SweetaThanCandy

I was dating this guy off and on, but it never really got serious because he always kept disappearing because of that fact that he wasnt ready to be in a serious relationship. But over the course of 2 years we became good friends...so I thought. Last year he asked me could he borrow some money from me and that he promised to pay me back within a week or so. Never did, when I kept confronting him about it he would always make excuse after excuse. I felt so betrayed because I really trusted him and I thought that he was a beautiful person. But after a while I just said forget it I'm a strong believer in Karma and in the Lord, so I knew that one day it would fall back on him. So Sunday he sent me an e-mail apologizing (look down below) and I sent him one back, but he hasnt responded yet and I know he's been on the computer since then. I kinda feel as if he is ignoring me again, but I dont know. Did he just want to apologize or was he saying he wanted to pay me back? My first thought was he was trying to pay me back but again he hasnt wrote me back yet. What was the point of this e-mail?? Him: Candy, I never told you i was sorry. Futher more i never took the time to correct the situation. You are a beautiful person inside and out and i took advantage of your kindness. I know these words dont hold meaning for you but i want to make things right. Me really appreciate your sincerity and I know it takes a lot of heart to accept responsibility for what happen. Your apology is accepted. How do you plan on correcting the situation and making things right?

I've really been trying to figure out what this means. Please help. Heres the background on us, we use to work together and from that we got real cool. And he would talk to me about his gf and there problems and I would talk to him about my bf at that time and our problems. About 2 months ago he quit his job and so now I barely talk to him. About a week ago I talked to him and asked how him and his girl were doing and he said he hadnt talked to her in like 3 days and I was telling him he needs to call her and he said no he wanted to wait and see what she was going to do. They've been going through some things for quite a while now. So last night when I got off work he sent me a message and this is the conversation that we had: Me (1:37:42 AM): u had to work today? Him (10:38:22 PM): no Me (1:38:57 AM): oh your lucky. what did u end up doing? Him (10:39:20 PM): I'm at the bar right now eating pizza Me (1:39:39 AM): u have a sidekick now or something? Him (10:39:47 PM): yea Me(1:39:56 AM): I see you. Him (10:40:17 PM): not really I only have a 2 Me (1:40:20 AM): Save me some pizza I'm hungry too! Me (1:40:31 AM): y did u leave Nextel? Him (10:40:45 PM): its free so I can't, I still have nextel 2 Me (1:41:05 AM): Ballin! Him (10:41:06 PM): come get a bite from my house Him (10:41:18 PM): not really Me (1:41:33 AM): LoL, okay I'm coming! Him10:41:46 PM): u playin Me (1:41:48 AM): You get free pizza at the bar? Me (1:41:54 AM): yeah Him (10:41:55 PM): yea Me(1:42:02 AM): I didnt know that Him (10:43:37 PM): I'm bored u wanna come over and entertain me Me (1:43:51 AM): LoL entertain u how? Him (10:43:57 PM): idk Me(1:44:16 AM): What have u been drinking? Him (10:44:32 PM): I had 2 beers Me (1:44:44 AM): U by yourself? Him(10:44:54 PM): yea Him (10:45:03 PM): coronas Him (10:45:10 PM): that aint nothin Me (1:45:18 AM): Aww. poor baby. Y u by yourself? Him(10:45:43 PM): oh my roommate is driving so he might be home Me (1:45:59 AM): Who is your roommate? Him (10:46:10 PM): ****** Me (1:46:40 AM): oh Me (1:47:26 AM): U want me to come over for real? Him (10:47:51 PM): we bout to leave ill aim u when I get there Me (1:48:32 AM): U dont think your girlfriend gon mind if I come over at 2 in the morning? Him (10:51:28 PM): not really Me (1:53:04 AM): oh. what does not really mean? Him (10:53:51 PM): idk we going thru some thangs but we still coo and stuff Me (1:56:13 AM): So what r we going to do when I get over there? Him (10:56:40 PM): u have to entertain me Me (1:57:18 AM): what kind of entertainment r u talking about? Live entertainment? lol Him (10:57:31 PM): hell yeah Me (1:58:47 AM): Okay. Well what r lookin for its going to cost Me (1:58:52 AM): lol Him (10:59:01 PM): whomp whomp Him (11:01:45 PM): u got class tomorrow Me (2:01:56 AM): no Me (2:01:58 AM): u? Him (11:02:25 PM): yea 1020 and I have a quiz Him (11:02:33 PM): mth 124 Me (2:02:56 AM): O Him (11:03:05 PM): siiiiiike Me (2:03:43 AM): so u dont have class Him (11:04:05 PM): naw Me (2:04:58 AM): Oh ok Me (2:07:00 AM): what r u doing? Him (11:07:41 PM): just made it 2 the crib Him (11:08:07 PM): its kinda late so u don't have to come thru Me (2:09:00 AM): Or you just dont want 2 C me Him (11:09:47 PM): what r u talkin about Me (2:10:47 AM): Well 1 min u want me to come over and now you dont Him (11:11:18 PM): I mean I didn't know my roommate was gonna take that long Him (11:12:05 PM): awww u really wanted to c me Me (2:12:35 AM): U made me think you really wanted to see me Him (11:12:56 PM): girl be quiet Me (2:13:23 AM): lol Him (11:13:38 PM): I did but its late now if my roommate wasn't arguing with the bouncer then u would be here right now Me (2:15:52 AM): Oh okay. Him (11:17:14 PM): r u on facebook right now Me (2:17:25 AM): yeah Me (2:17:29 AM): why? Him (11:17:56 PM): add my roommate as ur buddy real quick Me (2:19:10 AM): is it a pic of his arm with a tat? Him (11:19:20 PM): yea Me (2:21:46 AM): y did u want me to do that? Him (11:22:46 PM): so I can look at it Me (2:23:06 AM): Oh. Me (2:23:17 AM): y u not on facebook anymore? Him (11:23:41 PM): idk Him (11:23:48 PM): take to much time Me (2:26:59 AM): Your quiet Me (2:27:06 AM): whats wrong? Him(11:27:06 PM): sorry Him (11:27:16 PM): no reason Me (2:30:53 AM): So what do u have up 4 this weekend? Him (11:31:28 PM): work and chill and study because I have exam next week thursday Me(2:32:30 AM): Yeah I feel you I have 2 exams the end of this month Me (2:32:49 AM): I'm going to be studying too, and I have another one Feb 8 Him (11:34:10 PM): crazy Me (2:34:32 AM): yeah I know Him (11:34:45 PM): I'm bout to go to sleep my head hurting and I'm tired Me(2:35:11 AM): Ok. Sweet Dreams Him (11:35:29 PM): thanks Him(11:35:36 PM): u 2 Me (2:35:41 AM): k So then the next day I instant messaged him and said hi and asked him was he feeling better (talking about the headache) and he said yea. Then he said "aye, thanks." And I said for what, and he said for checking up on him. I said no problem and then soon after that I got off the computer. But what the heck is going on? Does this mean he likes me? Or do you think he was drunk? I asked all my male friends and they said u not going to get drunk off 2 cornas and so I dont know. I havent talked to him since yesterday and he's online now and he hasnt instant messaged me all day so I'm kinda thinking he doesnt like me now. Please help. What should I do? What did he mean when he said they (him and his gf) going thru some stuff but they cool. Oh he isnt the type of person who would want me to come over there and have sex so I dont think that was the reason for him wanting me to come over. He's not that type of guy.

