MD Geist Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Over the years I won't lie I have used porn like the tool it is to astain from actual real life sexual activity and yes it has been fun many great nights and early mornings I don't let it dicate my life like it does with so many men I know where its out of control and they pay for it and such. However recently I made a choice both spritially and most important my personal growth that I was just no longer going to watch porn again, I had these DVD's and Tape laying around from the prevoius roomates and took em out side and had fun with sledgehammer. I learned a lot over the years by watching porn how a woman works somewhat, what turns me on, what I like however I got tired of it you know I want to feel the emotional part of making love and this was just flat out empty. Id really like to put my focus in a better place than watching someone who's trying to be sexy live out your fantasys for you. I felt like it's just time to "grow up" a bit and put my thoughts in a more positive state of mind even while I masturbate. Its like what the hell I'm watching this for!?!?. It does nothing for me!. Any thoughts? Women especially!. I'm I still considered a Man? or is my Man card revoked?. Link to comment
hers Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Do you think watching porn makes you a man? Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Out with the porn! In with the fleshlight! Link to comment
zzprometheuszz Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 ehhhh.....you should know that mastrubation is completely normal and healthy. if watching porn cause you stress or has taken over your life then yes you should stop. It can become addictive. but it doesn't sound like you are addicted anyway. btw, who pays for porn now a days....it's all free on the internet Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 ehhhh.....you should know that mastrubation is completely normal and healthy. if watching porn cause you stress or has taken over your life then yes you should stop. It can become addictive. but it doesn't sound like you are addicted anyway. btw, who pays for porn now a days....it's all free on the internet People who don't know any better. ^__^ Link to comment
waveseer Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Here is the thing about living vicariously, if anybody is having a real experience and fully enjoying themselves (and with porn this is debatable) it is the participants and not the spectators! Link to comment
Cheeks18 Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 This no porn thing sounds like a horrible idea. Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 This no porn thing sounds like a horrible idea. I couldn't do it. Porn for me is more about blowing off steam than sexual gratification. Link to comment
WindowTo Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I think this issue has to be taken in context with each person. I think that many people can use porn in moderation and to their benefit, while it can cause issues for others. For example porn can really change sex for a lot of people, it can cause people to become much more "visual" and thus need A LOT of visual stimulation more than anything else to get turned on. It can probably cause people to want to have sex in a different way or for different reasons as well. I think the best thing to do is to step back and try and experiment/evaluate how it affects you and if you want that influence in your life. Link to comment
Lecturer Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Heh, porn doesn't make you a man. Sorry to alter the topic a bit.. but, has anyone else ever had a person/relationship that caused them to basically lose interest in porn? Like.. in a satisfied/fulfilled sort of way, so that you just didn't really need it anymore? Basically, I'm wondering if any guy has started dating a girl that was "so much" that he just didn't care for porn anymore... but this is open for both genders to answer with respect to either gender... so women can answer, or even our rainbow friends like hex . Link to comment
Cheeks18 Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I couldn't do it. Porn for me is more about blowing off steam than sexual gratification. I would have to agree, sometimes its comedy!!!! I love there amazing acting abilities!!! There is some crazy funny stuff out on the internet porn world!! Link to comment
g84 Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 If you feel that this is what is best for you at this time, then i think it's a good idea. I'm I still considered a Man? or is my Man card revoked?. It definitely doesn't make you less of a man or anything! lol There are a lot of people who don't care very much for porn, and some that might only view it occasionally. Do what is best for you : ]. Link to comment
WindowTo Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I will tell you one thing, I think that watching porn has increased my standards for physical beauty... when a girl is naked. No bringing home the ugliest girl at the party for me Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I will tell you one thing, I think that watching porn has increased my standards for physical beauty... when a girl is naked. No bringing home the ugliest girl at the party for me It's funny. For me, when I was 18-22, I was in fantastic shape and would have sex with guys in that shape. When I was 26ish, I was beefier but I still managed to have sex with guys that were like that too. Now than I'm 30, my perfect body is just around the corner and I find myself wanting that again. I wonder if it just reflects where our own bodies are... whether that affects what we seek out. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I still consider you a man. Of course. Hope you enjoy your choice and it leads you to good things. Link to comment
kaoticbaby Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Heh, porn doesn't make you a man. Sorry to alter the topic a bit.. but, has anyone else ever had a person/relationship that caused them to basically lose interest in porn? Like.. in a satisfied/fulfilled sort of way, so that you just didn't really need it anymore? Basically, I'm wondering if any guy has started dating a girl that was "so much" that he just didn't care for porn anymore... but this is open for both genders to answer with respect to either gender... so women can answer, or even our rainbow friends like hex . mm...i doubt it. i gotta say i'm pretty fulfilled sexually, and i still watch porn (and i'm a girl.) i don't think watching porn has anything to do with sexual fulfillment. my boyfriend isn't always around! Link to comment
KG Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Porn fills the void when there is no sex on the horizon. However, I would like to think that if I do find someone, I probably would not need it as often. And it doesn't reflect on you manliness. Link to comment
DropToZero Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 great choice, I did this a while ago too... it's not easy. Actually I think it's considered MORE man-like to try and resist every urge you have... sexually or just in stress. Giving into every urge makes you weak, just my opinion, not gonna argue with anyone. Learning how to control yourself and your every whim is part of growing up... Porn is not just a sex issue, it's a power issue. Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 great choice, I did this a while ago too... it's not easy. Actually I think it's considered MORE man-like to try and resist every urge you have... sexually or just in stress. Giving into every urge makes you weak, just my opinion, not gonna argue with anyone. Learning how to control yourself and your every whim is part of growing up... Porn is not just a sex issue, it's a power issue. I disagree. Giving into every urge makes you satisfied. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 great choice, I did this a while ago too... it's not easy. Actually I think it's considered MORE man-like to try and resist every urge you have... sexually or just in stress. Giving into every urge makes you weak, just my opinion, not gonna argue with anyone. Learning how to control yourself and your every whim is part of growing up... Porn is not just a sex issue, it's a power issue. I agree too. I just didn't want to imply that men who watched porn were immature. I'm really glad my boyfriend doesn't watch porn. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I dont think that viewing porn or not viewing porn makes you any more or less of a man. People's own personal views will shape how they view the issue. Link to comment
MD Geist Posted August 14, 2009 Author Share Posted August 14, 2009 I must say not a bad choice at all. My mind is a very healthy state and I'm not having as many urges to have time to myself if you know what I mean. I still do but not with porn anymore. I'm looking into getting a fleshlight in the next couple of weeks other than that I can't complain. Link to comment
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