Medusa
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Thank you Budman, But for the record,I'm not sleeping with people for sex,I was in a commited 3years relationship,I'm only slept with ONE person (my rebound)not 3 or 4.I'm sorry if I didn't express myself correctly in my topic.When I mentioned sex it was soley towards my rebound not so and so. I don't use people for sex,I'm asking for advice on if I'm taking the right approach at this whole thing of being confused and on the rebound.Hence why I said I've never done this before. Thanks again.
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I was on the rebound ,dated this guy for about a month before we had "the talk" At the time things where good,It wasn't serious we spent time together and for a moment I was smitten with him. The day we had "the talk" I wasn't in the best of minds,I asked him out first but he said he wasn't sure because I had mentioned,I was afaid to recommit after ending it with my ex of 3years and I still wasn't sure If I was ready. so he said he needed more time to think.I ended up walking away from him later on that day,when he found me he said he was ready now and not having me near showed him that. So anyways we where a couple for a month,and it all went to hell,one night whatever fantasy image I had seen him in died.I broke up with him and were still friends,we talk on the phone every other night,I told him all I could be to him is physical,nothing more,I asked him if he'd be fine with that and he was,but he constantly says he's here for the long haul and still cares about me and wants me back but isn't gonna push me. In reality I just want the awesome sex,and I CARE for him soley as a friend,i'd do anything to help him, but boyfriend wise we don't mix too well, and I don't want to confuse him.I don't know what to do I'm constantly telling him I dont want to hurt him,one moment he's all I can think about next moment I'm thinking about someone new.I don't want to lose him as a friend even if it means not having sex,I just don't know what to say that can explain that I don't see us having a romantic future ahead of us. I hope I'm not coming off as a heartless women,I've never done this before.
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Battya33, I feel the same way about the texting,but i'm afaid to call be were both attending colleage and his classes are all over the place. We spoke about hanging out this weekend but didn't make it final,but i totally understand what you mean about a protection method.I don't like talking about exs but sometimes i just blurt it out =/.
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Thanks Zeroeffect, I like your point of view It is true,I'm trying very hard to take care of myself infact I haven't been or felt this happy in almost 3years,My ex hurt me many times but I'm stronger for it and I don't have a drop of emotion for that man ^_^. I tried to assure him i'm not here for a quicky or anything I let him know I was serious and wanted a strong bond with a person be it as a friend or relationship.He did tell me he was afaid of being hurt because of his past i'm not sure how to show him i'm really a true hearted person without coming out as intense. thanks again
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Thank you Bella Donna, what you said makes quite alot of sense,he has been reaching out to me more then I have to him so perhaps you are right he does want to see if come on to him.
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Day-walker, I was thinking the same thing but I don't know if texting would be to pushy and words can be misunderstood went not said aloud =(. Thanks for your thoughts
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Thanks Andlamv, I don't have a shady feeling in the least at the moment,trust me if i did i would have chucked him out of my mind lol.But I will make sure to trust my gut.
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Thats a very negitive way of seeing it lol,He can't be a rebound if we're not really "dating" and aren't intimate.I said I wasn't wanting to rush and so did he, he knows i'm not looking for a rebound or to hurt him I made that totally clear on the first night. Its human nature to have "wounds",he told me his wounds infact he got very emotional and personal. but i doubt that( leftover wounds) are the reason,but i understand some men are tenderfoots when it comes to dating. Thank you for the hug and input ^_^
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I recently re-entered the dating scene after a horror of a 2 1/2 yr relationship which ended last week. Ok so I met this guy and on the first night we hung out talked about our goals and etc we really hit it off,he asked if he could hold my hand and i said I don't think i would be ready for that yet because i'd like to be friends first, to feel him out and he was fine with that. 2nd night/date we had a great time again talking and what not and he kissed me at the end of the date, thats when i felt abit strange because i was sure if that would ruin getting to know him better as a person but we talked about it and it didn't change anything really 3rd night/date had fun again this time we made out quite abit there was alot of hugging and he told me that he doesn't want to push me away or rush me and that he loves spending time with me and looks forward to it.He asked me where we "stood" and i said i didn't know i assumed we where "dating" he took it well, but was just at a lost as i was at how to apporoach what we where doing. Ok after that date we spoke briefly online and he hasn't made contact since.did something go wrong?.I don't want to call or text him because i don't want to come off as "clingy" I just want to know if he's alright or still interested.What would you do
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ah the beloved Ouija I honestly don't know if there is a right or wrong way to use it i have used it a few times with my sister and all we did was relax and ask it a question and it answered I love it cept the fact all i have learned from it is that sometimes the dead have no manners of respect and most of them are a bunch of liars but you can get some emotions out of them as when my sister upset on enough that she/he blew a fuse from a brand new light bulbs i've done it myself and nothing has tipped over hunted me or anything like that i'm not a professional so i'm not going to tell you anything that i don't know for sure just to have fun you only live Physicaly once 8) -Cheshire