Well I've been single for about a month now and I hate it! Even though my ex and I are good "friends" and we still see one another I'm just so lonely. I hate being single and I'm back at it again. Sometimes I feel like I'm never going to find that "perfect" guy for me, perfect I mean as in my eyes. The guys that I'm attracted to are either hoes or dont want a gf, so I tried something new and settled for someone who I thought were very sweet and would treat me good, and he turned out to be abusive. I know it's only been a month and for some reason I feel like I'm going to be single for a very long time. Only because there are limited number of "good" guys these days...sigh.And it's almost X-Mas time, I hate being by myself around the holidays!!!! Guess I just have to wait till a "perfect" guy finds me. Men are interested in me...just the wrong kind. I'm wifey material!

I just left my ex house, I went over there because I was talking to him on the phone earlier and he was convincing me to get back with him. He was crying and pleading with me and when I wouldnt budge he started saying how if he didnt have me he didnt want to be here and he didnt want to live without me. He was wailing and he said he would just do everyone a favor and not be here anymore. So I went over there and he gained him composure and we talked. I was basically saying the same thing that I cant do this anymore and I just want to be friends and he kept talking about no one loves him. This is tearing me up inside because I do love him and I care about him, and I miss him so much but I cant put myself in a risk of being abused again. He told me that he found out what made him do it and it was the devil and that he dealt with him and prayed and the devil is out of him now. But how do I know? What is it happens again and it's worse. I'm so scared, I'm so hurt, how can he say that I dont love him and care about him. Just because I'm not with him doesnt mean that I dont love him. I just dont understand why this happening to me, I got too much stuff going on I got 2 finals tomorrow and I told him that I needed to study and its 6:14 and I just left his house and I havnt studied nothing. I cant think straight, why is he putting me through this. Why? I dont know who to talk to no one really know's everything that he's done to me, the abuse. And I dont really want to talk to no one about it because I'm just so ashamed. He keeps telling me he's changed and that he is a good person and I do think he is a good person. He just got abusive when he was mad. He was always there for me the abuse was the only problem he never put me down verbally or anything. He just has that one problem, maybe things will be better this time. I feel like I should just believe him and go back with him. I'm just so tired of hurting and crying, I dont know what to do.

