Totoboto Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 Hi so quick summary.. I was with my ex for just short of 3 years, I was living at her house for 2 years. We had a good relationship, never argued and both enjoyed each other’s company. We ended up breaking up about 6 weeks ago, she initially said she needed space so I packed up my essentials and moved home. I gave her 2 weeks of space and we didn’t contact each other. After 2 weeks I text her and said I’m ready to talk when she is but she replied saying she doesn’t think there’s anything to talk about and we’d be better off as friends. I told her I respect that if that’s what she really wants and told her I loved her, she said she loved me too. This is when the breakup actually hit me, so in a desperate state I started watching “ex back” videos on YouTube and found one guy who said you should try and build respect and attraction back. So after 5 days I rang her and got her to agree to meet as it had been a while since we’d seen each other. I went to hers and she greeted me with a big hug and we talked about what we had been up to and I told her about how I know I’d screwed up and basically taken her love for granted which I know I did. I ended the interaction and said I had to go, she agreed we should see each other again and we had another big hug before I left and she kissed me on the cheek? I let her have space again for around 5 days and called her again, she answered, I had her on the call and was making her laugh and we agreed again to meet up, I told her to let me know when she’s free and she said she would text me. We went back to radio silence again and this brings me to now. We were radio silent for just over 3 weeks. I’ve done a lot of self growth in this time and can now identify every aspect of what went wrong, they’re not major issues but I can see why over time she reached breaking point. This being my first committed relationship I didn’t see the signs and never did anything to improve the relationship and just expected our love to carry us through. I genuinely need to get the last of my things as I need some stuff for work, and also I need to move on if she’s not wanting to reach out to me. I’ve let all my emotions go, I’ve been living well, seeing friends and working hard and life’s good. I do want her back in my life but respect her decision. Last thing, I know I’ve dragged this out.. so I messaged her 4 days ago asking if I could get the last of my things she said Yes but she was at her Dads and would be back the next day. We agreed for me to go round then. The day came and just as I was about to set off she messaged saying she’s home but doesn’t feel too good could I come another night, I told her ok let me know when’s best and I’ve not heard anything now for 3 days. Is she realising I’m trying to move on and having doubts? I don’t know.. her most recent text exchanges have seemed quite flirty like they were when we were in the relationship, apposed to post breakup. I do want to talk to her to see if we can work this out or if I should move on, but I don’t want to be pushy. I also need my things. Need advice on what I should do, thanks for reading all the way if you have! Link to comment
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