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first i'd liek to say you ordered the paragraphs well . Now for the problem at hand TELL HER! you must .i envy you you found someone perfect to you no strings suduce her write her a long letter give her flowers on one knee and spill your love redered heart to her tell her how you where so in love that you wrote this question and print to show how love sick you are if i know one thing about love is things like that only happen rarely nothing worth having is easy to obten my friend if you don't tell her now someoneelse may and it will be forfeit .I think you should be as subtle as you can and ask her on a lunchin or friendly walk or something and surprise her by takin her somewhere romantic or succuled for you to work your charms hand her a flower hide it best you can in a bag mayhaps say you had to do some shopping then you can either have tied your letter of devotion to that flower/s or hand it to her after then if conditions are pramitting a half kneeing profession of love is always a good way to show how selfless you are and how crazy in love too.do anything you can to woo and take her away from that jerk shes with now age doesn't matter the heart know no age or distance i'M crossing my fingers for you and hope that you get her back take her with you to london good luck! -Cheshire
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I know how you must feel But this sounds like a toxic event of happenings The fact that you broke with her and now she's "in love" with another is a werid place to be because it makes you wonder about the depth of her love for you to have fallen for someone else so soon and the trying to be friends during that ouch ](*,) i've done that just that it was way past love it was engaged and ready to be married.But anyways then you metioned how she would say shes fat and ugly red flag for low self esteem which is a sure sign she's not that in love because she can't really love herself and this is something she most admit to over come.also she gave you a big arrow in the chest by saying "your not her type anymore" ow i mean why doesn't she just face you in front of your friends i think that see may be in a confused state right now not sure of herself or her heart and until she deals with herself i'd say that you shouldn't take up all of your time dwelling on her find ways to busy yourself do things you enjoy being friends with an ex and one this hurt and confused is a diffacult thing to do it needs alot of self enpowerment and willpower and the restrant to run to her every call I'd hate to see you waste years of your life as i did on one who obvisously isn't sure. All i can say is take time for yourself go out have fun safely and try to think about your best interest and not become depressed over her confusion good luck- Cheshire
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Speaking from a girls point of view i'd have to say this is a tricky thing because the things with some girls is that something there confused just as guys are and break up with a guy and during this window period other men see this as a weak point and attack so i'm guessing he must have wooed her in away and then when you came back she either gave you a sign that she still likes you that way and want you close or that she wants to make you her just in case guy.And i don't recamend saying your with someone or interested because it may make her cling all the more to someoneelse and ruin a chance for her to want to get you back and never assume with women trust me sometimes it can be the total oppsite I suggest you tell her the truth that you do indeed still have feelings for her and that being friends is doing more harm then good and if she pats you on the head and says shes sorry but she doesn't want to go out again or if you kno that shes more interested in the other man find someone new to make you happy but please don't rebound if you know that your obviously still in love with her because then you'll bring someone else into the love triangle i've been there but other then that if you are truly meant to be "love will proveil" good luck -Cheshire
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i'm 17 (starting sunday) and my boyfriend is 26 whom i love very much and he me we've been together for 1yr and 4 months (and live in the bronx Ny) happly smoothing the relationship bumps and hoping to stay together in the long run i go to school full time and since i hardly saw him disided to sorta move in with him not only for the company but its closer to get to my classes the problem is putting it to my mother who is the sorce of all my emotional stress and depression that i nolonger what to live with her she has stressed me out to the point of me just wanting to live in a shelter,we've already tired concusling and such it didn't work because she doesn't want to change she's been like this forever.I'm never decided to date an older guy to "rebel" only b/c i'm just mature and guys my age don't cut it. next year when i'm 18 hope to have a place of my own with my bf and get married the thing is we want to get a marriage license but i'm in no rush to get married nor is he .just looking forward to it for now. and i want to have all of my legal documents and such so i can surport myself but i know that until i'm 18 i can't sign myself into a dentist or doctor which is always important i'd like to know if anyones had experiance with something like this or knowns what i can do about useing the law to my advantage and knowing my rights any free services doctor dentist wise?.I know i just need to survive without her trying to break us apart by abuse of the law system which she has done to me many times in the past any advice,links or just surport would be noted and thanked thank you very much -MeDuSa
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thanks for the advice and i've tired stuff like that we have coupons,toys,games,candles,andrestraints..I dunno i guess it's just that my hormones are rageing and his already have so the blance is off we even tired to this morning but it felt rushed. hopefuly with more talkings and relaxtion we'll be back on track.hes angry now at the fact i even wrote any of this. now i'm fustrated even more
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well i've been dating my boyfriend now for 1yr and 3months and now a days i've noticed how much our whole sex life has changed in the start of it all we had sex alllll the time and when we weren't we where wanting to he would give hints or i would.But now we have it every other day or start then stop because the mood is messed up it doesn't help that he lives with his mom and sister and the walls are paper thin . I just don't know how this will survive i'm 17 and highly sexual as much as a teenage boy would be if not sometimes more and he's in his 20's and isn't as sexual i sugguested viagra but then he just got hurt saying i wasn't insulting his manhood when i just meant that his hormones wheren't as strong.I'd like to have sex everday even if it's just once and i understand he works all day but it sex is a great way to wind down and relax isn't it. I've tried toys with and without him there but its just not the same i just want to held and touched and talked dirty to.i'm afaid for the safety of our relationship in the future i don't want my lust to lead me to another.it's not the sex is bad between us just that i'd like to have it more then 2twice aweek.does anyone know what i should do if theres hope or is anyone in my same spot