Seeknotfound Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 Hello and thank you for reading! I have known and worked with this guy for about 2 years now. We have always kind of hit it off together but we’ve both been in our separate relationships. A few months ago, we were both at a party and some things kind of came out and we have been doing the same ever since. He is getting married in less than 6 months, what does one do here? Link to comment
jimthzz Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 Stay away from this guy. So what that you feel as though you have a connection. Lust is all it is, nothing special. Speaking of nothing special, an engaged man flirting with you and you feeling special about it. And what about your own relationship? Think! And move on. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 I agree with jimthzz! Stay away from the betrothed! They are off limits! Remain well mannered, polite, proper and professional with your coworker. Exercise self-control and discretion. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 You really have to ask this? You stay away from a man who is engaged to marry someone else. Link to comment
jul-els Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 What “things came out” and what have you “been doing ever since”? You’re either skirting around that part or I’m slow on the uptake. If you’ve been fooling around; stop. If you’ve been talking about fooling around; stop also. This shows a very poor sense of boundaries and respect. It will only end up with four unhappy people, one way or another, eventually. Exercise some self control and restraint and stop yourself now. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 One does nothing but cut it off, OP. You're going to get hurt if you think this could lead anywhere. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 You know what to do, you just don't want to stop. A few months ago, we were both at a party and some things kind of came out and we have been doing the same ever since. He is getting married in less than 6 months. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 You both admit you find each other attractive...so what. Throughout life everyone has a crush that isn't their SO. Perfectly normal, and the majority of the time nothing every comes of it. People simply understand boundaries and don't act on it. So there you have it. There's nothing else to to do about but just carry on as is. Life goes on. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 I think this OP is one and done, but I am curious to know what this means: "A few months ago, we were both at a party and some things kind of came out and we have been doing the same ever since. " OP, if you ever come back can you explain this? Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 ^^^ yea... wt heck does that even mean? Bottom line, dude isn't available to be with you so back off and do what you know is the right thing if these "things" that came out are about wanting to get bizzy with one another. Show yourself some self respect and don't cave to a taken guys Bull****. Link to comment
gohawks292 Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 [emoji1417] agreed! Believe me I don’t wanna admit this but that happened to me too and I ended up getting hurt and I became the “other woman”,Something that I never thought I would become! I made a vow to myself that i would NEVER EVER get involved with a man who is taken (meaning if he has a girlfriend if he’s in a committed relationship or married) Now that I am in a committed relationship I would never want anybody to come between me and my boyfriend. I respect my relationship and other peoples relationship no matter what problems they’re having. A guy has no business talking to someone if he is in a committed relationship! It’s flattering but it’s temporary and you can just think to yourself “ thank you you’re boosting my ego for today, now goodbye”, and stay faithful to the future man (whoever he is) that will marry you. [emoji4][emoji3583][emoji1417] Good luck Link to comment
catfeeder Posted February 23, 2020 Share Posted February 23, 2020 Oh, c'mon. This isn't stuff that just happens, we make it happen. You're in full control of your own choices, so what do YOU think you should do? Link to comment
gohawks292 Posted February 23, 2020 Share Posted February 23, 2020 sometimes when you’re in a fog and you don’t love yourself enough and you can’t see the world for what it is you make stupid choices and you can’t tell what’s right from wrong. But yes you’re right you’re still responsible for your own choices and you have consequences deal with too... Some people get it and some people don’t. But there’s always room for growth and change... Link to comment
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