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  1. EnolWolf
    This hasn't hit me until today, and it's something that I'm very curious about. My girlfriend tries to make me jealous. The sad thing for her is that I'm not the jealous type. Things she has done: 1. Ignored me and talked to other guys at work 2. Told some guy to blow in her eye (asked me how I felt about it) 3. Hugs other guys in front of me 4. Tells me stories about guys hitting on her 5. Told me a guy bit her on the neck last week 6. Told me a guy winked at her today 7. Makes comments about guys with huge muscles (I lack those) 8. Tells me compliments other guys give her 9. Let a guy use her chap stick I added this all together when I noticed that she would actually ask me if I'm jealous or if that bothers me in any way. My answer is no because it doesn't. In the end, I know she's all mine. 8) Anyway, I think she's the jealous type becuase she straight-out told me that she dislikes me hugging my girl friends in front of her. Then, she took it back so that she wouldn't make it seem like I could get to her. She keeps making comments about me going to Miami and messing with other girls as well. She also makes comments like "If a girl ever bites you, sits on your lap, or kisses you, I'll come to your house and mess you up." Even though she's not serious about messing me up, the fact is that she can't stand me being around other girls especially if she's not around. If she's so jealous, why try to make me jealous? I don't understand what one could accomplish. Any comments or advice would be appreciated. By the way, I think it's cute when she does those things. I try hard not to laugh.
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    By the way, I too think it's strange that you two post advice around the same time. It's even stranger that they are similar. I think you two should hang out . Thanks again!
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    Yes, goddesss38, that does sound familiar. She is the type leaning towards expensive things. When it comes to my bank account, she wants me to go all out, but when it comes to me a ring made from a rubber band will satisfy me. I love the simple things. (she drew something for me, not exactly a work of art, and I keep it on my wall just because it came from her). That's what makes my heart tick. Shysoul, I believe you are right about the whole parents thing. I've been thinking that as well. Spirit'saway, I like that concept. It's actually something I've been doing nearly my whole life. When it comes down to the one I love, I just want her to see me for me. I guess that's gonna take a while, so I'll submit. It sure would make things a lot easier. Thanks everyone!
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    That's just it. I want to end all communication with her, but I just don't understand how I can deal with her if the child is mine. If that's so, my feelings for her still won't change. No one can talk me into even trying to be on good terms with her anymore. I'm done with her. As for the supposed child. I'm hoping its not mine.
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    Yes, I've been with my recent girlfriend for 4.5 months. I've fallen deeply in love with her during this time and couldn't be happier! I'm sorry for being vague. The true point is that I don't want her contacting me. I'm not bitter. I just don't like her. She's a bad person in my book. She physically abused me, used me for sex, used me for money, humilated me in front of other friends and family, and cheated on me 5 times. Yes 5 times. So, I finally came to my senses and left her. It's been the best 7 months of my life since then. I think she wants to see me again. (sigh) She may have a child...
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    This all started yesterday. I had my phone on silent and I noticed that someone had called me restricted twice. I never answer restricted numbers. The day goes by and I get a text message from a number that I have long since forgotten. Her name was attached to the end. She asked how I was. I didn't reply until today. She asked me how my work was coming along and why I was going to Miami. To top it all off, she told me she loved me. That freaked me out. My previous posts state how terrible the relationship was. Anyway, I got an incredible feeling of strangeness hearing from her. The truth is that I don't want to hear from her. Why does she want to talk all of a sudden? Why is she telling me she loves me when I know she doesn't? I find this a little awkward and scary. Any comments would be greatly appreciated.
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    Some of the guesses you had were right. Her parents are extremely strict. I mean like waaaay overboard to the point where they actually control her. I feel bad for her. She says that she dreams of running away with me. She goes through so much dealing with her parents. Also, she was with her ex for only a couple of months. He broke it off saying that he just wanted her for sex and since he wasn't getting any, he cut her loose. This did the most damage. I love to make her feel attractive, but I dislike it when her head grows to the size of an air balloon. But hey, its not about me but her right? So, I'll deal with it. As long as she's happy; I'm happy. I'll let her take the lead. Thanks for the advice everyone!
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    She is a virgin and I've had sex in my previous relationship about 17 times. I don't see it as dirty or anything. She thinks all guys just want sex like you said. She always talks about "that thing between our legs." You were right though. The thought of having sex with her at the moment is far off. I don't want that anytime soon. I just want to pleasure her in other ways besides that. It was her decision to wait until marriage. Either way it doesn't bother me. I don't need sex to be close to her. Thanks for replying!
