jilligirl Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 maybe she's REALLY not giving you head b/c she's afraid of catching an STD from you (and not because she doesn't like the taste of cum). ask her if that's really the case. if it is, go get yourself checked out and share the results with her. if the STD idea is NOT an issue with her, then, well, what can i say. i've heard so many men on forums complaining that their girls won't give them head, but i rarely see people say "she did it, she FINALLY gave me head!" i know this sounds shallow, but if you're still early on in the relationship, i'd leave her. or else you'll be too tempted to get it elsewhere. Link to comment
Shadows Light Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 It really could be the taste. Not every guy tastes the same.. I think its diet dependant. My "X" drank a lot of beer and his diet consisted of "protein" thats it. No fruits.. no veggies.. and he tasted.... BLAHHHHH!! reallly really bad. I dry heave just thinking about it. ickkk. While other guys.. taste GREAT. Maybe she had a bad experience. I was VERY put off about BJ's after my "x' and it wasn't on my top ten list of favorite things to do. However... I was fortunate to discover that know to "JOHN'S" are the same. Just a thought. And No.. I LIKE THAT just a little too darned much. I don't think I'd be with someone who didn't.... Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 pineapple... yes.................... Link to comment
Shadows Light Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 yes.................... pineapple... Most definitely. Link to comment
lman69 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 "my girl, who I love" "I am thinking about leaving" Contradiction? Love with conditions? Love is often conditional with men....a pitty It's only a contradiction if thinking implies leaving. Link to comment
Cardinal Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I find it funny we are indeed focusing on the blowjob so much. She finds oral sex disgusting or gross period. It doesn't matter whether or not she is giving or receiving. Looks like she is more willing to give than receive anyhow. Why not focus on understanding what she finds to be gross about receiving? Work with her and try to get her used to receiving first maybe? Work past whatever her inhibitions are and talk with her about it. We do all have our dealbreakers. I am not sure I would be comfortable with a woman if I knew that she wouldn't let me go down on her ever. I want to do that most every day. Sometimes multiple times a day. And now I am starting to feel that way about oral sex as a whole (at least getting blowjobs). Now that I am getting some amazing head as a part of foreplay, I am pissed at myself that I went so many years without it....both giving and receiving are great pleasures....shallow or not, it is a decision factor. And yes it can make up for a few things that aren't perfect in a relationship! Best advice I have seen yet 1) Work on the other major relationship issues before this one 2) Both of you seriously need to learn to compromise better. And 2) is almost certainly a big factor in improving 1) Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 "my girl, who I love" "I am thinking about leaving" Contradiction? Love with conditions? *hangs head* *ponders infinitude of Life's oft-cruel and blatant irony* *dies inside* Link to comment
adevastatedman Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 Giving up a human because she wont put your penis in her mouth? Now think about that real hard. Link to comment
EQD Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 This thread is about 2 years old. Link to comment
NowandZen Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 This thread is about 2 years old. Probably too late to help OP, but a timeless question no? Not just about the BJ, but about getting what you want from a relationship? Link to comment
EQD Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 indeed it is timeless.. i wonder what happened to the OP... Link to comment
NowandZen Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 indeed it is timeless.. i wonder what happened to the OP... No idea what happened to OP. My guess is that if his needs were not being met, the relationship died. I'm not one to quibble over what is or is not a valid reason for ending a relationship. The heart wants what the heart wants. If you have a strong desire for something, and you don't get it, then you will likely look outside the relationship for it. That's not fair to the person you are supposed to love. Far kinder to end it and find someone who is comfortable with giving you what you need. I've never been one to try to "fix" someone else's issues. You can only change yourself. Link to comment
sharsachan Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 i've heard so many men on forums complaining that their girls won't give them head, but i rarely see people say "she did it, she FINALLY gave me head!" it does happen though. my husband and i were 8 months into the relationship before i ever gave him a blow job, and yes, we'd been having sex long before i ever went down on him. it took me a very long time to feel comfortable with him to do something like that. maybe that's the girl's problem [even though the thread is so old] Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 "my girl, who I love" "I am thinking about leaving" Contradiction? Love with conditions? you can love someone and not be satisfied. is this a deal breaker? probably for me. i'm oral with girls. Link to comment
KG Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 I was in a 3 year relationship where I got no oral.....after awhile you get used to it. Sad, but true, and I loved her, so couldn't see it being a dealbraker. My 2 c's. Link to comment
srssatellite Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Not having any oral ever out of the same relationship wouldn't be as bad as her giving oral and then suddenly not wanting to give oral. Link to comment
Sunshine311 Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 I didn't read all the other replies, so sorry if I'm repeating here. I don't think it's shallow at all. Some like to disregard sex and say that if you really love someone it shouldn't matter, and all that sort of thing, but it does matter - a lot. Professionals will even tell you that the number one factor in a successful relationship is communication, and number two is sex. I could not imagine my life never receiving oral sex again. I think that you may be OK for years, but sexual urges are powerful, and in a moment of weakness, in order to feel that pleasure again, you may end up cheating on your SO. Don't underestimate the power of sex even in the most loving relationships. Link to comment
Taomagicdragon Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Oral sex is abysmally low on the totem pole for me (Pun intended). Here is what I got out of your posts: A - There are other problems that need to be addressed, this lack of oral sex is unimportant in comparison. B - Never, ever, EVER try to get someone to do something they do not want to do. She offered a compromise and you rejected it and in this case, I see her being the more mature of the two of you because she gave you a choice at a compromise. C - While people do have needs in relationships they should also keep in mind the important things and compromises. Oral sex may be a huge deal to you like an appreciation of humour and intellect are to me but I can make compromises that make me and my g/f happy (She's into sociology and I;m into literature, both are intelligent just in very different areas). So, take the compromise and fix what you have wrong that's more important. Also, the immature "Well, you can anytime you want to" (In regards to oral sex) sounds very petty and begs the question of how old are you both and whether or not emotional maturity needs to develop more for the two of you individually. Sorry if the last bit is harsh but it's the truth and you deserve nothing less than honesty here. Link to comment
zachtos Posted June 27, 2008 Share Posted June 27, 2008 Agreed, if you are looking for more interesting activities, you will spend a great deal of time wasted on this one, get out early if they are unwilling to compromise (which a condom is technically a compromise.) Link to comment
Halflife Posted November 16, 2010 Share Posted November 16, 2010 Just remember everyone is different and have things in life that are really important to them that are not to others. I can sympathise with this poster. I'm actually quite a deep person, I'm young and yet want to date girls to find true love and share my life with that person. Intimacy (not sex) is the most important thing to me HOWEVER it just so happens blowjobs are my favourite pleasure in life and if a girl I really liked couldn't provide that, then naturally my happiness in the relationship will suffer greatly. I know some of you girls like to romanticise but love does not equal happiness I'm afraid. It equals connection and the drawing of two people together but happiness in a relationship requires effort. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted November 16, 2010 Share Posted November 16, 2010 I think that you have to assess whether not getting a blowjob is a deal breaker for you. If it is then you will end up resenting her for not giving you oral sex without a condom. Link to comment
Soprano Posted November 18, 2010 Share Posted November 18, 2010 My girlfriend loves giving me head. I'm the first one she's swallowed for too supposedly. * * * * ty for you. My ex gf wouldn't though. It was annoying and caused problems. After we broke up she begged to give me head. Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted November 18, 2010 Share Posted November 18, 2010 OP - I am sure you are a wonderful and charming guy, despite the frustration evident in your postings. If there is a list of things that are not working then leave, this is not the relationship for you. The worse thing would to turn this into a power struggle to prove how much she loves you. Link to comment
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