Mysterio

Hi, there. Recently I posted about the girl of my dreams being a 21 year old chick (me being 15) online on the other side of the world. Do you really think something like this can last? I'm not sure if it can, but I'm sure as hell gonna try. Now we're going to try and pull through that and meet eachother some day... From now I think of it as an oppertunity to love someone fully having never met them, and then one day being able to prove it. Yeah, sounds corny, but it's true. I'm totally in love with this girl and would go to those lengths to meet her...

Okay, let me clear this up... lol I'm not thinking physical or anything now; I mean if we ever did meet up. (I would be pretty old by then!) I don't really like girls my age, as well. Not sterotyping all girls, but the one's around my age in this area have a weird sense of taste for guys and relationships only last a week - a month at most... It's hardly worth it. I think you can see where I'm coming from. I don't mind talking to girls and being friends, though. Only thing is, I was depressed because I was so loney... I really needed more than friendship, you know, and I hardly had any of that, either. I really like her, so I don't really wanna have just a friendship, but I'll keep it safe like you said and see where it goes online. We're both pretty content with that right now, anyway. Perhaps I'm diving into future plans too fast... Thanks, guys.

Okay, I've always been the "nice guy" like you were. It's something that happens to all guys, because our mummies decided to tell us "girls like us to buy them goodies, roses, chocolates, ect. Well, the basic moral to that is "be kind, polite and well mannered to females." So true. What they didn't tell you is that girls like some spark in a relationship, so they look for a guy with wit and humour. Make them feel good, jokingly tease them, make funny remarks. Don't pressure, idolize them or make them feel like they have power over you all the time. You definatley sounded like you were doing all of them... Like the dude in front of me said, she probably just skips to guys all the time, but I'm just warning you for the next time you start a relationship... Trying to contact them again after they've broken it off with you doesn't make you look good, either. (Not sure if you did?)

He's right. Dad's never change. My dad's a complete tight ass. Got caught not paying enough child maitanence and he blamed my sister for it when she rang to say "hi!" without even knowing what was happening. I think that if you wanna end this, you'll have to do it yourself... Maybe asking your bro what questions he has, or maybe giving him some links to sites where he can learn. Besides that, I think porn is a healthy thing for guys - even though I'm not too big on it, but it is stimulating sometimes...

Never call them again. Keep things cool. Go out to a club with your buddies, date some more women to keep your mind off her. There's a lot more women in the world that you can meet.

Yeah, I mean like a physical one when I'm older. (Assuming I'm not gonna be flying to Texas anytime soon. lol) I know that she's not a creep, and thanks for the concern. I'd make sure I see her on Web Cam and hear her on Audio/Phone before I made any final decisions. Thanks! Oh, and when you said your parents have that age gap, they're a lot older. I'm a teenager, she's a adult. They might have been both adults when they met... Anyway, thanks for that.

That's by far the biggest load of crap I ever heard! If you want a straight answer, they want someone that can be cocky and funny. That being said, you do need to change from 'yourself' to someone you're not... However, once you're in a relationship, compassion and being sweet and all comes in. (That's where you would probably specialize) Some guys make the mistake of treating girls like godess' and doing everything for them... Be different from the other guys; stand out from the crowd. While they're all saying "You're so beautiful!" you can make a smart remark like "I would appriciate it you stopped looking at me like a piece of meat!" - things like that. Trust me. If you can master a cocky and funny behaviour, be smart and witty, chicks will dig you. There has to be some shealas here that agree with me! When he said the hot girls go for the hot guys, he meant hot, popular girls go for confident, funny guys. With a new way of attracting women, you don't have to worry about looks and such... They don't always matter! Good luck! Ryan

Usually the "best friends" are the girls that you would want to stay away from trying to date - they usually get the answer that the dude in front of me got... Now if you want to at least have a crack at it, you know that there is some feeling there for you; there's a chance you might hit base. Next time she says something in a flirtacious way, give her a positive response. Maybe flirting back, or making a funny remark. If she responds to it positivley you know that she can see something happening. I think you can take it from there...

Well I really do wanna get to meet her - maybe involve myself in a physical relationship, but the only solution open to me right now is waiting 4 years until I'm old enough to take care of myself!

Okay, I was just reading that, and wanted to point out that's not always true - at least not for guys... It's always good to give your partner some space, maybe calling about 3 times a week or so. If possible, try organising a meeting place for the both of you. Usually calling too much, or repeativly leaving messages makes you seem really needy. Anyway, that being said, like Frodo said: trust and communication is the key for a good relationship. Personally, I would think it's time to burn what relationship you have left with her...

Hi, there. Okay, here's the scoop. I'm a 14 year old kid, not too bad looking, and don't really like people around my age group... I tend to come online to find friends that are more understanding and caring in situations. Anyway, I've been playing an online game, and during visiting one of the game's fansites I got this crush on this chick. She's 21, real lush, caring, funny, ect. and I am pathetically in love with her! I've only been dating her online for a few weeks... Anyway, she feels the same way, but there's a problem. I live in Australia, she lives in Texas. I'm going out with a 21 year old, which I really doubt my mum would approve of, and I don't have the money to contact her via phone or meet her... She said that she would buy a mic so that she can talk to me, but my USB ports on my computer are screwed, so nothing works with them... I really, REALLY like her, and I wanna have at least some way of contacting her besides online! My question here is, is it really worth hanging it out for the girl of my dreams when I can't even meet her or have my parents approve of her? Don't get me wrong; I wouldn't worry so much about mum if I didn't have to ask her for help with meeting this girl. Any advice or feedback would be helpful! Thanks in advance, Ryan