Am I Falling too fast or am I being a Fool??

I'm a Virgo woman TRYING to get my Leo male to show interest again. We've never had sex but we have sent each other nudes. He's a little younger than me (2yrs), and lives about 2 hours away. We've only been communicating for a couple of weeks, and he was very clear about taking things slow and "getting to know me" FIRST. I'm extremely clingy and it's very upsetting now that all of a sudden it seems that he's abandoned me. We went from talking, texting, face timing all day. To now barely saying a word (at least for him) he seems very distant and uninterested at this point. Before I make myself look like like an ass, should I cut my losses and communication or speak up and take MORE initiative? Please help

I think I saw your nude on a pop-up recently. Maybe you ought to hold off on doing that sort of thing until you know you can trust the recipient?

Oh, yea and as for your question: Yes... cut your losses.

Why are you sending this guy nudes so early into this potential relationship? I'd guess he's not interested in you anymore.

If you want to take things slow, then why are you sending nude pics????? I don't get this, at all!

He also lives two hours away. How do you have a relationship with that kind of distance. Why aren't you looking local????

Cut your losses. Better judgement, next time.

Also, why is there so much communication with someone you have not met in person? Slow your roll!

How is sending nude photos to a stranger on the internet "taking things slow?" Of course you should cut your losses, along with facing the potential of these photos being posted online.

Keep in mind that he's a stranger, who has nothing to lose by doing so.

How is he "taking things slow" by getting you to send him nudes within 2 weeks of meeting online, and never having met in person?

OP, you need to use more common sense, because you just got played. Hard.

Do not contact this person again. He is not looking to date you.

You better hope to god, that your pics don't get posted online. I will never understand the exchange of nude pics.

Ugh. People. Sending nudes is a fine fun way to flirt. Don't shame her for that.

OP it does sound like he lost interest. Just let it go. You are overly attached for two weeks. He isn't the right fit.

"Ugh. People. Sending nudes is a fine fun way to flirt. Don't shame her for that. "

Really???????? I would think it would be good if you are only looking for sex, and want your pics posted for all to see. What happened to flirting through convo?? Things have really taken a downward spiral in the dating world! BLECH!

This guy is a stranger, why would someone risk this????

Ugh. People. Sending nudes is a fine fun way to flirt. Don't shame her for that.

 

OP it does sound like he lost interest. Just let it go. You are overly attached for two weeks. He isn't the right fit.

With someone you have never met?

No, that is plain foolish and naive.

Ugh. People. Sending nudes is a fine fun way to flirt. Don't shame her for that.

 

OP it does sound like he lost interest. Just let it go. You are overly attached for two weeks. He isn't the right fit.

What???? With someone you only know for a few weeks and never met?

Gosh the times they are changing........

For sure....

Think back in the day no one would take a naked pic.... have it developed... then put in an envelope and send....

My bad....

With someone you have never met?

 

No, that is plain foolish and naive.

Naw, it really is a different world. I have nudes online that anyone can see. We are living in a changing sexual paradigm. Nudes are fun. The reality that most folks are sexual is slowly sinking in. No need to add shame.

and here i thought sending a kissy face emoji was already a bold move lol...

Gotta up my game.... lol lol

OP i think he lost interest for some reason... maybe he's dating or chatting to someone else.

Maybe your clingy behaviour put him off.

I would walk away probably and especially don't start talking more! Guys run when they smell clingy

Naw, it really is a different world. I have nudes online that anyone can see. We are living in a changing sexual paradigm. Nudes are fun. The reality that most folks are sexual is slowly sinking in. No need to add shame.

We're also living in a more (for the lack of a better term) dangerous world.

Oh, everyone is sexual, Rose. For sure. Nothing new about that I can tell you. And the world isn't basically so different.

However, sending anyone a nude, well I don't think so. And anyhow why would I want to do something like that free of charge!! LOL.

And you would go far to find someone as broadminded as I am.

We are living in a more dangerous world, yes.

That aside I am picturing myself strolling up for a job interview or other interview and the interviewer has in front of him or her my "nude pics". So unless I am applying for a job as an exotic or pole dancer I get the feeling those nude pics would not be viewed favourably. lol.

Did you guys ever go on a date?

