confused198828 Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 So my hook up and I hook up like once a week. But we're also on each other's Facebooks and sometimes when I post stuff, he'll text me and ask if I'm ok. He said that we just hook up or whatever but that he very much cares about me and wants me to be happy. Then today, he asked if I still needed disinfectant wipes. He works at a store I go to a lot and asked if they carried any but they got some in today. I told him no, thank you though. Im wondering if this is normal behavior with a hook up? We text about other things, even though it is mostly just about sexual stuff but also some outside of sex. What would we call it if we talk about other things besides hooking up? Link to comment
SherrySher Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 Are you hoping for a relationship? Why are you okay with allowing some guy to have sex with you with no strings attached? Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 Sounds like a normal ordinary question to me with no hidden meaning behind it at all. I think you're really way way overthinking it. Is this the same guy who you ask "why doesn't he want me?" ?? Link to comment
Spawn Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 developing feelings that's what it is Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 He cares about you. People can care deeply about one another without it progressing to deeper romantic feelings or any desire for commitment. The physical aspect of it is just one other way of sharing and bonding with someone you have a connection with. It doesn't necessarily mean that it moves to any other type of exclusive relationship. If you're not feeling comfortable and there are grey areas, communicate with your partner. Don't make any assumptions and treat each other with respect. Link to comment
Billie28 Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 It’s called friends with benefits. As in mutually hooking up instead of one being a booty call. So yes it’s normal. People using each other equally for sex and remaining respectful to one another. Don’t overthink it , just enjoy it while it lasts , usually when someone ends up in a relationship and calls it quits. At that point the friendship ends along with the benefits. So don’t get attached to that friendship as it doesn’t have any longevity. Link to comment
Keyman Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 What would we call it if we talk about other things besides hooking up? Friendship. It does sound like he has either begun to catch some feelings, or is just a caring kinda guy. If you are not interested in anything more, then you need to end this hook up. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 It's not dating, if you want a name for it that seems better than hookups, call it FWB. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 What would we call it if we talk about other things besides hooking up? A Friend With Benefits. And no, his behaviour isn't that unusual if that's what you are to him, Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 I'm not sure what you mean by normal - hook ups isn't some sort of category like marriage or dating. It's simply two people who hang out for the purpose of having sex or being sexual. So because that's all it is there's no spectrum of "normal" -each person handles it in his her own way as far as when/how to be sexual with another person. He seems to care about how you are doing. He also likes having sex with you. I think the real question should be "since I feel comfortable having him inside my body, why am I not comfortable asking him directly what his intentions are towards me other than what is obvious - he intends to have sex with you and when you're available to have sex he hangs out. Link to comment
SophiaG Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 So my hook up and I hook up like once a week. But we're also on each other's Facebooks and sometimes when I post stuff, he'll text me and ask if I'm ok. He said that we just hook up or whatever but that he very much cares about me and wants me to be happy. Then today, he asked if I still needed disinfectant wipes. He works at a store I go to a lot and asked if they carried any but they got some in today. I told him no, thank you though. Im wondering if this is normal behavior with a hook up? We text about other things, even though it is mostly just about sexual stuff but also some outside of sex. What would we call it if we talk about other things besides hooking up? A friend or acquaintance could easily do the same. Nothing weird about that. Obviously he does care about you but from what you describe it doesn't seem to indicate romantic interest or anything deeper than common courtesy. Link to comment
dias Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 What would we call it if we talk about other things besides hooking up?Being normal people? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 I'd call it the exact same thing as what I signed up for, "FWBs". Link to comment
Dcslimjim Posted July 23, 2020 Share Posted July 23, 2020 when you care about someone, you think about them. maybe he wants more than just a hook up? Link to comment
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