.... just give it some time.... but if u just stop liking him then i would try to ease him out of the relationship... that way u could keep friendship going but not be more than just friends..... i hope that helps you.........

hi... ok... first of all... you have guts.... ur outgoing to the max..... i would never be able to do what you did in the pool... i am shy as hell.... but anyways.... by the way this girl acts.... it definitely sounds like she is interested... she feels comfiterable around you and vise-versa with you.... come monday... just act yourself... to ask her out... it will all come to you... you do not need any help what so ever.....youll go up to her and just speak your mind and it will most likely be a YES..... just be yourself and it will all come to you.......oh and lastly.... there is no reason to cut.... trust me on this.... one girl i liked started cutting, from her problems.... she did it plenty of times, but they were never very far.....one night her step dad did something , she went in her room and cut.... she tried to go in the same spot as she always went, but she was shaking and she hit a major vein.... she sharted bleeding and then she couldnt take the pain of bleeding to death, she grabbed up her strength and went into the bathroom, ran the tub and drown herself......... she video taped all of her cuttings... and this last one was terrible... i dont mean to scare you or anything, but u think you can do it once and nothing will happen... something probably wont happen, then you do more and more, it becomes a habit and then one night ......... you miss but...anyways... just be yourself...lol....not meaning to change subject.......

Have you told this guy how u feel about him?? that might kick things in for him... and as Jermaine says.... 11 is pretty young....you should just enjoy your childhood... sooner or later, youll have to get a job and stuff.... this boy you like could like you back, just isnt showing it.... he is probably just a little boy and he doesnt know what like is.... no offense or anything, bt its true....you should just wait until you get a little older to find someone you like... not saying that you cant now, but it will be harder at your age then to wait a few years...... just be patient... someone that you least expect will walk up to you and ask you out... youll go out and youll have the best time... dont worry... itll happen soon

you know what they say...

i wouldnt insist u go out and shop around for a new guy... that just burns the new guy/s .... he would think ur using him.... if u really like this guy ur talking about... stay with it... he probably would like the fact of you supporting him through this time.... if you support him and not distract him (you know.....) then he will pass and he will be all over you....because he knew that you cared for him at this time........so keep with it... stay on him.. be sure he knows your by his side......

thats the whole thing... i cant tell her anything like that... i am too scared of what she would say.... since it is her choice to return or not... i might be able to change her mind, but its taking a risk... i could tell her that i cant be without her or something like that, but that could bring up other things.... it could make things a hell of a lot better, but it also could severely damage any kind of chance i have with her.... i wouldnt want to blow anything... but i would like to at least tell er how i feel... but i dont know how or when... and as i said .... it coupld possibly ruin everything.... this is really complicating........

ask her out... you dont know if she likes u or not... this is a good way to know for a fact and if you two connect with eachother.... watching from afar can always seem nice, but getting to know someone throws in a second guess.... u might like the way she looks, ... u might see it in her eyes... she might seem nice, but once u get to know her better, she could be reaaly heartless.... i am of course not saying that she is... just from past experiences.....but ya... u should ask her out... find out if you two really do like eachother.... forget what i said about the please thing...... just be yourself.. u never know ... she might think that your shyness is cute and fall for u.... u have nothing to lose.... take a chance... if she turns you down dont seem sad.... just say "ok, no problem"... and pick up a conversation from there... because once you ask her out you will feel more comfiterable around her after all that weight is off your chest.... just asking, but when was the last time u had a gf??

ask 1 out... do not say please... that will make you look desperate....just wait calmly for her answer... look into her eyes... even if u start to blush... do not look away....the perfect time to ask her out would be when she is alone, but if 2 is around with her is also a good time because 2 will probably not laugh at you... 1 will most likely be waiting for u to make the first move.... even if you dont know her, ask her out neways... that is the whole point... to get to know her better.... i am sort of in the ame place as you... there is this girl that hangs around with friends constantly, ... her friends always look at me, but thats because they all know me and i know them.... and me and the girl both like eachother, but she has a bf and is moving away at the end of school year......... well.... nm... i guess im not in the same place as you..... but....still... go ahead... ask her out..... you have nothing to lose... its not like she will cut you from her life or anything.....

