She booked the wedding before they met?!

I am very worried for my cousin...got an invitation to his wedding which is under two months time. They have been together for five months.

 

I haven't felt right about it at all. The family at first didn't seem bothered, there were some jokes about maybe she's pregnant. But now people are starting to worry, he doesn't seem happy, and now we have just found out that she had the wedding day, venue and dress booked, before they actually met. Has anyone heard of this?? I am extremely worried that this could be some kind of forced marriage or scam. On a side note, would you attend? I haven't met the bride.

What is her culture?

Sounds NUTS , actually. To have a wedding all planned and booked before you even meet somebody in person ???? That's the sign of somebody who is unhinged. And you sure don't know anybody after five months . They will probably be divorced within a year .

What is her culture?

 

Yes cultural context is important. In North America in a North American culture that's bananas .

What is her culture?

 

She is Nigerian. He is Italian, both Catholic.

She is Nigerian. He is Italian, both Catholic.

 

Well ,we don't know what is common for Nigeria .

However if they are both Catholics they have to go through the pre-Cana . And the priest determines if they have enough in common to be married . That's if they are marrying as traditional Catholics. And most Catholics to marry must announce their intention six months to one year in advance . The bans have to be announced in the church . Our priest in our parish will not marry you unless you announce your intention six months in advance .

EDIT: Just seen your next reply, sorry.

 

This is another strange thing. It has been granted by her parish priest. And my Uncle (also a priest) has agreed to also do some of the ceremony! I just don't get it!

Sounds bizarre to me. Shrug.

How many times has he seen her in person and is he sponsoring her for a green card?

Sounds like a Nigerian scam. Dr Phil has done lots of shows where a person is catfished by someone, often from Nigeria, into giving them all their money, selling their homes to give them their money, etc etc. He did a show on that topic just yesterday.

 

My opinion is there's a good chance your cousin is being or will be scammed. If you cant talk sense into him, there's nothing you can do.

She is Nigerian. He is Italian, both Catholic.

I agree with my fellow Canuck.. Sounds like a Nigerian scam. I hope your cousin didn't transfer any money to her or any family members back in Nigeria.

I agree with everyone who is agreeing to the Nigerian thing ...

 

If I had not had my sensible head on, I could have quite easily been Princess Abayomrunkoje right now

... lolzzz ...

You may want to gather research of similar scams to present to your family, and if you're close enough, to him. If he still goes through with it, I'd attend the wedding. If everyone needed to 'approve' of every couple that got married, most couples would get a pretty cheap reception.

I'd get her info and report her. If it's an actual her even. Obviously a scam.

How many times has he seen her in person and is he sponsoring her for a green card?

 

No she is living here legit and everything. Her family are all here as well.

I agree with my fellow Canuck.. Sounds like a Nigerian scam. I hope your cousin didn't transfer any money to her or any family members back in Nigeria.

 

Thank you, I'm gonna look into this. I think her family have paid for most of the wedding.

If she lives in your country legitimately and her family have paid for almost everything I doubt it's a scam .

No she is living here legit and everything. Her family are all here as well.

 

How do you know that?

How do you know that?

 

The family met them all. She was born here her family are Nigerian but live here.

If she lives in your country legitimately and her family have paid for almost everything I doubt it's a scam .

 

This is what I'm thinking. Rather than being down to a Nigerian scam I think it might be an unhinged woman who has trapped a man into marrying her.

Are you close to your cousin?

This is what I'm thinking. Rather than being down to a Nigerian scam I think it might be an unhinged woman who has trapped a man into marrying her.

 

Yes I sincerely doubt it's a scam then. If she was born in the UK then she's a citizen of the UK . But maybe she's just nuts .

I am very worried for my cousin...got an invitation to his wedding which is under two months time. They have been together for five months.

 

I haven't felt right about it at all. The family at first didn't seem bothered, there were some jokes about maybe she's pregnant. But now people are starting to worry, he doesn't seem happy, and now we have just found out that she had the wedding day, venue and dress booked, before they actually met. Has anyone heard of this?? I am extremely worried that this could be some kind of forced marriage or scam. On a side note, would you attend? I haven't met the bride.

 

Shame on your cousin, then. he needs to get to know his bride longer than 5 months. She is a stranger to him.

This is not her fault- -- because you can't control other people - its his fault for going along with it.

 

Do you mean she had this booked before they actually met as in they have been communicating for a year by phone and skype before the 5 months or do you mean they just met five months ago?