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melrich Grand Master

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I read about a study done once in the USA (I can't recall where I read it so I apologise, I can't attribute but I understand it is quite well known) where the researchers attempted to interview people who had survived jumping off bridges.

 

They found a staggering amount of people who had jumped and survived, it was somewhere in the order of 700 to 800 individuals.

 

They asked them a whole bunch of questions but the one that stood out was (I paraphrase), "What did you think about as you were falling?"

 

Again the responses were overwhelming, something like 90%+ said words to the effect of,

 

"What the hell did I do this for?" and wished they could get back up on the bridge.

 

That's why I would never consider it. Here are the words of two survivors,

 

Survivors often regret their decision in midair, if not before. Ken Baldwin and Kevin Hines both say they hurdled over the railing, afraid that if they stood on the chord they might lose their courage. Baldwin was twenty-eight and severely depressed on the August day in 1985 when he told his wife not to expect him home till late. “I wanted to disappear,” he said. “So the Golden Gate was the spot. I’d heard that the water just sweeps you under.” On the bridge, Baldwin counted to ten and stayed frozen. He counted to ten again, then vaulted over. “I still see my hands coming off the railing,” he said. As he crossed the chord in flight, Baldwin recalls, “I instantly realized that everything in my life that I’d thought was unfixable was totally fixable—except for having just jumped.”

 

Kevin Hines was eighteen when he took a municipal bus to the bridge one day in September, 2000. After treating himself to a last meal of Starbursts and Skittles, he paced back and forth and sobbed on the bridge walkway for half an hour. No one asked him what was wrong. A beautiful German tourist approached, handed him her camera, and asked him to take her picture, which he did. “I was like, ‘ * * * * this, nobody cares,’ ” he told me. “So I jumped.” But after he crossed the chord, he recalls, “My first thought was What the hell did I just do? I don’t want to die.”

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Scout Grand Master

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1. I believe there is much I am still meant to do here on this earth.

2. My family's lives would be ruined.

3. Who would take care of my dogs?

4. I'm not gonna let the bad people in life who bring me down win! I have just as much of a right to be here as they do.

5. The world doesn't have enough good people like me, so I'm gonna stick around and do my part to make this a better place.

6. In many ways, life is so beautiful.

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ShySoul Grand Master

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New reasons:

 

1. eNotalone - I've become friends with and helped to many people on here to disappear now. It would be turning by back on the message of hope that I've tried to instill on those I come accross on here.

 

2. My girl - We've supported each other through hard times. I can't leave her now, not when better days are coming in the future for us.

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ShySoul Grand Master

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The things that keep me goping are my drive to succeed in life. The mwant to protect someone, and my love for a gril. I have given myselfe reason for living. Why can't other do the same thing.

 

We all do. But for some circumstances and experiences cause them to doubt themselves and feel hurt. A constant feeling of everything going wrong or lonliness affects you and for some, they just reach a point where it weighs them down. But thats when you have to pick yourself back up and look on the bright side. Focus on the good in the world, not the bad. Strive for better. Use the darkness you have lived through to shine light into others and give them hope and love so they don't feel as dead as you.

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Mrocza Experienced

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New Reasons:

 

The thought of "This is it?"

 

that always gets to me. No matter how miserable and low I get, I just always have this moment of clarity where I just think there's so much out there for me. Maybe now things suck but they won't forever.

 

I just think that is what keeps me going. Knowing there's a light switch somewhere, I just have to keep fumbling in the dark to find it.

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darkblue Grand Master

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New Reasons:

 

The thought of "This is it?"

 

that always gets to me. No matter how miserable and low I get, I just always have this moment of clarity where I just think there's so much out there for me. Maybe now things suck but they won't forever.

 

I just think that is what keeps me going. Knowing there's a light switch somewhere, I just have to keep fumbling in the dark to find it.

 

[It's behind you!!]

(sorry)

 

I hope this isn't due to our increased levels of contact!

 

And of course, there's your cat

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Scout Grand Master

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Speaking of music, it's one of the most important things in life that has gotten me through some terrible times. There is so much beauty, love, pain, sadness, inspiration, and clarity in the right music. It's one of the best things about being alive.

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I have just passed through a long and arduous journey and am here to say KEEP GOING and NEVER GIVE UP. I had to endure the depths of pain guys I know how pitiful it can get. Make a descision that you will fight. Hang in there. Okay I will let on to a little secret but please don't think that i am being pushy as I just want to share how something helped me because I was too weak, alone and upset to do anything. I prayed to Jesus and he has made it easier. By no means am I wanting to appear to disrespect those who do not believe but this miracle is true and I needed to share with someone.

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