lol... i try to do what my gut is telling me, but its too hard... i freeze right up... schools almost over and that means i dont have much time.... i dont even know if her bf is in her old town where she is moving to or here in this city....or anywhere else for that matter.....i know that if i leave it i will definitely regret it.... but i just dont have the guts to even talk to her about it... i hardly even see her anymore... she is in none of my classes.... i only see her like once a day.... when she is walking to class and i have my spare... our breaks are only 5 mins so no time for talking... i dont even have a clue of what her email address is or anything....i dont have the guts to ask her myself... and none of my friendsa even know her....i know her friends though, but that just makes me look desperate if i ask them for her email or phone #........when we were in minnesota we actually saw eachother every single day lots of times.... but now its a rare occasion.....we both like eachother.... i know she likes me from both her friends and they way she looks into my eyes.... when i am walking with a group of ppl... she looks right into MY eyes for a few seconds until we pass eachother in the halls.....i say hi sometimes... but i can never just turn around and walk with her... wouldnt have anything to talk about... i cant just walk up "hi.......how are you?" thats too embarrassing....

WELL....exactly... she is probably going out with this guy out of pity.... this one girl asked my firend out and they went out for like a week and he dumped her cuz he was doing it for pity, she cried... i dont think ur friends' bf will cry when dumped... maybe he will... ... try and get closer to her... this will get her bf mad... but she will most likely talk to him and they will call the whole thing off... then make your move... ur shy right?? u 2 have known eachother for a while too?? u should feel pretty comfiterable around her. just ask her out somewhere.. she WILL do it... its what she is waiting for... she just wants u to make the first move....

i have a conflict.... a while back, i aksed what to do to ask this girl out got lots of answers.... they helped.... the thing is.... it turns out the girl i am supposed to ask out is leaving at the end of school year.... and it also turns out she already has a boyfriend.... but we both like eachother... her friends in this city are trying to get her to dump her bf for me, but she wont... i know this is her problem but it encounters me in it.....what do u do?? i would just like to go on only one date with her before she leaves....its her decision to go back or not, i cant ask her out cuz she wont go out with me for she has a bf.....what am i to do???we went to valley fair last week and we got to talking ... we have lots in common.... i know that if we went on a date... i could probably convince her to stay... but it wouldnt feel right to me... if she did stay, she would be breaking her bf's heart maybe ( unless he is sleeping around) but if she goes, then she would be breaking my heart.... have you ever heard of love at first sight??? that is exactly what it feels like to me.... it is uncomfitterable for me to talk about this kinda stuff to her.... i dunno whjat to do..... dam... this happened once before but not with the love part.... i liked this girl in grade eight, she already had a bf and she was moving, i tried to get her to stay but it just made things worse.... please give me suggestions of what to do.... thank you in advance!!!

same thing is going on with me.... except she blushes when we speak

as they said... depends on the girl and it never really fades away... you just push it away in the back of ur head.....

lmao.... there is nothing wrong with fat guys!!!!

there seriously is no reason to end your life.....you are in this life for a reason..... why else would you be here??? I cant tell you to kill yourself or not..... just at least wait..... i have gone through this in my life with a friend.... no.... just not worth it.....

you are only 17..... y end it??? there is so much ahead!!! thinking that there wont be anyone with you is all wrong..... your family and friends are there right beside you.... it sounds mushy but its true.... just because you think its not worth it , doesnt mean it really isnt worth it.... giving up is never the right way to go.... trust me on all this.... MY ONE FRIEND KILLED HERSELF BECAUSE SHE THOUGHT THAT LIVING ANOTHER WEEK WOULD BE TOO HARD.... HER BOYFRIEND DUMPED HER, HER DAD LEFT, HER MOM DISOWNED HER..... SHE TOLD ME ALL THIS ON THE PHONE ONE NIGHT......!!!!! THAT SAME NIGHT, SHE HUNG HERSELF.......AFTER THAT, HER PARENTS GOT BACK TOGETHER AND THEY BOTH NEVER LEFT EACHOTHER SINCE.... THERE WERE 119 PEOPLE AT HER FUNERAL.... SHE THOUGHT THAT NOBODY LIKED HER.... HER PARENTS STILL ARE CRYING ... THIS WAS 2 YEARS AGO.... THAT JUST GOES TO TELL YOU TO NOT GIVE UP.... EVEN IF U DONT THINK SO.... THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT LOVE YOU......... IT IS NOT WORTH GOING THROUGH!!!!!!! THERE ARE SO MUCH THAT YOU WILL MISS......PLEASE......