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Please don't judge me sydsmami. I am not using this forum to boast. I appreciate all of the advice I've received from here but you just don't know how much I love her. My feelings run so deeply that it hurts to not be with her. I don't know if you've ever been in this position, but it's not fun and nothing to boast about.

Okay everybody, let me tell you how it went. I met her at her house Friday night. She decided to make dinner for me. The kids (4 and 5 years old) were occupied with several disney dvd's for the night in their bedroom. After dinner we had a few glasses of wine. I finally worked up the courage to tell her what her husband has been doing behind her back. Well, just like a couple of you said, she already knew!! She told me that she learned to live with it because his job provides a good living for them. She had been planning for the right time to tell me that she is interested in building a relationship with me!! I was so happy to hear that! I leaned over and we kissed very passionately. We made love several times throughout the night. I really want this to work. I now plan on encouraging my friend to leave his wife for his girlfriend so he will be out of the picture.

I asked her to join me for dinner this friday night. She said yes. I think she has a feeling of my intentions toward her. I'm planning on making my move on her and not say anything about my friend cheating on her. This is kind of a different approach than I had planned but at least this way she wont be hurt by the news about her husband, and we can just concentrate on us. What do you guys think? Is this a good idea?

Just to update everyone, the guy didn't even go home on his days off this week because He took his girlfriend on a road trip to Lake Tahoe, Nevada. He told his wife that he has to go to "court" this weekend (remember he's a cop). I have talked to him numerous times about being faithful to his wife and he agrees that he is doing wrong but he says that he will never stop cheating. I forgot to tell you guys that he visits brothels in Tijuana, Mexico a few times a year. He also calls on local prostitutes from time to time.

I've done the online dating thing off and on for about a year now. I have dated several women just once or twice. I dated 2 women on a long term basis. I also met my girlfriend with my personals ad. Okay now I'll break it down for you... The once or twice women didn't matter so the personal ad stayed online. The women that I dated long term were just for dating and sex. So the ad still stayed online because I was eventually looking for more than sex. I met someone special that I clicked with and she became my GIRLFRIEND! The ad came down immediately when she became my girlfriend because I started to care for her and didn't need to meet anyone else PERIOD! If someone has a personals ad while having a girlfriend or boyfriend that means they are looking to meet someone. If they have self-esteem issues and just want to see what kind of response they get, then it is likely that they will cheat anyway whether they meet someone online or at the mall. My advice is leave before she hurts you. There are plenty of women out there that are confident enough to stay with one man and don't need self-assurance from other men.

My friend works about 150 miles from home. He has cheated many times but now actually has a girlfriend near work. He also has a small apartment near work where he stays during his 4 day work week. Meanwhile his wife is at home taking care of 2 small children. She has no knowledge of the cheating since it is happening so far from home. He goes back home on his weekends and plays the husband/father role. I have developed feelings for his wife and would like to clue her in on his cheating not only in hopes of her becoming available but because I don't like what he's doing to her. I'd appreciate any advice I could get. Should I tell her? Is there a way to help her find out without actually telling her so my friend wouldn't be furious with me? By the way, my friend is a cop and carries a gun so I'm worried about how he would react.