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Anyone have any inspirational break up songs? Music is powerful and is my number one passion in life. I feel that it'll help me a lot listening to it everyday and remembering the lyrics. Right now, I'm listening to Jessica Simpson's "I Belong to Me".

Thanks Frisco, I agree and you couldn't have explained it any better about how my thought process will and should be. I just graduated from college in August and have been interviewing with companies. I know I will be successful and the next few months will be a learning process. I will be able to enjoy life and enjoy myself.

Thank you. I need to keep believe I have the strength and I expect to be really sad and know it will be okay soon

I broke up with my boyfriend, 8 years. It's just a long, complicated story-some of you may remember-but it doesn't matter now. It's just not fair because I have to suffer now and I can't help but be bitter about it. I know life's not fair but it feels like betrayal now. I really need some support. Anyone have any break up advice or anything about how to get over a long-term boyfriend?

Thanks for your response. I know it's such an unusual condition so it's great that someone at least at something to say. I guess it's just the child within me because I'm not wearing the adult diapers...but who knows. Do you know of any active forums about infantilism? I tried looking everywhere online but nothing active and with moderators. I never thought to bring it up to my therapists before but that would be a great idea.

For several years now, I would think cute, tiny things were super adorable that I would get super excited. Then more recently, I enjoyed pretending I was a baby (wiggly and wearing cute shorts, shirts, pigtails). Until today, I had no idea it was a mental condition. However, the big important difference is that I am not sexually aroused by this subject. I just enjoy pretending like I'm a cute baby. Wikipedia defines it as: "Paraphilic infantilism is a paraphilia that involves the desire to wear diapers and be treated as a helpless infant." The easiest way to describe paraphilic infantilism is to contrast it with a diaper fetish. Diaper fetishes are a sexual fetish, where the diapers themselves serve as a sexual focus. Paraphilic infantilism is less intuitive since it isn't a fetish. Fetishes focus on a sexually charged object, while infantilism focuses on the self-image of the Adult Baby. The AB has an alternate self-image of an infant. This is similar to a transvestite, except that instead of engaging a female alter-ego every now and then, ABs engage an infantile alter-ego. ABs cannot physically become infants, but try to simulate infancy. This may include the use of adult-sized diapers and baby clothing, toys, baby oils and powders, etc. If the AB's partner is willing to engage in roleplay, she will play the mommy (or he will play the daddy) while the AB plays an infant or toddler. When roleplaying, the AB would try to achieve a baby-like mood or mindset. As a result, sex during the scene would seem incestuous. The AB and partner may have an ordinary sexual relationship at other times, but not while engaged in infantilistic play. As would be expected, the baby wears the diapers. For more information, read: I am completely appalled by this because I just thought I was being cute. Has anyone else heard or experienced this? Although it is harmless and my boyfriend knows I am this way, I am worried because it is still weird. I even look really young for 21 so I feel even more babylike. What is everyone's opinion on my situation?

Some of you may remember me with the boyfriend I had concerns about with. We spent the holidays together and it was great. We are both super strong right now.

The only reason why I brought it up was because when we were together, I was worried about our future in terms of financial stability.

The only real thing I've had an issue with is having sex with him in the costumes. Otherwise, I don't wanna stop him from dressing up a few times a year.

He's not gay. If anything, he may have a sexual identity crisis because he is not attracted to men at all. That's not the issue. He's still attracted to women, it's just he likes being a woman.

Wow, that's really an interesting story. That's most likely what I imagined would happen to me. I do believe in compromise. In this case though, I sadly think one may have to sacrifice certain things. He claims that he enjoys sex just as much when he's not dressed up as a woman so we could always just go back to that. I don't have anything against him crossdressing in general and he only does it a couple of times a year. He is honest with me whether good or bad, so I know he would tell me right away if he would be unhappy with this. My therapist said that religion can be a serious issue in a relationship if we let it. She says if he was willing to let our children be baptised a Catholics, then that's great already. I do hate having him sacrifice this for me but we agreed that this was probably the most realistic thing we'd have to decide on.

Actually, I did forget about those free hotlines. I know there's a lot that is completely free and confidential so that's a great start. I'm sorry about my response since it did mean in the future. I think meeting people does take practice so don't get discouraged by your current friendships losing touch. Many people natural grow apart as they get older. You're not alone although it can get really lonely. I could understand what you mean about moving to a new apartment. Try the hotlines for now and see if that helps in your current state of mind. At the same time, I'm sure you'll be investing in your new home. Good luck with it!

He does want to work. He's tried jobs even like Target and minimal wage jobs but they say he's overqualified. The jobs he does qualify for say he doesn't have enough experience. He's worked at Toys R U as a teen, Wendy's....clerical work...he's tried getting jobs even during college. Nothing...no one. He couldn't even get a job at his mom's work and they hired his brother who is a high school drop out.

I would like to extend my thoughts as well and thank you for posting!

First thing that attracts me to a guy is their looks. I love guys with short, groomed hair. Then, he has to be nice, intelligent, and hard-working. That's just in terms of a non-relationship stand point. In a relationship perspectve, he definitely has to respect me, understand me, and love me for who I am.