amanda88 Posted October 23, 2018 Author Share Posted October 23, 2018 I read that as - "I'll tell him to go home after I have sex with him, but I need to keep trading the sex for his financial support" Does she ask you for financial help too? Yes she ask me for money all the time and I would give her whatever I could at the time Link to comment
amanda88 Posted October 23, 2018 Author Share Posted October 23, 2018 I'm curious ... Is he aware that she has a girlfriend (you)? she said he is aware, but hes not leaving the baby side because he said he form a attachment to her . Link to comment
DanZee Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 Yes she ask me for money all the time and I would give her whatever I could at the time You're being used and cheated on. Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 Yes she ask me for money all the time and I would give her whatever I could at the time Stop giving her money. Say you can't afford it. You'll find out what her real feelings are about 30 seconds later, one way or the other. Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 You're being used and cheated on. It would not surprise me if the next development here is that the OP's lady friend actually gets pregnant again, and this time it's definitely his, so she has him locked in financially. Link to comment
No1 Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 Amanda.. just think about the stress this is causing you. You came online, made up an account to vent about how stressful this is Its not going to get any better, in fact its only going to get worse. You do not have the power to change her or how she thinks. Love alone is not the answer and it doesn't matter how much you do love it, its not going to change her. You either accept the situation with all the flaws and drama or you don't and you let her and the situation go. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 Yes she ask me for money all the time and I would give her whatever I could at the time She is telling you she is only having sex with him or keeping him around because of money -- guess what - i bet she is telling him the same thing about you. Link to comment
amanda88 Posted October 24, 2018 Author Share Posted October 24, 2018 Amanda.. just think about the stress this is causing you. You came online, made up an account to vent about how stressful this is Its not going to get any better, in fact its only going to get worse. You do not have the power to change her or how she thinks. Love alone is not the answer and it doesn't matter how much you do love it, its not going to change her. You either accept the situation with all the flaws and drama or you don't and you let her and the situation go. This is stressful and I wasted so much time with her. Thank you for your imput Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 Yes she ask me for money all the time and I would give her whatever I could at the time Really!!!!! Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 Wow you're setting yourself up for all sorts of drama here. It's not for you to decide one way or the other whether she pursues a commitment with this guy to raise the kid together... at the end of the day, you getting in the middle of all this is not going to end well, and it's ultimately not your business what they decide to do with their lives. This ^^^^ is exactly what I am thinking. You are a 5th wheel and you need to get away from this situation. Find a girl without a baby and without another guy monopolizing her and your life. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 This ^^^^ is exactly what I am thinking. You are a 5th wheel and you need to get away from this situation. Find a girl without a baby and without another guy monopolizing her and your life. ^^^^^^ And, not asking for money, Link to comment
boltnrun Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 She is basically a prostitute. Trading her body for money. She doesn't love you but is using you. Someone better than her deserves your love. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 She is basically a prostitute. Trading her body for money. She doesn't love you but is using you. Someone better than her deserves your love. I was thinking the same thing! What a horrendous role model. That poor kid! Link to comment
catfeeder Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 She's given you firsthand notice of her capacity for disloyalty. This would be a no-brainer for me. Link to comment
madelineg Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 There's no way to get him out of the equation...and being a third wheel NEVER works out. I don't suggest getting in the way of their child living with their parents either. You're being played and he's most likely the father-lose her and find someone else! Link to comment
amanda88 Posted October 24, 2018 Author Share Posted October 24, 2018 There's no way to get him out of the equation...and being a third wheel NEVER works out. I don't suggest getting in the way of their child living with their parents either. You're being played and he's most likely the father-lose her and find someone else! thanks for the advice . Even though she is begging me to stay with her I just can't put myself threw that Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 thanks for the advice . Even though she is begging me to stay with her I just can't put myself threw that Did you tell her you can't give her any more money because you're in debt & can't afford it any more? Link to comment
amanda88 Posted October 25, 2018 Author Share Posted October 25, 2018 Did you tell her you can't give her any more money because you're in debt & can't afford it any more? I stopped giving her money along time ago Link to comment
amanda88 Posted October 27, 2018 Author Share Posted October 27, 2018 There's no way to get him out of the equation...and being a third wheel NEVER works out. I don't suggest getting in the way of their child living with their parents either. You're being played and he's most likely the father-lose her and find someone else! yeah there getting married now so I guess it all worked out for the best. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 yeah there getting married now so I guess it all worked out for the best. Wasn't she begging you to stay with her just a few days ago?: thanks for the advice . Even though she is begging me to stay with her I just can't put myself threw that How fickle of her. Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Indeed. That appears to be consistent with your refusal of money assists. Chalk this one up to experience. Link to comment
No1 Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 you will see that this is the BEST thing that has happened to you. You now have room in your life and heart for someone better...I mean way way better. Link to comment
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