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thats tough then, does he like how you really look?

I'm sorry. Its never easy. I find the best thing to do is leave the person alone and carry on with yourself. Its very hard and lonely to do but its the best thing.

I dont understand, you didnt tell him what you looked like? Did you lie about that?

yea it sucks but i think everyone whos single at this age goes through this.... be careful of who you hang out with, dont just hang out cause your alone, make sure your treated right as a friend too.

Its hard, i see your 30. Maybe join a class for something you like and meet people. Think about how you met your old friends. usually through school. So maybe you should try somehow. Around this age its hard to meet new friends.

I agree with you butterfly. Ive been hurt by alot of male friends. They ended our friendship just because i would not go out with them. I learned the hard way, its almost impossible to have a male friend, its sad.

Everytime I friendzone a guy, its because im just not attarcted enough to them to date them for whatever reason.... I dated a guy that was hot but acted way too nerdy, i could not date him. Every guy i have friendzoned always winds up ended the friendship/not talking to me anymore.

Yeah I agree, she may be trying to make me jealous or something. If she is its pathetic really. It just seems theres more to what shes doing.

I have a friend who i fell out of touch with. She instant messages me to ask questions like this.. "hey are you going to the new club downtown"? I respond no, she says "oh its cheap to get in".. She doesnt invite me... Then I'll ask her, "hey are you going to crobar club for that show"? She responds back "no but im going to Moomba club alot" Then I respond back "I might go to Pyramid club next week" She responds back "oh i only go to shows my boyfriends pays for me and he wants to go because i have no money and im in debt" So basically shes telling me shes not going anywhere with me, so why does she keep messaging me like this? I find it weird........ Is she mad at me or soemthing? I dont know why she even bothers messaging me then.

He invites me out with his friends and their girlfriends, I have met his parents and his family. He basically talked me into having dinner with his cousin and his wife- i really didn't want to go because I felt uncomfortable. I felt like he invited me to show them he has a girlfriend. They were judging me the whole time. He invited me out to a family reunion out in Nevada where I would have so stay over, I just felt uncomfortable going. We've been dating about 8 months now. I like him for who is, i think he should know that I'm not using him for parties since I spend alot of time doing simple things with him like having dinner, hanging out with him at his place watching tv, etc. I notice he gets very nervous alot- to the point where hes sweating. Hes a little paranoid, brushes his teeth everytime were out and eats like 20 altoids causes he thinks he had bad breath. I brush my teeth too but i dont tell him everytime i do it. i just think thats odd.

Well I dont just like him because I want to go to parties, but its what hes about. He goes out to events/parties and I feel I should be apart of that if were dating. I dont like that hes out there going to parties that he knows I want to go but doesn't invite me along. Its just a really sad feeling. I only asked him one time that I really wanted to go to that one party, he just went alone with his friends from work and never told me he went. He just said , "oh i can't get tiks, sorry" Then I hear his co-worker bragging about it and what a good time they had. I couldn't believe it. I think newphillyguy you are right. He may think I might meet someone better than him if he brings me to a party. Hes very insecure. I also thought maybe hes going without me so he can meet other girls. He keeps telling me, i'm too pretty for him, hes not good enough for me, he has bad hair, etc. Honestly the guy has a great job and is good looking. I have no idea why he feels this way about himself. I guess I'll confront him instead of not saying anything and waiting for something to happen- like him taking me somewhere fun.

I have been dating this guy who works for a popular tv station with a good job. I like him besides his job but I was excpecting him to take me to some fun things since he brags so much about it. He never has. He tells me he knows some famous people but never has introduced me to any. Then I told him I really wanted to go to this show that was sponsored by his company. He told me he would try and get me tiks he promised. But he said he couldn't, then i went to visit him at his job and his co-worker told him. "hey we had so much fun at that show"-- meaning the show I reallly wanted to go to, so he lied to me about it....... I don't understand why he doesn't take me to anything cool. Then he tells me I'm too pretty for him and hes not good enough. He takes me to dinner but thats about it.

Ok that is true. I guess its all my fault. But I do miss him, we used to talk for about 3 hours every weekend. I am so heart-broken over this. He could have told me he has a girlfriend now, he didn't do that. Just put it in my face.