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    My girlfriend and I have been talking about sex more often, which is suprising because she's the type that wouldn't even think of that before marriage. We were talking last night and got on the subject of us being really close in a closet a work. We didn't do anything but kiss and tell each other how much we love each other for about 20 minutes. On the phone she told me about how she likes it when I pull her close to me (pelvis to pelvis.) I was surprised. Well, the conversation goes on and we talk about pleasuring each other in other ways besides sex. She told me that she wants to masturbate me. This nearly caused me to have a heart attack . She also said that she wants to touch me in certain places, but she's afraid I'll think of her along the lines of a (4 letter word that starts with an S and ends with a LUT.) I don't see why because she made it clear that something like that would cross her mind beacuse she loves me and wants to give me that pleasure. I explained to her that it would make me feel comfortable to know that she can open herself up to me and my body as well. I would never want make her to feel uncomfortable. As I spoke for myself, I told her that I can go without sex and that holding her in my arms all night would do me great pleasure. We wouldn't even have to speak. We would just share the feeling of belonging to someone. This is where the problem comes in. She told me all of the above sounds like lies. She thinks I have a hidden agenda. How should I handle this? What are your opinions? I had planned on telling her that if she continues to think that way about me, someone who she supposedly loves, that she can forget about sex even if we get married. That's just how much she offended me. Thanks for reading! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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    She's 17. We're doing better now. I believe you were right about the romance. Thanks for replying!
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    I agree. I guess there can be cons to honesty. I just don't want to build a fantasy though. I want to be completely realistic. I'll lighten up. Thanks for replying!
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    Thanks for replying
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    Pushy What do you want!? I'm giving all I've got You're expecting too much I won't change to what I'm not You make me so mad You have too much pride I'd rather not tell you I'll just hold it inside It's you who's not considerate You're demanding so much From the very first kiss To our very last touch It's all about you, But you can't even see The struggles I go through To still be me At first you were helping Now you're tearing me apart In a relationship of expectance Not from the heart What else can I do? I can only care I know what love is You haven't been there You have right to no opinion You can't even judge You just act omnipotent Like you don't have a smudge I'm not a bad guy Sometimes I feel that's not true I take it all in Just to be with you I've crawled through anguish Happily skipped through joy Embraced the disappointments Yet, you're always so coy You say I'm cheap That's not the case You're materialistic And that's a disgrace You know what I went through And how hard I tried You were there on the phone The last time I cried You aren't here now You've developed many wants If they can't be satisfied You endure my taunts We don't understand each other? I act like we do? What are you talking about? I haven't got a clue! I'm not playing games! I just don't understand How you can expect so much From just a simple man You call me conceited, Yet call yourself a princess Then twist it around To the point it's excess I'm not going to change I'm willing to compromise It's hard to see your vision Because I don't have your eyes Take this time to think Judge what you have done This is a true relationship Only missing fun
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    I didn't think I'd be back so soon, but here's an issue I have now. I wrote a poem describing how pushy my girlfriend USED TO BE on 1/22/05. Today I was going through all of my poems and nearly forgot that I wrote it. Since that time, I've fallen deeply in love with her. I feel that I can share anything with her, even if it may hurt her. I wrote this about her, so she has the right to know how she made me feel about 3 months ago. The poem, although not very sweet, nearly brought tears to my eyes. These were tears of happiness. It's because I'm proud of how far we've come in terms of our feelings. A lot has changed since that poem. I brought up this poem tonight and my girlfriend gets angry with me. Keep in mind that I haven't read the poem. I only explained what I felt at the time. Nothing bad about her was said. Also the poem was only into 2 months of our relationship. I feel that rocky starts are common. I would love to work for my relationship than have it perfect at the start. More appreciation... Anyway, I don't want to hurt her. I seem to already have. Is being honest so bad? I don't want to keep anything from her no matter what it is. In my book, if you truly love someone you can share anything. Is there a line drawn with honesty? Can it be too much? Am I too honest? Any comments will be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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    Thanks a lot! I really appreciate the feedback. She's doing a little better, but this is not going to end anytime soon. I'm going to stick with her as long as it takes. She's so good to me! I won't be going anywhere anytime. She is the only fish in my sea! Thanks again!
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    I will. I'm gonna do it to the point she thinks she's perfect in every way. She deserves it. Thanks for replying!
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    I just got off the phone with my girl. She told me she was feeling really down all day. From the time she woke up til the time she got home. She's been thinking about a lot of things. (One of her habits that I can't stand). She says she's feeling that I'm too good to be true and that everytime you have something good, it's just taken away and that's the way life goes. I don't like her saying things like that. I told her not to beat herself up for no reason by thinking about things that, in my book, WILL NEVER HAPPEN. Things like me leaving her or letting her down. She did mention that it would help if I constantly let her know that I do care. I've already planned on going overboard like a previous member suggested. Things are fine and couldn't be better, but her insecurity gets in the way sometimes. I love her so much and she truly is the best thing in my life! She just can't see what I see in her, and that makes me feel bad. Any suggestions or comments would be greatly appreciated! Thanks for reading.
