eeba272 Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 My sort-of ex went on a break with his new girlfriend that he left me for. And now wants me sexually saying I’m the best he’s ever had and no woman has come close to me in his life. I’ve slept with him once on a break and once he got back with her. I felt very bad for his girlfriend at first but then he’s an adult who can make his own decisions. I’m just not thinking about the situation and going with the flow. How do I protect myself though? For once I chose myself and not others. And I know I’ll never date him as he’s not as loyal as I thought he was. But then I think what if it’s because I’m the one. Link to comment
limichelle Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 You’re not the one. He just wants his cake and to eat it too. Best to rid him from your life, by being with her and propositioning you, he’s showing his true colors. They aren’t pretty! Never think someone will ‘change’ for you. That’s how you end up staying and keeping toxic relationships. Link to comment
eeba272 Posted September 14, 2019 Author Share Posted September 14, 2019 You’re the right. That’s how I feel too. I know I’ll never take him as I’ve seen his true colors. I can’t deny the physical attraction but our last time wasn’t so great on my part as I was tired. I’m just enjoying the sex tbh, I’m tired of thinking for others and want to do what I want for once. Link to comment
Clio Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 I’m tired of thinking for others and want to do what I want for once. When you get cheated on remember that line. You are no better than he is. In fact, you two deserve each other so do keep on doing what you are doing. If you think that he cheated on her because "you are the one" then you are delusional and you have a lot of growing up to do. Newsflash: Enabling a cheater is not "choosing yourself". Choosing yourself would be disassociating yourself for good from such a dishonest and selfish individual. Link to comment
eeba272 Posted September 14, 2019 Author Share Posted September 14, 2019 Thanks for your advice. I did disassociate from him a long time ago, but after being with him this time I just can’t help but want him physically. She was sleeping with him while he and I were dating. My head’s gone and I’m not being myself. I guess I’m lying to myself to not feel guilty and go into depression. Link to comment
jellybean2018 Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 Do you want to play this game seriously? You're letting someone cheat and disrespect both you and the other party Link to comment
trufo Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 When you get cheated on remember that line. You are no better than he is. In fact, you two deserve each other so do keep on doing what you are doing. If you think that he cheated on her because "you are the one" then you are delusional and you have a lot of growing up to do. Newsflash: Enabling a cheater is not "choosing yourself". Choosing yourself would be disassociating yourself for good from such a dishonest and selfish individual. Great post, I completely agree. Link to comment
Clio Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 I just can’t help but want him physically Then you are dealing with an addiction and imo you need to treat it that way. If you really want to protect yourself then you need to cut him off. Cold turkey. Keep reminding yourself that he is a toxic addiction and keep away. No ifs and buts. Link to comment
RyanMI Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 What do YOU want to be? His girlfriend or his friend-with-benefits for now until he finds a girlfriend he moves on to? I think the answer is obvious and you need to stick to your decision. You were "the best he's ever had?" Give me a break, if that was true he'd be fighting to keep you from leaving him in any capacity. Homie's a jerk, move on and find someone new. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 For once I chose myself and not others. And I know I’ll never date him as he’s not as loyal as I thought he was. But then I think what if it’s because I’m the one. You aren't. He wouldn't be treating you like a toy if you were. And that's what he's been doing, playing both you and the other girl for fools. What will probably happen is that he'll wind up with someone else completely, years from now, when he's grown and matured and is actually ready to settle down. You will be thankful it wasn't with you. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 So when he marries her will you be his mistress? Spending all holidays alone? Having to lie to your family and friends? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 Get out of fantasyland. He only wants you as a sidepiece. Respect yourself enough to block and delete this creep. How can you sleep with this guy, after he dumped you for someone else. Yes, he cheated on you! Ugh! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 You’re the right. That’s how I feel too. I know I’ll never take him as I’ve seen his true colors. I can’t deny the physical attraction but our last time wasn’t so great on my part as I was tired. I’m just enjoying the sex tbh, I’m tired of thinking for others and want to do what I want for once. There must be other men in your area. Have some self respect. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 Don't be part of his musical mattress games. Trust me, he's told her "you're the best" too. Do better for yourself. Get rid of this jerk once and for all and start dating real men. Also, since he has a habit of bed-hopping, get tested for STDs.My sort-of ex went on a break with his new girlfriend that he left me for. I’m just not thinking about the situation and going with the flow. I know I’ll never date him Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 "You're the best he's ever had" Said every cheater who wants a side piece. Good lord, eeba. Take back your personal power from this human dildo and go buy yourself a plastic one that won't cause you to have this kind of inner turmoil. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 Yeah, my ex told me "No one understands me the way you do!" when he was fighting with his current girlfriend and wanted me to sleep with him. A load of BS. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 Yeah, my ex told me "No one understands me the way you do!" when he was fighting with his current girlfriend and wanted me to sleep with him. A load of BS. ^ Classic. You might think they would come up with some new ones. Link to comment
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