I am married, with 3 kids. Been married 12 years. Not a bad relationship, I love my kids, I care about my wife, but something is missing. Felt like that for a couple years now. Anyway.... on with the story. This is long in order to clarify the situation
2 nights ago I went to a "co-worker" happy hour party. One of my co- workers who I have a good professional relationship with showed up. I have had a soft spot for her for about 4 years now. She is always nice to me and I do likewise. At this party we just started the usual casual conversation, but somehow it was different. I don't go out much but she is a very popular person and goes out quite a bit. She is not married but has 3 kids also and a boyfriend she's been with for a long time but he is in the military. Anyway started with playing darts with her and others. The night just kinda went on like that. She bought me pizza I was hungry but didn't ask for her to get me anything. In the gereral tone of things,given our current relationship, I commented that I didn't care for onions.... she picked them off, smiled and just stared into my eyes!!! As the night went on we talked more and just the gereral conversation, but she kept lightly touching me, commenting about my eyes, smiling and staring into my eyes. Later she wanted to know if I wanted to go to a different bar with different music. We did. SHE KNEW ALMOST EVERYONE THERE!!!LOL. After about an hour I stated that I should prolly go home. I was tired and had quite a bit to drink. I have no idea how much she drank, but she seemed quite sensible yet. She walked with me to the parking lot. Her car was one way and mine was the other, but she kinda lead the way to mine. We sorta stood there a minute, kinda like 2 kids who like each other but put their heads down and scuff at the ground with their feet. I looked at her and she at me. She had this great big smile. All I could say was "What?" "Nothing" was her reply. We just stared at each other for about 15 seconds. My head was spinning, but not from the drinks... although I was bolder than I've ever been. I reached to her chin and pulled her and kissed her. She backed away, looked and then kissed me. A bit of passion there. Including arms around each other. She pulled away and said " You are SO married." and just looked at me. I have no idea what response she was looking for so I just said " Yes I am married" She kissed me again about like before, pulled away, said it again and walked to her car. Since she lives a block away, I followed her home. I was worried that she was mad. So I pulled up and asked. "Not at all" Again we sat there and talked for 10 minutes about her car troubles. She then asked me if I was mad. To which I said not at all. She pulled on my chin and we kissed for about 30 second. Then it was "good night, see ya tomorrow." The next day, there was no mention of it. Just the usualy work stuff. I was an emotional wreck but dealt with it and kept my opinions and feelings quiet. The only thing different was a little more eye contact when I did see her. How do I read her? Is there a chance or am I the idiot for even feeling this way. I feel like I have a childhood crush again... butterflies when I see her, thinking about her alot, even writing this,etc.... Please, I need advice and maybe a therapist.
Thanks. If your going to just rip on me for even doing this, please don't bother... I don't need a lecture or I wouldn't have come here. I need true opinions on the situation. I REALLY LIKE HER