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How old are you?? Maybe you have just not met the right one. Can you achive an orgasim by masterbation? I went many years without having one, you need to be comfortable with yourself. And yes relaxing is a major key, stop thinking about it and just let it happen.

Been there done that. What you need to do is make yourself happy. Talk to your wife about going to see a counseler. If she refuses then you are the one that needs to make a decision. I was married for 12 years, 2 kids. The perfect couple. But my spouse had NO ambition to better our lives. I wanted to buy a home, he was content with paying rent. I wanted to act like an adult and he wanted to continue to drink and smoke dope. I could not imagine my life with out him. When I thought about the values that my kids would grow up with I decided enough was enough. believe me it was hard. I had a friend that I had dated years ago and we had become close again. He was all I could think about. I left my husband with the hopes of starting a relationship with my friend. I found that it is not the way to go. My friend is still a very good friend. But we are not together. I am so happy to be on my own and meet new people and I have found that life is so much better. If you are unhappy and your wife will not wake up and smell the roses do what you need to. It will be hard. I strongly suggest that you keep your relationship with your co-worker as friends until you are truly happy with your life. Don't use her as a crutch, you and her will only be hurt in the end.

Wow, you really are in a spot. You should seek counseling. You need to determine what is wrong in your marrage before beginning a relationship with someone else. My advice is to not leave your wife for another woman, if you want to leave your wife then leave her but do it for yourself and not someone else. Good luck and do what is good for you. Divorce is hard, maybe if the two of you went to counseling you may discover what is wrong and work it out together. If there is a chance that you and your wife could rekindle the flame it is worth a shot. Try not to allow your relationship to go any futher with your co-worker, it will really mess you up.

He probably won't call. He sounds like a snake and if he didn't have the courage to let you know he wanted to explore more options you should hope he doesn't call. Unless you want to chew him up and spit him out for being a louse.

Don't run back home but do move out of his home town. Twenty mile is not far and you should be able to continue to be PALS. My experience is that if it is his hometown the friends you met while with him are his friends. This can cause you more hurt than anything. Move back to the city, join a health club, take an art class, get involved in other circles. Do something for yourself. Don't think about it as being alone, think about it as an adventure. There are alot of people out there and you should meet as many of them as you can. Good luck

Being female I have found it easy to be friends with my bf's friends because it seems safe, and I want my bf to know that I can fit into his world. You should tell her that you are feeling that you want to be more than friends with her, but be carefull it could turn on you. You need to feel confortable that your confession to her will be between you and her. If she runs and tells your friend/her bf that you are hitting on her it could get ugly. Not all girls are nice even if they seem to be on the outside. Maybe say something like "It is to bad that you are with _____ I think if you were not with him we could hit it off pretty good." That sounds non-threating and leaves you a way out with your friend if the whole thing blows up in your face. When you tell her that you should be able to read her enough to know where you stand.

If you are willing to be friends with him, tell him it starts there. Tell him he must be honest with you even if he thinks it will hurt you. If he can back off and give you some space it might work. I gave my ex so many chances but he has a drinking problem that I finally realized that I could not help him with he had to do it himself. He begged and begged and told me that he could only do it with me. I decieded for the sake of myself and my kids, he had to do it on his own. You didn't mention why you broke up but lying is hard to overcome no matter what it is about.

That is what I was thinking, I was only thinking 3 months. I wrote a letter to him, I haven't given it to him. I will be leaving on Thursday for 5 days for a much needed alone time. I want to have a heart to heart talk with him before I leave but I will probably leave him a letter and try to talk to him when I get home. I didn't mean to start a fight about him staying out, and I did tell him to have fun. I would have done the same as he did. Thank you for your advice it helps to talk and throw out my thoughts.

My dinner was the surprise, he has been spending so much time with his family. They were gone for the weekend so I thought he would be home. He worked late, and then went to socialize with his co-workers. He does not have any friends here and I have lived here most of my life so I do. I was upset because we haven't had much alone time, and he chose to spend it with the people he works with. He works an hour away from home, when he called I told him I had a nice dinner planned but it was already cold, and I told him to be carefull and have fun. I didn't think he would be that long. I know that I need to tell him to leave and figure out what he wants to do. I just can't imagine being with out him, he has helped me so much. He has helped me cope with my disfunctional family and made me and my kids stronger. My mom, stepdad, and ex are serious alcholics. He has created some type of shield around us that makes us (my kids, and I) feel safe and normal. I know he loves me I can see it in his eyes, and the way he touches me. He makes me feel the love I just really need to hear it. As far as marrage is concerened I know he is getting pressure from his grandparents to do it, and his parents are pressuring him to think of the future. Adoption is not really an option the next in line for the family needs to be blood, or the respect will not be there. I think that he is scared and if he just avoids the issue he won't have to address it.

I have met his family, his parents live out of the country. His mom has been here 3 times since in the last 4 years, his dad only once. I have met them. His grandparents are great, and his sister is great. I can not have any more childeren and he has none. He is next in line to take over the family. I think that is part of the problem, we have talked about solutions to this. I am game for anything I just want to have him in my life. We had a big blow out on Friday, I got rid of the kids, had a nice steak dinner, bottle of wine, ect.... he got home at 12:30 am. My feeling were hurt. We had both had a little bit to drink, I let it all out of the bag and he just looked at me like I was crazy. I left and spent the night watching the stars on the beach. I came home in the morning, took a nap and tried to talk to him again. But he just puts up a wall and won't let me in. Our weekend was trashed. I can't sleep because all I do is think about what is wrong. I know I can't fix it by myself. I tell him how I feel, he listens and then it is all over. He goes on like nothing happened.

Trust is a very hard thing to rebuild once it is broken. How was the trust broken???

I have been dating this man for almost 4 years, we have been living together for 2 years. For me it was love at first sight. We were friends for almost a year before we had any type of intimate contact. We have the same goals in life and both see the same things for ourselves in 5, 10, 15, years down the road. And it is together. But we grew up differently, he grew up with a 2 parent family with very little affection, I grew up in a single parent family with no supervision. I am impulsive and need affection. He is more conservitive and requires very little affection. The first time I told him "I love you" he told me "I think your pretty cool too". Many months later "I love you"/"your a good girl". I quit telling him because to me that is rejection. I would rather not. I know they are just words but I need to hear from him that he loves me, that he needs me, that he wants to be with me. I have tried telling him this but he just blows it off as some kind of tantrum that I am throwing. He is so reserved with his feeling that I am never really quit sure where I stand. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I am 37 with 2 kids and want some type of emotional stability in my life. When we have sex it is the best I have ever had. But we only have sex about 2-3 time a month. I was married for 12 years and even up to the point of leaving I was having sex 5-6 week. I am feeling very insecure, his parents are visiting only 45 miles away, they have been here 3 weeks and I have only seen them once. He goes there every night after work and comes home late at night. He never asks me if I want to drive up and meet them for dinner. Is he just using me to pass the time???? This only scratches the surface of my feelings.

ok, as the mother of a 12 year old girl, I would have a BIG problem with my daughter even being friends with a boy 6 years older than her. If you really want to be friends with her you should be friends with her and her family. Take her and her mom or dad to the movie or for a soda or something. I would think would be the best. And as far as waiting 4 years she is still only 16 and you would be 22. I would hope that at 22 your interest would be with girls more your own age. You sound like you are a nice guy. Think about what you would have thought about when you were 12. Even if she is mature for her age, she is still only 12.