I was dating this guy for two years- never anything serious because I didnt want anything serious. I had a boyfriend at the time and told him that upfront...I really felt we became good friends. he called me every weekend, we talked for hours. I went to his place alot- never sex just having fun talking..... I finally broke up with my boyfriend and was interested in him for more. So now I called him and i hear a girl talking at his place. He says oh thats "denise" ,, He goes shes hanging out with me and shes Italian just like you... I thought he was getting me jealous- it worked. But I called him another time and said "when can we hang out" He tells me, oh do you want to meet me after work with Denise"? I just was surprised, i said ok, then later I called and said sorry i cant make it. I feel so bad. I think its pretty * * * *ty he left me like that. I mean I know I had a boyfriend and that was * * * *ty but I never cut off all contact,,,,,, I kinda feel like its my fault.. but he refuses to call me or talk to me and on his website he has a pic of him and this girlfriend. i feel sad, i miss my friend.

I understand phone avoidance but when someone leaves you messages, you call them back.. I wouldnt have been upset if she she just said sorry I havent got back to you instead of lying and making it look like its my fault.

Well I know some people tell white lies but I mind someone telling me lies that hurt me or discredit what Im saying. I dont know why she just couldnt say- sorry i couldnt call you instead of making it like its all my fault. I'm def not writing her back.

What bothers is me is that she says "its really really something we cant get each other on the phone" Its a lie.

I have a friend who does not return my phone calls. Its been months now_ I just get emails from her, when I call her she never calls back. So SO how do I respond to this, my intuition says to ignore it. Or should I confront her. I dont know why shes saying its "really really something we cant get each other on the phone" when she never calls me back .

Thanks for the great advice. She sent me two emails already. I deleted both and plan on to continue to delete them, not even respond, if I ever see her and she mentions it. I'll just say oh yea "im so busy i never read emails" I think that will get rid of her.

I have an Aunt who I was never close with but she always seemed to me like the cool, wild person in my family thats I always wanted to know better. She was always so nice and caring, sweet, smart, etc... I confided in her about alot of things including my love life. She seemed to be helpful and so nice and loving. then she changed into someone else. Its weird because in he r calls and emails she is friendly and nice but then when I see her she looks angry and is mean. Sometimes her emails are cutting. I realize now that it was all entertainment to her and she prob got some good laughs. At the time I had no idea.... I feel like a fool and stupid for confiding in her. I wish I never got involved with her... How do I get away from her, and stop her emails, what do I say or do? Shes driving me crazy and making me depressed. I feel trapped in her emails, etc.

Yea thats what I thought too, honestly I never been friends with anyone who was using me-this is the first time. I guess she really tricked me at first. But she does act weird. the not talking thing and being bored at clubs/bars. Then she complained she cant meet any guys. I told her, look how your acting, why would a guy want to talk to someone who looks depressed at a club?

Whats weird about her is that she sends me like dozens upon dozens of emails saying lets hang out, etc- then sometimes I get like a 2 page email from her about her x-mas vacation-then shes like how was your x-mas, i write back and get no reply- Then I get a brand new email from her about a different topic like 2 weeks later. I know she sounds like a fair weathered friend but i suspect something is wrong with her.

Sometimes your friends with people and then they change and are not your friend. Thats life. Dont put up with her crap-stand up to her/

So I am a pretty friendly person and open with people I like, I think this girl either has a mental condition or is just weird. I also think when I first met her she made believe she was someone else, someone more like me and then the real person came out. I met this girl 2 years ago- we really became quick friends. had fun going out together. Then after awhile we would go to a club and she has a depressed look on her face, I'm like whats wrong? Shes like "oh its so loud" sulking! Then after hanging out with me for a long time on saturday nights, she tells me on saturday she must sleep early to wake for church on sunday. I live in NYC and that is just weird. this girl im friends with never really talks first , for example, we have been friends for 2 years, not once will she pick up her phone, its always when im leaving a message. Im usually very warm, but she says hi, in a cold tone. I thought maybe its because shes shy. Then theres silence, she always makes me talk first, and I do. Then sometimes she will talk after I have been. At first I tried to ignore it but I think its very weird. I tried letting her talk first but there silence for like 3 minutes until I say something Then there have been times I left her messages and shes said her phone wasnt working, but its happened number of times. She knows everything about my parents, i told her what they do, she never told me what her parents do. I have some friends with great job connections, she asked me to ask 2 of my friends to help her with a job, I did and went out of my way to take her to my friends office, he went out of his way as well... then she tells me she changed her mind about it after she was offered many dream jobs. Then shes always late or she will email me the day we have plans to say, shes sick and lets do something next week, never saying shes sorry. When I told her its rude, she says she thought i would be ok with her cancelling and if i had to do something alone she would drag herself to see me. She also emails me to get information, like she will send me an email, being very friendly saying she misses me, when will we hang out? then she puts at the end btw,, "do you have a good health insurance plan, cause im looking for one? I know I should forget her, but I just don't understand it. I asked her a couple of times if everything is ok, she always says yes. I just never had an experience like this with someone