Ugbede Posted April 9, 2017 Share Posted April 9, 2017 Hi! I discovered recently that My girlfriend of almost a year is cheating on me. i hacked into her phone and discovered different messages. she even transfers pornographic contents through her phone with them. she does all these things for money because i discovered most of these people are big men.i tried to monitor her movements and whenever she wants to go and meet someone she would lie that she wants to see one of her uncle. i confronted her and she was shocked to know that i know everything and the whole news went to her mum. ive told her to change her lines and cut off with those people. she has deleted all their contacts from her phones but the lines hasnt been changed. i just discovered she's still chatting with some of them. i really love her and would want to settle with her but with this happening now i dont know what to do. kindly advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heavy Posted April 9, 2017 Share Posted April 9, 2017 Ok first off you hacked her phone which is wrong, then you discover something that is of a major red flag. Next move is you asked her to stop and she hasn't, actions speak louder then words and you are best to break up with her and move on with life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sandyshhh Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Hi! I discovered recently that My girlfriend of almost a year is cheating on me. i hacked into her phone and discovered different messages. she even transfers pornographic contents through her phone with them. she does all these things for money because i discovered most of these people are big men.i tried to monitor her movements and whenever she wants to go and meet someone she would lie that she wants to see one of her uncle. i confronted her and she was shocked to know that i know everything and the whole news went to her mum. ive told her to change her lines and cut off with those people. she has deleted all their contacts from her phones but the lines hasnt been changed. i just discovered she's still chatting with some of them. i really love her and would want to settle with her but with this happening now i dont know what to do. kindly advice If she does it for money, then help her out financially maybe? so she doesnt need to see them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 I would never marry someone who is cheating on me, but that's just me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scoe141 Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 i just discovered she's still chatting with some of them. The old saying, once a cheater always a cheater, certainly applies here. Sounds like you're setting yourself up for some miserable times. Only you can change the course of your future at this point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt3939 Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Do you gain financially from her? If so you might want to watch southpark s13e09. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ugbede Posted April 10, 2017 Author Share Posted April 10, 2017 Do you gain financially from her? If so you might want to watch southpark s13e09. I dont gain anything from her. i think she just full of luxury. any money that comes into her hands she buys things Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ugbede Posted April 10, 2017 Author Share Posted April 10, 2017 Ive been doing that. ive tried to sacrifice and put my best in the relationship but she's never satisfied Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ugbede Posted April 10, 2017 Author Share Posted April 10, 2017 My girlfriend has some character flaws and we dont seem to agree together at times. its as if i go right and she goes left. when ever she does something wrong, i'l have to remind her before she appologises. no remorse at all for any wrong. am a very dedicated and committed christian while she only goes to church on sundays and hardly prays. whenever i ask her to pray or come to church with me she gets angry and it'l end by argument. what interests her is when u say lets go out and have a drink or go for dinner, party club and am not that club type. i force myself to go extra mile because i love her. she's always on social media and at times gets carried away and ignores me when i talk to her. we dont think the same, i love her though but am having a double mind on her now because i want to marry her. kindly advice on what to do please Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indea08 Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Okay first of all, just because she is a different type of person than you does not mean her personality traits are "character flaws". Second of all, many of the things you've listed about her are what make her WHO SHE IS. If you don't like who she is then let her find someone who does. She's not your puppet, she's her own person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanzi Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Wanting to go left when you go right does not equate to her having "character flaws" and she shouldn't be made to apologise for making her own choices. You are two very different people with two very different views/opinions. If you can't accept that and work with that then it makes you incompatible. "Reminding" her for to apologise every time she chooses to do something you don't agree with is oppressive. It sounds as though you are trying to change her into the person you want her to be and to feel bad for being the person she aready is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lester Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 "i really love her and would want to settle with her but with this happening now i dont know what to do. kindly advice" - Lust, infatuation or whatever..., but it's certainly not love. For it to be love, there HAS to be two of you! You can't fix this like a broken toaster. RUN. While you waste your time, your real wife has been, and still is waiting for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 A no-brainer, she'd be history. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Threads have been merged. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 i want to marry her. kindly advice on what to do please All her "character flaws", together with her cheating....... my only advice would be to dump her so fast she won't know what hit her and most definitely DO NOT marry her. You two are incompatible (imo). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted April 10, 2017 Share Posted April 10, 2017 Sorry this sounds like a mess. You hacked into her phone and tracked her and she is prostituting? Then you told her mother? How old is she?Hi! i hacked into her phone and discovered different messages. she even transfers pornographic contents through her phone with them. she does all these things for money .i tried to monitor her movements and whenever she wants to go and meet someone she would lie that she wants to see one of her uncle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unreasonable Posted April 11, 2017 Share Posted April 11, 2017 Didn't read. If they cheat before marriage, run far, far away, regardless of the circumstances. You're going to be dealing with this crap for the rest of your life if you do, it's no way to live. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimthzz Posted April 11, 2017 Share Posted April 11, 2017 I avoid train wrecks as often as possible. So easy to just step aside and let it go by. Standing in front of it barreling down the tracks is folly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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