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Communication is important and that is what you both need but take it slow and it will workout nicely. . .

What so important is never to look into her privacy because it is not what it maybe like you think it could be but it could be something that she is going through in her ways which you must respect. I am curious to know how old she is because that can make a difference in what I may have to say. If she is young then give her the room to explore and hope that she comes to you when the time is right and even if that doesn't work there really isn't a thing you do when it comes to feeling that animalistic way of feeling because it is natural feeling to feel sensual or sexual. Please don't pressure her but be open even if it hurts and if you really love her then give her the space but at that same time explore your own possibilities that can enhance your growth. Be inventive in your own pace and ways to understand but never try to change a person but only hope to find that person come to you in her or his ways because it will be worth waiting for if you know how long to wait and how long you are willing to wait. That is up to you and when that decision is made then you will know and will understand what must be the right thing to do. Distance relationship are very hard to have but not impossible because I have a girl friend who lives in London and at times I can feel her when she wants to feel wanted when I am not there but must keep a open mind and must understand that she is different then I am in many ways. She is beautiful and very attractive and makes a lot of money. I live in New York and she will always say one thing about me and that is I am open but that I am to proud because I am a man who must stand by his own feet and not except to gain or get anything from anyone but to give, which is in my nature. She claims I am to old fashion and she maybe right but I can't help who I am but I can learn to become or to learn different ways but in a gradual way with hope and with the idea that I may never change in that way.

I am so please to hear what you have said that made so much sense. You are there already to deal and accept what ever it maybe. The sad and possibility thing is that one day she may come back to you and when she does, it will be to late because you have reached what it is called acceptance and it will hurt but at the same time you will feel who you are and what you are about and that is what counts but in a good way and not in a selfish way. However I would like to see you get together and would hope she will learn to see you how you really are in heart and in soul for it will change things so much better but with so much more of understanding even if it should never workout but friends for the child and for your own peace of minds. You are a clever man and you know what must be done. I do hope for the best of both and family you have with her.

Waiting is too superficial but let it happen naturally. What better way to have her come to you when you want her at that moment. Keep this in mind that when someone needs space then accept it and if someone tells you that is what she wants, do not believe it but only if she tells you herself because only in her lip and words can be for real or you can distinguish the truth in what she feels by looking into her eyes when she express. I don't mean to be hard to anyone by what they say but the less is said from different people the better for you to know the answer without confusion because it is best from someone who you are drawn too and still have communication with then someone who can speculate or only hear what she may want to say at that moment. Love is strange and can be complicated if you choose to not acknowledge it. The mind must be open and at times the heart needs to be put aside when it is time to give it space to breathe and grow. Not easy to do but it is possible. . . . Good luck. . . . .

Absolutely correct and very simple and right to the point.

This is so will said especially at this age. At this age at times miss signals can be broken up. When you look at a women and most cases there are two ways to look at a women. One is sexually and the other is beauty with a good course. A smart young lady will know but inexperience one will never know and understand and that is when you say hello my name is so and so and when you look into her eyes with sincerity, she will know then. If she doesn't, then she has miss the boat or she doesn't have much experience but most young women have what it takes then most young men do. It is an old saying that a young women at times know more then a young men because we have one thing that I can understand why. Different things like being a man to prove by being responsible in strength but a woman will think in a matter of not being strong but using more of the mind to accomplish matters without strength but sensitivity with emotions. I may be wrong but it is like an old fashion but it does exist because of traditionally things in the past that hasn't left yet but it is changing. Good luck man and hope it works out. . . . .

