ytterp Posted February 26, 2007 Share Posted February 26, 2007 Hi there, I am a female wanting a opinion on cheating..... Sorry this is a bit of a long one but just want to get the full story in! Do you think a cheater ever changes, once a cheater always a cheater? I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a few months ago, I found a few posts on his computer about dating other women etc. Basically I don't know if you have heard of the book 'the game' but he is a pick up artist that tries to score with as many women as possible. I found this out a few months ago, and the hard way. I found posts all about me on this site, decribing everything we ever did, what I would say in bed, right down to the position we did that night...it shocked me and he was getting feedback from everyone as he goes. Now i can understand that we all need feedback, hence why I am posting this but he is an extremely good looking guy with a lot going for him. I accessed his email as he left it on the computer one night when we were in bed, i got up to use the bathroom and saw it on, so i searched his inbox and found messages from a girl saying she really enjoyed herself and misses him and can't wait to see him. Anyway so I confronted him with everything, he was so upset and ashamed that I had found out and apologise (he inever apologises!) and admited that he was a pick up artist who went out his way to attract women and wrote about it. He promised he has not cheated on me, just gone on dates and got numbers and followed up girls when he shouldn't of. He said onec you start its hard to get out of, you are so used to approaching girls, it come naturally..(ummm yeah) We decided to move on from this as he hadn't cheated and besides that we were very happy together. Anyway I pressed him about this one girl sending him the message, i miss you etc months after I found the email. After days of me asking what happened, he finally admited after I pretended i knew anyway, that he had slept with this girl more then once when we were together. He apparently did this when my ex boyfriend flew out to win me back and I was honest with him and told him everything, he said he cheated on me to get me back as he thoughti was up to no good with my ex (which I turned down cold, didn't want anything to do with again and he flew back very unhappy!) I took this well as at least we were moving forward, and he was being honest at last and he cheated when we first got together. Now i knew a lot about what he has been up to by his posts on this pick -up site. So I know he cheated on his ex girlfriend all the time, which he loved...because he was getting to master the art of seducing! and he even starting dating me while he was still in a relationship with her (which I only recently found out) Do you think he will ever change? He now included me in everything and it seems he is a lot more open after he has confessed, I love him and want this to work but I also don't want to be the one that gets hurt. All his friends say how much in love he is with me and how he has always been scared of commitment but has even said i may be 'the one' What do you think? Thanks guys! x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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