doverf5ve Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I would like to understand why a guy would suggest going on a double date with a girl he's only met twice. He seems to find it amusing and wants to help his friend out. Surely this happens when you have confirmed that you are already dating? Link to comment
Me82 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I Agree. Could be fun. Why? I think is because he likes you?! Link to comment
SpottiOtti Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 You two can still continue to get to know each other when there are other people around. Also, now you get to see him interact with a group. That can be very telling of a person's temperament and personality. Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Just a social activity! Nothing strange about it... no different that taking you to a party... he probably thinks it will be fun for both of you. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 you seem so suspicious of this guy, overall, Paranu. Is it this particular guy or are you prone to looking for 'wrong' in the guys you meet? This is totally normal. And it gives you both a chance to see each other around other people. Plus, it could just be fun. It's dating. Link to comment
RedDress Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Actually, I think it would be more fun when one couple is not an established couple. Established couples can sometimes forget what it's like when you are first dating (through no fault of their own - they are in a 'comfortable' stage). That can add pressure to the 'new' couple to be more couple-y. If you are both in your earlier stages, there is less pressure. It's more about fun and hanging out with new people. I wouldn't read too much into it. I think it sounds fun. Link to comment
doverf5ve Posted August 13, 2013 Author Share Posted August 13, 2013 you seem so suspicious of this guy, overall, Paranu. Is it this particular guy or are you prone to looking for 'wrong' in the guys you meet? This is totally normal. And it gives you both a chance to see each other around other people. Plus, it could just be fun. It's dating. Well I was thinking that if he likes me, surely he wants to spend more time alone with me? I suppose he likes to mix it up as he mentioned it could be fun several times. The hard part is finding a friend who wouldn't fancy him and be interested in his mate instead Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 Well I was thinking that if he likes me, surely he wants to spend more time alone with me? I suppose he likes to mix it up as he mentioned it could be fun several times. The hard part is finding a friend who wouldn't fancy him and be interested in his mate instead If someone likes you, they want to introduce you to their friends. If you're with a guy who doesn't, this can be a red flag. I'm not sure what you mean by 'the hard part is finding a friend who wouldn't fancy him and be interested in his mate instead'. Link to comment
j.man Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 With the woman I'm seeing now, we did a triple date for our 4th date. They were all her friends. It was a good time, and we spent time alone with each other for about an hour afterward. Don't sweat it. Link to comment
doverf5ve Posted August 13, 2013 Author Share Posted August 13, 2013 If someone likes you, they want to introduce you to their friends. If you're with a guy who doesn't, this can be a red flag. I'm not sure what you mean by 'the hard part is finding a friend who wouldn't fancy him and be interested in his mate instead'. well it's a double date, he's bringing his guy friend and I have to bring a lady friend Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 well it's a double date, he's bringing his guy friend and I have to bring a lady friend Does your friend HAVE to be interested in his mate, or just someone who can be good company for the evening? And are your friends so untrustworthy that you don't want to have them around your fella? By the way, years ago one of my friends had a boyfriend who was jaw-droppingly good looking, and a nice guy with it. All her friends secretly fancied him. Not one of us would either have shown it or done anything about it. A true friend wouldn't. Link to comment
j.man Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 I didn't know she was expected to bring her own friend along when you first posted. I thought maybe he just had a fun couple as friends who he thought you'd get along with. I actually take back my previous post. I think it's awkward to expect someone you've only dated twice before to meet your total stranger of a friend for a double date. I think it'd be one thing if you'd met the guy's friend and thought he'd be a good match for yours (on any level), but this is something else. I can think of 1,000 better things to do for a third date. I'd tell the guy that you like the idea, but that you'd rather get to know him a little more and maybe meet his friend as well before inviting one of yours to sit accross from him. There's a chance they couldn't get along. And if anything's more awkward than one third wheel, it's two.... third wheels... a fourth wheel... something like that... Link to comment
abitbroken Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 If someone likes you, they want to introduce you to their friends. If you're with a guy who doesn't, this can be a red flag. I'm not sure what you mean by 'the hard part is finding a friend who wouldn't fancy him and be interested in his mate instead'. I agree that he likes you and wants you to meet his friends. A double date is less intimidating then him taking you to meet a friend and say "here she is". So.....you think that the date of his friend is going to fall for your guy and want to be with him instead? is that what? It is not usual to go on a double date on the third date, but if the activity you are doing was planned before he met you (like a concert with a set date) or his friend suggested the double date - don't overanalyze it. The third date is still getting to know eachother with no pressure. If you only go out with his friends from here on out, that's another matter Link to comment
abitbroken Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 well it's a double date, he's bringing his guy friend and I have to bring a lady friend Oh so he wants to set up his guy friend so you can all go out. I think this would be more usual once you got to know his friend. But who knows, might be fun. Maybe it will be a fun way for you two to get to know eachother by meeting eachother's friends. Instead of being suspicious, maybe ask him about it. Maybe tell him that not a lot of your friends are single and you don't know what the male friend is like - or tell him you would rather just spend time with him alone. Or what about he introduce you to the friend and then go off on your own. Then you can think of who you'd set him up with another time?? I agree that this might be fun, but its too early in the game. and if it goes badly, you will be talking more to your friend Link to comment
doverf5ve Posted August 18, 2013 Author Share Posted August 18, 2013 I agree that he likes you and wants you to meet his friends. A double date is less intimidating then him taking you to meet a friend and say "here she is". So.....you think that the date of his friend is going to fall for your guy and want to be with him instead? is that what? It is not usual to go on a double date on the third date, but if the activity you are doing was planned before he met you (like a concert with a set date) or his friend suggested the double date - don't overanalyze it. The third date is still getting to know each other with no pressure. If you only go out with his friends from here on out, that's another matter So i turn up with my friend explaining that its a double date and that she should be my wing women on this mission. Turns out his guy friend couldn't make it this really was his idea all along so it was awkward for my friend on the day. Anyway, she did her thing and tried to suss him out. She basically told me that from his body language he sees me as a friend and seems to be secretive when it comes to opening up about himself. She had some time alone and asked what he thought about me? He told her that he thought i was a funny, friendly and genuine girl. Nothing more.... He wants to go on another date, i am not sure what i should do, he hasn't made any moves..... Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted August 18, 2013 Share Posted August 18, 2013 That is helpful intel from your friend! Ask him if he sees you as a friend or more than a friend. Link to comment
doverf5ve Posted August 23, 2013 Author Share Posted August 23, 2013 Uh..... That was weird. i agree, this whole double date thing should only happen when your established already and can set your friend up, ive asked my girl friends and they think that hes one of those who want to intercept your single gf network by using the dd as a suggestion....not cool Link to comment
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