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rosephase

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  1. Hey, I'm sorry if you were feeling attacked. I wasn't pointing that at you. I was pointing it at the whole conversation I was reading. I can understand your boundaries. To me it just seems odd that from one text (that he showed you) you are questioning this friendship so hard. But I say stuff like "i was looking forward to seeing you" to my work friends often. So it's hard for me to even read that as flirting.
  2. I am always saddened by how our culture doesn't understand or trust male/female friendships. I think it keeps genders divided and at odds with one another. If a man only knows women as sex partner, romantic partner or family, then it slots women into roles that men aren't, and nothing else. And the other way around. I think it's important to have cross gender friendships. And it always bums me out how many people think hetero monogamy means you should never be close to someone of your spouse gender ever again. I tend to be attracted to men who have a lot of close female friendships. To me? Tha
  3. Have you tried asking her what level of contact you can expect? I don’t think there is anything wrong with being open if you fall in love easily... that’s kinda the point. You enjoy her, she is telling you she enjoys you. She’s not great at follow through (at the moment) so check in with her. Ask her what’s up. Communicate.
  4. Well it looks pretty done from the outside. She doesn't want to work on the relationship. She's calling the cops on you. She is telling you that you are stalking her. And she is seeing another man. It's done. I'm sorry that it happened in such a painful and inexplicable way but "trying" at this point would be taken as more stalking behavior and might get you in more legal trouble.
  5. She doesn't want to be in a relationship with you any more. It doesn't really matter why. Trying to be in a relationship with someone who calls you a stalker and gets a restraining order against you is only going to lead to more stress and heartache. Sign the papers.
  6. You can't save him. He doesn't want help. The only thing you can do is leave and find someone who is taking better care of themselves. It's not your job to get your partner to grow. That's his job. Your job is to take care of yourself. And choosing a partner who gets abusive when he's down is not doing that. He's unpleasant to be around, he isn't working on his situation and he doesn't appreciate your effort towards helping him. It's time to leave and find someone who is ready willing able to be in a healthy relationship... which means they can take care of themselves and not be miserable and
  7. She hasn't booked it yet. Just say it isn't your cup of tea and figure out something that works for all of you. Honestly it just sounds like a group of friends trying to make plans. If you needed to be the party planner and final say in everything why not offer what you want to do fully instead of asking your friends for options?
  8. Isn't T your brother's girlfriend? Not the owner of the car? Or was your friend upset that you took people somewhere in T's car? Sorry, no I'm still not following. What upset your friend in the first place?
  9. Wait... I'm not following your story. You took your friend's car without asking?
  10. I think you should respect your daughters wishes and rights more. She is choosing not to see your mother for very valid reasons. If you want a good relationship with her respecting her autonomy is important. I wouldn't want to be around someone who harasses me about my religious choices. You gave up a lot of your rights to effect the way she grows and changes. Now you have to spend your time getting to know her and letting her know she is still loved by you and welcome in your life. You are working on repairing her trust in you. Focus on what YOU need to do so she feels safe around you and
  11. Attachment opens yourself up for hurt. Love, friendship, mentor... anytime you feel a close connection with someone you have to deal with the reality that someday they might not be there. In real life friend... or over the internet. Attachment is scary for a lot of people because of that. But being worried about it doesn't change the situation... so I would deal with your anxiety around it the way I would deal with any anxiety. Remind myself the pre-worrying doesn't help anything. Keep focus on the present and don't allow myself to spend a lot of time horror fantasizing about the "what if'
  12. Then leave. Or kick him out and change the locks. You don't want to be in this relationship. You are worried about how it affects your kids... kick this jerk to the curb.
  13. He sounds like a terrible partner. But not abusive. Just, you know, a jerk. He sounds lazy, inconsiderate and annoying. That is way more than enough for you to leave him. It sounds like he does so little that it won't change how you live very much just to have him gone.
  14. A quick note on STI testing: They don't test for herpes unless there is an active outbreak or you push to get the test done. So most likely neither of you have been tested for it. Also there is no way to test for HPV in men. So he could be a carrier and his tests come back clear. I'm not saying this to scare you or make you feel bad... you should just know this stuff if you are having sex. So about this guy. It's really clear he is no where ready for a relationship. And to be honest? It doesn't sound like you are either. I would suggest you leave and give yourself some time to get to know
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