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I'm one of those kind off people that believes that everything happens for a reason... Still I can't find a reason why I fell in love with my best friend... It's bin bout 7 and a half months since the day I fell in love with her... And I've done everything that has come to my mind, November I had to go to Hong Kong ( I used to live their but I had to go back to activate my residency in Spain) I brought hefr back a really nice bracelet, for Xmas I got her a CD that had wat she called "our" song on it (don't know why she told me it was our song...guess she kinda liked the idea that we had something we could share...) Valentines day I sent some flowers to her house. And in between these every two months that I giveher somethin or do somethin special Im always writng her poems spending virtually every weekend with her every spare second I have i try to spend with her and every second Im not with her im thinkin bout her... I havn't asked her to be my GF because of some uncertanties that I have, if im gonna ask her out i wanna be 100% sure of the answer. She has seemed pretty happy bout everythin, but to tell you the truth im not sure wat to do her B-Day is in 3 months I wanna do somethin really nice 4 her just like the title "Do or Die" Im tired of feelin this way, im tired of dedicating my life to her, im tired of seeing her face every day and thinkin when will be the day were together... I'm tired of eating breathing and sleeping with her on my mind... Im tired of all of this and im outa ideas, hell if im goin out might as well go out with a bang, right? What I do 4 her B-Day is my last attempt to see if anythin will happen between us. I need an idea cause im all out... And if the B-Day thing dont work i need any advice on how to get over her 'cause that girl is my life, and deep down inside I know that I will never truley stop loving her Ive tried countless times but every one has a limit and I think I've reached mine... I need to learn not to love her as impossible as it may be for me I need to... 'cause I got a feeling that nothin is gonna happen the 13 of June... If anybody could just answer this I would be really gratefull "How do you forget the one thing you want to live for the one thing you love?"...

DaveW, That is some really good things to keep in mind exspecially since your goin through a tough time... I will always remembr what you have written here just in case i ever find my self in your shoes (I'm 99.9% sure that I will) Thank You very much for sharing those thoughts im sure they will be of good use to alot of people... Keep Thinking those types of thoughts and you will be great. OK1

seems that willingly or unwillingy you have started step 2 of the "no contact" rule... make sure you keep reading it to refresh your mind!!!! Now it may be too early though and after the week if things seem to be getting a little uneasy why dont you try falling back to the no contact phase??? Anyway I would recomend asking and Admin or a moderator they would probably give you better advice.... Good Luck, OK1

i wouldn't go to the bar... Use that thursday for sortin out somethings, maybey go to a movie and enjoy a quiet dinner, but I wouldn't show my face at that bar this early in the "no contact" face... I would wait atleas two weeks more taht way you can be sure taht you are not their to test her like you probably would do if you go... (consciously or sub-consciously) Hope everything works out OK1

ummmm im not quite sure, though if you already have some if you shave it off it will grow back quicker and thicker... hope that helps even if its just a bit... Then again if you need more info use a search engine Good Luck finding your answer, OK1

That was embarrasing... Avman probably is right, poppyseed my apolegies that I did not take into account all the details of the post (didn't realise you were a female)... I also wanted to say that I am very sorry if somebody has caused you that much pain because no human deserves to live through that... I sincererly hope that that post was used as a way of healing your self and not teaching others how to destroy a women's heart... Again I appologize for my mistake!! Best of wishes, OK1

well just in case you dont know waht masturbation is....here is the Oxfor American Desk Dictionary and Thesaurus defenition just for you!!!! mas-tur-bate: arouse oneself sexually or cause (another person) to be arroused by manual stimulation of the genitals if you already knew (whch is probably the case and don't know how) jsut look it up on any search engine im sure that you will be able to find something... In any case if all else fails just "play" with yourself

Remind me again why we needed to know this???? Seems like BS to me, why somebody would do that to somebody they supposedly once "loved" is beyond my comprehension... Maybe somebody might find it usefull but I know I won't... In my opinion this is a waste of time and space

I repeat you should call him...If he doesnt show up any more ask him... Hey havnt seen you at that place for a while if he tells you beecause u werent theri bla bla bla tell him o I was a little busy that day man but seriously it sounds by what you said That you want him shadowing u... Is this the situation???

wow... tahts some pretty serious stuff expecialy if hes a married man... i think the final dessicion is up to you wether to tell his wife or not... But take into account why your doing it are you telling her because you want to be with her or are you telling her because you think what your friend is doing is wrong... But if you are gonna tell her in hopes of being with her keep your mouth shut...

do you like him or not??? If you do and dont wanna call him because of the V-Day thing it sounds kinda stupid, he probably thincks you found some one else and forgot about him, talk to him and explain waht whent on and why you didnt wanna call him...

Well by waht your tellin us it seems she likes you but is to shy to tell you... like they said above talk to her be her friend and along the way just drop in little comments that will make her think ur interestd... Good Luck OK1

I know what im about to say might sound nearly impossible to do but atleast try to do it... when ever you see him or are in one of those situations in which you said you want to look at him and smile but just cant... take a deep breathe relax walk over and try and spark up a converstaion... if that is to hard then try and motivate yourself think what might happen if you to hit it off or what might happen if he really likes you but since you dont make a first move he looses interest!!! and if all else fails break the ice in a group converstion like they said above Hope everuthing goes well!!! OK1

Are you a private eye??? probably not though you would make a pretty good one by the looks of things (no hard feelings) just sight tight and see what happens...

Hey its a good thing she enjoys bein with you!!!! Now let her contact you... now about how to act, read steps 2 and 3.. link removed Hope it works out!!!! OK1