I will say this with the understanding of what I have been through life myself. Seek professional help and I mean search for one that will have some effect on your life or someone you can trust and respect. Your Therapist if it isn't working, find another one then and keep trying. Now you may not like what I may have to say here ok but it is true you must keep busy and trust people who cares and will be there for you because the truth is we can not do it alone no matter what, we need each other. Now the most important thing is you have no other choice but to stay away from her until you are ready and if not you will be in a path of self destruction. I am very frank about this matter, and I say get the help as soon as possible. Please do it now and stay the hell away from drugs or alcohol because it will only make matters worse and it will depress you even more. Please remember one thing that things do happen but there is always hope that something out there can heal your burning soul or spirit. The heart and mind needs to be one, for without the other we can not be complete but yet it will take more then a life time to fill. I don't want to see you hurt or unhappy but to find away and fight hard because it will build something so powerful inside of you that you will be able to share and look back. I am sorry if I wasn't of help but please seek help soon. . . . My deepest apology if I have often you. . .

Love and Lost have something of the same. When you love it can be painful and when you lost, it is someone or something you loved. It can mean anything for anyone to feel at the very moment. For anyone to share there experience is what makes us understand and learn. One thing I must agree with you is not to make up something especially if it isn't true but to be honest to anyone and if you can't be honest, then don't say a word unless you have too. Everyone has different ways in how they feel and how they handle matters but the similarity is still the say because we can understand the pain but we can't feel what that person really is feeling but only a good idea because of what we experience. Love and lost is part of what we are and in life. No matter what, it is there and it will be apart of us and if anyone would tell me that it isn't true, then look closely at yourself and say what does it really mean and has it happen to me in a different way. remember Love and lost has many meanings and even the most smallest thing on earth that matters to us in our own different ways.

Well said!. . . Patience and please give her the room or you will lose her for good. Also please, an open mind for any situations including the idea that it may never workout. If you can't accept both possibilities, you will suffer for a long time and possibly make the same mistakes again. Find yourself to accept any possibility, and when you do, you will see how strong you will become and how successful you will do in any other relationship or the one now. The key is building a strong foundation between yourself, so that when you have to deal with things in any nature, you will know what to do and do it calmly, which will give you the right words to say. I know it will not be easy for you because of what you have said so far, and you mean well but you must fight this or it will knock you down hard and you will suffer and so will she. This will be a very important moment of your life because of what you can learn from this but most importantly what it can become that will enhance what is needed inside of you. Very fragile time for you and it will be up to you and no one else but you my friend.

Stay close to friend or family members who you can trust and who doesn't take sides. Most importantly dating is alright but if you feel strong in that way then it maybe best not to date but gather your thoughts and take the time in doing so or let that other person know how you feel but don't stay on the conversation to long because you will scare him off, and I tell you this because I am a male and I don't mind listening to what happen but if it stays in the conversation to long, then I would know you are not ready. When you speak to anyone, only take what is needed but that comes from within your heart and mind when doing so and it takes practice. 1 month is early and it will take time and as for your ex who claims that he may still love you. Believe it or not time will play a major roll in your part but in his as well. No one can be too sure what the outcome could be but at times being away from each other may help to understand each other, or it should but only with an open mind to new and understanding of ideas and accepting. This will not be a short process but it will help you understand clearly what happen and why and what you can do next time. Keep yourself busy but do not ignore your feeling but understand it and try not to stay to long thinking about it especially when it makes you feel down. I wish you the very best and it will not be easy but you will learn something beautiful from it as long as you keep your mind open without resentment but an open mind and heart. Good luck. . . . .

Negative places are where I find negative people but in a place where there is positive surrounding, you will find the good ones. It's Good to vent out when needed. I could understand. . . . . I wish you the best. . . . .

What I have learned is at times it is best to stay away especially if my feelings are strong or at times seems to surface. I took the time to stay away and prepared myself by taking a long look at the scenarios of the relationship that I once had with this special person. What it gave me was the time to think logically but at the same time with my heart and soul. It gave me the strength to understand and when it is best to deal with it. Anyway I finally ran into her and we talked and again my feeling surface but this time with more control of my feelings toward her, and what was more importantly was I finally had the right words to say to her and it gave me the energy to over come what was once very strong but differently to a point and where I felt relieved and satisfied with the out come of our conversation. It's hard to explain how I felt but I know now it is different and easier for me to see her face and say hello without feeling I lost something inside of me, but more like I had the opportunity to learn from it. My thoughts and experience. . . .