  18. EnolWolf
    Thanks, I really appreciate the replies. I'll keep doing what I'm doing (which is nothing wrong.) I've already questioned her about being with me. She gave me no answer. I'm going to find out today Wish me luck. Thanks again.
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    This is something that greatly offended me. She told me that our feelings are growing too strong and that it's a bad thing. She's not very confident in people. Guess why? It's all because of her ex. He let her down and made it clear that he was using her. They were only together about a month. She claims she was in love with him... Anyway, I don't see what any of that has to do with me. I'm a different guy. We've been together for 4 months now and she's supposedly been feeling like this "before she met me." If she thinks I'll eventually let her down, then why is she with me? The only thing that comes to mind is that I'm being used. She's not a bad person at all. She's just very pessimistic and a little insecure. Is there anything I can do to gain her trust? I've been doing everything I can. She told me that there's nothing I can say or do to change her mind. I don't believe that's true. Any opinions would be nice. Thanks for reading.
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    I hope she comes to terms with it. If not, then its basically my ex making things terrible for me once again. It's discouraging to realize that even if i'm not with her, she'll always have a negative effect on my life... If that's how it is, I have no choice but to accept it. Thanks for your help.
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    I've told my girlfriend everything there is to say. I ran out of things to explain on the subject. I'm more than willing to accept responsibility if its mine. I love kids and even though it may be tough, having one of mine own would be great! That woulld give me something else to live for. Of course the circumstances are unfortunate, for some of us thats just the way life goes. We make decisions and deal with consequences. Of course I regret ever even speaking to her, but that won't change anything at all. I'll take the hand I've been dealt and move on. Thats all I can do. It doesn't matter how I feel. The child is the only thing that would truly matter. I love my girlfriend. I just hope she would be able to see past it if she truly loves me. In the end, hope is all I have...
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    I've told her so many times. She has this strange theory that if you loved someone, you will always have feelings for them no matter what. Thats not true in my case. My ex is literally invisible. I gave all I could and did everything I could. There's nothing more. Us being together again is impossible.
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    If its mine I'll care for it in any way possible. I'm pretty confident I can do that and be with her without a thought of being with my ex again.
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    Well, it's been a while since I've last been here. I remember recieving great advice on my situation and its helped a lot. Long story short... My ex is pregnant and it MIGHT be mine. My girlfriend isn't really worried about that. She's more worried about the fact that I'll magically run back to my ex because of a child. A child has nothing to do with the way two people feel about each other. That's a whole other level. I'm completely done with my ex. I got as far as I could with more downs than ups. She just didn't care about me. She used me for sex, money, attention, and maybe also pride. It never occurred to her that I was an actual human being with feelings. I'm actually offended that my girl thinks that its even possible for me to be with her after what she put me through. I'm not being spiteful. I've forgiven, but I'll never ever forget. No one on this planet deserves what I foolishly endured for a year! I just don't like her anymore. She is no one to me. That's just the way it is. How can I possibly comfort my girl and reassure her that it could never happen? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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    Our relationship isn't really long distance. We only see each other on weekends (her mom's permission). My girl has recently come to find out that I'm used to not talking to her and this bothers her a lot (her mom doesn't allow her to talk during the week). She thinks this means that we aren't as special anymore. I'm not the type to sit around moaning and groaning over someone. I talk to my friends or work on music. Basically, I stay occupied. She still crosses my mind though. She's afraid that just because I've gotten use the the lack of communication, that I may be more likely to leave her. This is not true at all. When she sneaked to call me tonight. She said that sometimes the things I say aren't important. This annoyed me so much. I was more happy with the fact that I was actually talking to her than what we're are talking about. I'd be willing to hold up a conversation about Chemistry for goodness sake! (Keep in mind that we haven't spoken for the entire week.) To me nothing is significant or insignificant. It's all the same! The smallest things bring me the greatest amount of satisfaction! I'm simple, and I fail to see why she doesn't understand me. I feel like instead of wanting me, she wants me to be someone else. Things are so simple, but she always makes them complicated. I'm with her because I enjoy being with her. I talk to her because I enjoy hearing from her. (anything!) I appreciate her because I like to make her feel appreciated. It's that simple, but she takes it to a whole other level. What's wrong with her? Thanks for reading! I appreciate any replies.
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