crazy09 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Would you be bothered if you found out your SO was significantly more experienced than you? If so why? Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 yes.....i have a need to win Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 No, if anything he'll be more experienced in the bedroom. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 No, if they were in long-term relationships...yes, if they racked up numbers because of casual sex. For me it has to do with the value they placed on physical intimacy..if they saw it as a loving act then I wouldn't have a problem..if they saw it as sport and entertainment to be had with just anyone then that would turn me off. Link to comment
Catdancer Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Umm...I have alot of experience in the bedroom, so finding someone who was equal to myself was awesome!! I've been with several partners who are not as "adventurous" as I am and I was bored. My bf is as experienced as I am, but in different areas, so we have ALOT of fun!! Link to comment
crazy09 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 yes.....i have a need to win I also used to have that feeling and am trying get over that type of view towards sex. I feel this need to have more experience or at least equal experience. It's weird (insecure) and I hate it! Link to comment
philove Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 No, if they were in long-term relationships...yes, if they racked up numbers because of casual sex. For me it has to do with the value they placed on physical intimacy..if they saw it as a loving act then I wouldn't have a problem..if they saw it as sport and entertainment to be had with just anyone then that would turn me off. I share the exact same opinion as you. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 experience as a number, no. experience as in we don't seem compatible, more or less even, then yes, it wouldn't work. Link to comment
Umlunguusa Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Not even, all my exes have been. well, not all of them, but I kind've find it a turn on...and I lost my virginity to an experienced partner, and she found it really cute/sweet I was giving my virginity to her. lol, what's the deal with virginity? it's not that big of a deal anyways... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Not even, all my exes have been. well, not all of them, but I kind've find it a turn on...and I lost my virginity to an experienced partner, and she found it really cute/sweet I was giving my virginity to her. lol, what's the deal with virginity? it's not that big of a deal anyways... it's the myth that you were their first and the person will remember you forever. it's also like a badge of valor to some people saying like 'yeah, i'm so cool i took their virginity.' Link to comment
waveseer Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I will remember my first forever, he smelled goooooooood! Link to comment
crazy09 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 Not even, all my exes have been. well, not all of them, but I kind've find it a turn on...and I lost my virginity to an experienced partner, and she found it really cute/sweet I was giving my virginity to her. lol, what's the deal with virginity? it's not that big of a deal anyways... You mean being a virgin is no big deal or losing your virginity is no big deal? I have respect for people who can keep their virginity past 15 or 16. There is so much pressure out there to lose it, and I feel like those who wait until they are ready are strong willed individuals which is totally attractive. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I wouldn't have a problem with it. And considering i'm a virgin....i'd love to have someone teach me a thing or two. Link to comment
WorkingInLin Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Well, considering that I'm a virgin who has no experience whatsoever, I wouldn't be really surprised. And no, I wouldn't have a problem with it. Link to comment
Umlunguusa Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 You mean being a virgin is no big deal or losing your virginity is no big deal? I have respect for people who can keep their virginity past 15 or 16. There is so much pressure out there to lose it, and I feel like those who wait until they are ready are strong willed individuals which is totally attractive. I meant that it's not that big of a deal to keep it until marriage. I don't think it's important to keep it that long, I just think it's important to lose it to someone you love, which I didn't do. I wish I did, although I had wished I waited a bit longer. Link to comment
EQD Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 at present i think we are equally talented. we dont ask eachother why. we just enjoy it as we should. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 if my SO was more experianced than me, hell yea it would bother me cause ive been around the block in my day. I have set standards for how many men a woman i date has been with. call it double standard but its my standard. Link to comment
Cardinal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 No. My partners are likely to have more experience than I do, both in number and otherwise. Doesn't bother me at all. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 No, if they were in long-term relationships...yes, if they racked up numbers because of casual sex. For me it has to do with the value they placed on physical intimacy..if they saw it as a loving act then I wouldn't have a problem..if they saw it as sport and entertainment to be had with just anyone then that would turn me off. I think the same. if my SO was more experianced than me, hell yea it would bother me cause ive been around the block in my day. I have set standards for how many men a woman i date has been with. call it double standard but its my standard. lol, I am curious what that number is! Link to comment
tmp02161248 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I actually would welcome it since I still haven't been able to fully explore my sexual fantasies Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Would you be bothered if you found out your SO was significantly more experienced than you? If so why? I'd just be a bit bothered b.c I'd picture him having hot sex in all kinds of scenario's with a bunch of women. It wouldn't bother me too long.. Plus it would explain why he's been the only one to give me an O. Lol. Bottomline: thank god he keeps his past to himself. I'd just rather not know. With one of my ex's, I knew and he told me about how experienced he was. At that time I was not. I'd never had a LTR and had only slept a few times with a few guys. Hadn't tried out many positions and places either. It made me extra self conscious to try out new positions since I felt like SUCH a novice. JUst totally clueless and him being so experienced made me shy away even more. Link to comment
Knead2Know Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 It doesn't bother me if I am more experienced or he is... It's a really valid point about not wanting to know, I told this to my mother and it stuck with me in my relationships.."don't ask questions you can't handle the answer to"... Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I wouldnt be bothered by it. However, if she had significantly more partners than I then I would hold her to a higher standard meaning that she should have more sexual knowledge. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I'd probably have a problem with it if she had a couple hundred under her belt. That's quite a difference. Like 200 to 0. I wouldn't mind having someone teach me some things...but........I don't have to be taught eveything in a couple of hours. haha Link to comment
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