I guess I mean change...as in abuse...he was abusive towards me

Well I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. But for some reason he just doesnt get it. He keeps telling me that he's changed and that it wont happen again, he keeps buying me stuff, trying to do everything possible for me so that I can take him back. It's just so hard for me to move on in my heart, verbally I tell him that I dont think I can do this again and he just cries everytime telling me that he wants another chance to make things right and that he loves me so much. How do I just stay away and move on? A pt of me is thinking well what if he says is true and I miss out on a good thing? I dont want to be hurt again but I still care a lot about him. Can a person change? On another note, there is this guy who I have always liked but when he finally decided to talk to me I was with my ex. Well I want to talk to him again but I dont know how. I dont want a relationship right now but I want to open that bridge back up as friends and maybe after a while it could lead to something else. What do I do? How do I let him know that I kinda like him since I havnt talked to him in a few months? So confused. I hardly ever see him on campus now that we dont work together anymore. But I do have his number...HELP!

He's 20 yrs old

My bf and I have been dating for almost a year and recently he proposed to me. I told him I didn’t know because of things that have been going on in our relationship. I know that he has a problem and I just dont know what to do. We were living together for about 4 months until I kicked him out because of an argument we had. We ended up arguing over something real petty and he thought I was leaving him so he broke my George Forman grill, threw my lamp through my glass table, turned my 27' TV over, and punched holes in my door and in my wall. We ended up wrestling and he wrestled me to the ground and kicked me in my crotch. He took my car keys because I wouldn’t give him the ring back that he is still paying for. So I ended up calling the police and they took pictures and told me to fill out a report. To make a long story short I ended up forgiving him and tried to work things out now he has been going through a lot and he fills that nothing is going right for him. So yesterday, it was a bad day and he wanted to get a new cell phone. The phone is in my name and it's on, but a couple of months back he broke it because he got mad, and he has not had the money to get another one until now. Anyway so we went to the T-mobile store and they told me that there was an upgrade in June and that the contract was for 2 yrs, originally it was only 1 so I was so mad at him for not telling me and doing the * * * * without my permission that I left out the store and went to the car. He went after me telling me he didnt know he did that when he bought a phone in June, blah blah blah. So I took him home and I called T-mobile bc he was telling me that initially the contract was for 2 yrs and I knew this was wrong so I wanted to be sure. I called and confirmed what I thought and I cussed him out. He ended up crying and saying he never meant to hurt me, he didn’t know, etc. So he went into his pocket and gave me $180 so I could cancel the contract. I told him that this wasn’t enough and he said he would give me the rest because that's all he had. So I said whatever and he got out the car. I got out to because I felt bad because he was so upset. We ended up chillin at his house for a couple of hours and when I was about to go he told me that he needed the money back because he forgot he needed it for his rent and that he would give me the rest next week. Now I'm thinking that he's lying because why would you give me the money if you knew you had to pay your rent. I never asked for it in the first place. So I told him this, he said he wasnt thinking about it, and he needs it. I kept telling him no because he gave it to me and he freaked out on me. He grabbed me and tried to dig in my pants and get the money. So then, once he found out that it wasnt in there, he went in the front room and went through my coat. I grabbed my coat from him and told him to stop. He kept yelling at me telling me to give him his money, he pushed me, I fell, I started kicking him, and he slapped me. I got up and tried to get my coat from him and he grabbed me by my neck and pushed me on the wall. I started yelling at him saying come on you want to hit me again go head and he said I'm not trying to hurt you. So I tried leaving and he grabbed me, pushed me on the ground, and punched me in my side and in my stomach. I was laying there grasping for air because I couldn’t breathe. He then went into the bedroom with my keys and I ran out the apartment. I didn’t have no keys, no coat, no nothing so I rung the bell to try to get my things and I heard my alarm go off (he got the money out the car). When I got to the door, he had my coat and keys and wanted to talk to me. I told him I needed to go back to the apartment to see if I left anything and I did. So while I was in their he didnt want me to leave because he wanted to talk to me and ask me why I always gotta act like that. Why I always have to have an attitude? I told him it didnt matter and that I was done and that I washed my hands of him. Then he asks could he have a hug and I told him no and he tried to hug me anyway. He wanted to talk to talk to me and I just wanted to leave and finally I did. I got in my car, went around the corner, and started crying hysterically. I then went back, why I dont know and told him we needed to talk. At first, he was still trying to put the blame on me, saying I attacked him fast and blah blah blah and then after a while, he was trying to make up. He asked me did I want to come in and at first, I told him no but after, he asked like 3-4 times I said yeah. I went inside and sat on his bed and just laided down because I had a migraine headache and he laid down beside me. Then after like 5 minutes, I told him I had to go because I wanted to go to sleep and he said I could go to sleep over there and I said no. He asked was he going to see me again and I told him I did not know. I do not know what I want to do. I know that I should leave but a part of me wants to stay. That is all we ever argue about is money. Everything else is good. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t need him I know that I have everything that I want and he can’t do anything for me that I can’t do for myself yet right now I just want to go over his house. Please help me. Why is it so hard for me to just say it is over and let that be that?