JesseMac

I havent posted anything in awhile. Ive talked to my ex more and more, she starts conversations with me on aol a lot. Shes come to me with help for homework, and has asked about my family and how they were doin. I dont believe shes over me, because she doesnt give any sign of being over me, and I would know if she was truly over me. But I dont know what to do, sometime I think I should just give up, and other times I think I have a chance. She still gets jealous, about things. But I dont know what to do, its been almost 2 months now. Everything still feels the same. I want to give her a chance before I give someone else a chance, because I want to know for sure about me and her. Im just lost and I dont know what to do, I need some help.

Your right, I will do that, because right now im not so sure. So I'll just take sometime and think about it. I'll get back to you, when some things start to happen. Thank you very much for everything!

Im kind of confused, are you telling me to move on? I understand what they are saying and its helpful but what am I supposed to think of it? Or how am I supposed to relate to it?

Im so sorry to what your going threw that really sucks, i thought i had it bad. But i havent ever really talked to her let alone seen her, its been a week since ive said a word to her. I would have done the same things you did if i didnt have my brother to help me. Your right about when i get a response from her but its because i dont talk to her much anymore, atleast for right now. We are both very stubborn. The reason she broke up with me is basically because she wanted space, she said other things but they didnt mean anything i know its just because she wants to be free for right now so ill give it to her. Im just affraid she wont give me the chance to see who i really am now. Because i think she would change her mind if she saw. Do you have any other suggestions? Thank you very much.

Im sorry to hear about what your going threw. But when you say dont push it, do you mean let her come to me? Or should i initiate a conversation?

Believe me if i didnt have the feelings for her and think that she was over me i would move on, but i dont believe that shes over me and i dont think shes lost them at all. Otherwise i would move on, i am, but i do think that us together again can happen.

Ive had some other posts i dont know if you have seen them, so i will let you know how things have been going... My ex is a very stubborn, bullheaded and confused girl. She gives off the impression that she is stronger than she really is. She does this so her friends wont ask about me, but when they do she gives them a short answer, like if its meant to be it will, but mainly just tries to brush them off cause its hard for her to talk about it/me. Recently a friend of hers asked her is she still thought about me and she said "yea i do, he was a big part of my life." Its been over a month and she said that about a week ago. I told her at one point on AOL that "i didnt want it anymore" she tried to ask what but i didnt answer just said i had to go and signed off. I wasnt rude or anything, but my friend who is friends with her ssaid that it made her mad, but she could tell my ex was thinking about things. I told her that because i didnt want her to think she had me. Was that smart? After that i was kind of hard to get i didnt talk to her at all really. But last sunday i asked her if she wanted to hangout on sunday as friends, and she said "that sounds like a lot of fun, but i have a lot of homework and im feeling alittle under the weather, but maybe another day!" I know she was honest about it because her girlfriends that i am friends with told me they were going over there. She has never wanted to be friends with an ex before, but she wants to with me. Do you think its a sign that she is still keeping the door for us open. About two weeks ago i told her i didnt know if i could be friends with her. And i know that it made sad so when i asked her i think it made her happy in a way. Just tell me what you think about everything and what i should do about contacting her. Thanks!

Thank you all very mush for you help and advice its been a big help, feel free to leave anymore suggestions. Thanks again!

Wait are you talking to me or to someone else because I am talking about my ex girlfriend?

I did plead to her once but that was the night we broke up. Ever since then I was very understanding and made it very easy for her which most people dont do. I was so understanding that she asked me why I was so understanding. I said I understood why she did it and I wasnt mad at her and I dont hate her. I know that she was honest to me on sunday because one of her friends that im friends with (shes a girl) went over to her house with some other girls so i know she was honest. And I told her about 2 weeks ago that I didnt no if i could be friends with her and I know that made her really sad. I really have healed, I have been doing a lot i got out with friends and i work out, and I have healed, I just want a second chance because deep down I know she wants too. But she is very bullheaded. I have never brought up the relationship when I have talked to her. When I avoid talking to her I am very kind, but when I do it she does it also. So its like a game going back and forth. I want her to know that I just want to hangout with friends but I cant call her and I wont but how do I get her to see that?

Its been a month since me and my girlfriend broke up. I talked to her online last sunday and asked her if she would want to hangout just as friends because it been awhile. She said "that sounds like a lot of fun but I have a lot of homework and I am feeling a little under the weather, but maybe another day!" My friend recently asked her if she still thinks about me and she said "yea i do, he was a big par of my life." She has never wanted to be friends with any of her ex's before, but she wants to be friends with me, she has said to me she doesnt want to lead me on but doesnt want to push me away. Do you think that her wanting to be friends is a sign that she wants to get back together and that by her still thinking of me? What should I do about hanging out with her? Do I ask her again or do I wait for her to ask me?

Im not supriesed at all that she hasnt called or anything, I have never expected her too. I was playing games with her cause she was with me. She gives off the impression to everyone that shes stronger than she really is. Im affraid that if i call her, she'll think that im still having a hard time with the break up and she'll gain more confidence. Im fine but i know thats what she'll think so what do i do?

What do you suggest or what should I do to show her that I am in control. Im not really sure how to do that. Thank you very much.

Thanks you for your advice I apreciate it. But, she knows how I feel, Im just giving her, her space and giving her time cause thats what she and everyone else said I should do. I want her to come to me but I dont no if she will, I think shes thinking that I will come to her and I dont want to goto her I want her to come to me. I think shes trying to play games with me. She might not be but I dont no for sure.

Well its been one month since my girlfriend and I broke up. I still want the same things, I want a second chance. I havent had an actual conversation with her in over 2 weeks, she has tried to start them but I dont let her, i say i have to go and leave. I told her that I didnt want it anymore and left one time. Her friend said that it made her mad, but she could tell that my ex was thinking, do you think it was smart of me to say that? I said it because I thought my ex thought that she had me and I didnt want her to think that. Basically its been a month and I still want her, do you think shes the same?