Either way, that's way too much too soon. Back way off, fade into the night. He lost interest and getting more in his face won't change that.

Obviously nudity that is shareable and on record is a matter of taste/preference/choice. It isn't bad or good. Like most we make rules about, the rules are kind of silly when applied to everyone equally.

Would I send nudes? No. Do I want my children to send nudes? No. It still can have an adverse impact on social and professional opportunities. I am sexual, yes, and I also enjoy having a private zone that is available only to some. For me its more a boundary issue than a good/bad. Not everyone gets to know me that way.

If I were comfortable being publicly naked and identifiable (not anonymous, which is very different), then I might send them - only after making sure my recipient were comfortable receiving same.

If we are already sexually intimate and generally comfortable with one another? I send them, I receive them. Glad of it. I love it when my fwb sends me his appreciation, as if I just sent him the 8th Wonder of the World. Silly. Empty. Vain. Maybe? Or maybe just affectionate.

Naw, it really is a different world. I have nudes online that anyone can see. We are living in a changing sexual paradigm. Nudes are fun. The reality that most folks are sexual is slowly sinking in. No need to add shame.

Posting nude photos online and ones sexuality are not related.

If you want your family, friends, employer, kids, whoever, to see that, then go for it.

Oh yeah once dating it can be fun but with someone you never met? too much too soon

Takes away the fun and pleasure of the heading towards the actual sexual stuff...

I think it's so much more fun undressing with that anticipation without already knowing where the moles and cellulite are

Oh gawd Holly, I cringe at the thought of an employer, client relative seeing a nudie of me anywhere, online anywhere.

I assume we are talking here the Fully Monty. Gynaecological and all.

Not tastefully attired in lace underwear.....

Regarding the nudes- it's a safety thing. There really are less than lovely people out there. There are those who data collect pics and sell them and distribute them. There are guys who make a sport of collecting nudes and pornographic pics/ videos of girls and women. Who knows what OP did on vid too.

Even if you don't have a problem with the world seeing it, there is no way to regulate control of your own images once they are out. Someone else can essentially use it like they own it.

I know I'm not the only one who'd be devastated if someone turned intimatepics/ vids against me for their own gain or kicks. There have been law suits about it.

But once you hand it out, it's a very tough run of ever gaining control of distribution even if you DO win a long expensive legal case.

I agree I like not knowing till I get to open the present.

And I don't send underwear shots either. I am sort of effervescent and asexual, or its ON. so you get a pic of me hiking.

Ohhh THATS why I am single lol

oh well whatever. I have to return to my cross stitch and rocking chair.

Oh gawd Holly, I cringe at the thought of an employer, client relative seeing a nudie of me anywhere, online anywhere.

 

I assume we are talking here the Fully Monty. Gynaecological and all.

Not tastefully attired in lace underwear.....

Yeah. I don't get it. That is for my partner, not the world.

Posting nude photos online and ones sexuality are not related.

 

If you want your family, friends, employer, kids, whoever, to see that, then go for it.

If someone is looking for nudes of me then they can see them. If they don't want to see them they don't look for them. I don't mind people knowing what I look like naked. Most of my friends have seen me naked in person. I understand it's a big deal for some folks. But I wanted to remind the op that she isn't a horrible pet for sending nudes. Because that was the detail everyone jumped on.

If someone is looking for nudes of me then they can see them. If they don't want to see them they don't look for them. I don't mind people knowing what I look like naked. Most of my friends have seen me naked in person. I understand it's a big deal for some folks. But I wanted to remind the op that she isn't a horrible pet for sending nudes. Because that was the detail everyone jumped on.

And I agree with you -- judgment free zone.

Like anything else, its okay to do if it is true to oneself. Certainly some people will judge a man or woman for sending them. I don't judge but I don't value them either. I laugh when men send me d pics. Nobody does anymore but a few years ago I used to get them all the time. Can't stand it. So it would be a bad move for someone to send me one without knowing me first; I don't like them unless me and the appendage are affectionate with one another. Not just sexual, but affectionate. Last year someone sent me one early on. I guess he was pretty proud of his sizable appendage. It was all that, sure (not that he was any good with it but whatever). Even so, I didn't like the pic at all. It didn't offend me. I just didn't like it, visually.

But I agree with you -- live and let live. Its a body. We all have one.