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How does he know that this guy is not local and she has not been with this guy, she lied to him about the emails so why would she not lie about being with him. You dont really know what she has done. If she had not been cheating he would have known about the emails.

Just coming up on something is not snooping. She was cheating and how could he be in the wrong. She just got caught. If I was doing the same thing and Jack came to use the pc and when he click the mouse he would read what was on the screen and so would you. He only needs to stay with her if she fills much guilt and then it would be hard to trust her.

I would say move on and still be her friend just not as close, get away from her for a while and start dating and just keep telling yourself its not happening. One day all will be ok, but if you keep hanging around her you will never find someone else, and look if it is meant to be it will, but dont sit around trying to think up ways to get her your just hurting yourself.

I agree with you about the doctor. I dont think I would want him to take the drugs unless they are safe, the prostate problem is not the only problem he has. But its the bummer one

He has not had sugery and is a very good educated man, he tells me that he just does not have the disire. We went for years like two loved crazed kids, three times a day for a long long time. I guess I just miss this and need to try and relax, he is very open and does not have a problem talking with his doctor or me. I guess I worry for nothing. It hard to have sex by yourself as it gets old, I have used a dildo before and I dont like it, and I would never let him know that I used anything as I dont want it to affect him and make him fill less of a man, I do masterbate and this helps but it is not like having someone hold you and touch you. I got very upset with my doctor as he wanted me to stay with him but have a outside affair. I dont approve of this and told him no. My friends said it sounded as if he wanted to be with me. I dont know. I wonder how many doctors would tell their patients to do this? I still see this doc and think he made a mistake, otherwise a good doc.

Tell him to make wings and fly off, he does not deverse to be in a relationship with you or anyone else. This guys is sick and needs help but you are not the one to do it. He need professional help and if you stick around for this guy to hurt you he will. So dont let this guy bring you down get out fast and stay out. Trust me dont put yourself through this, tell him it is over and leave him alone and move on.

We have a very good relationship, we do everything together we, dont fight or fuss. We have our days dont get me wrong, but if we fuss it is not often and most of the time it is something stupid, we end up laughing about it and let it go. He does take hormone shots and goes to the doctor on a regular basis, he told me last night that he would talk with his doctor about this because it is bothering me. I want our sex life back but it may be something that I just have to deal with. I just need to know if maybe it could be me and not all the prostate problem. He claims he has no intrest in sex. I did not think that prostate problems done this to you.

You may be filling the explosion, a little heated. Major blast so I dont think it is a STD if you have never had sex before, it just may be that you are having a strong orgasm. This happens to me somtimes and I am a female with no STD's Slight burning right after orgasim

I need some help here. My boyfriend is 55 years old and has prostate problems, sometimes he has a problem with getting it up and keeping it up, when this happens he does not want to try anymore and takes forever to try and start sex again. Now it is to the point to where we do not have sex at all. I am younger 45 and I dont know if it is just me or what, because he says he has gained weight and I have gained weight that he is not intrested. I ask him about his sex drive and he says he has none. I still want sex from him even though he has gained weight and I fill like sometimes he is running around on me. Is it possible to lose all your sex drive? He never comes to me anymore. I worry someone else is in the picture, but he is always home on time and I dont get hang up calls or anything. Could I be worried for nothing.

She is being very disrespectful to you by even talking to him. Reason is this guys has a crush on her and you and her both no it.. Put your foot down with her before this gets out of hand. You are being wronged here. I could just see my boyfriend dealing with something like this. He would break up with me and I would not blame him. This guy is doing this to come in between the two of you and she is letting him do that. If she can not see this then it might be in your best intrest to get out of this relationship, and you have nothing to fill quilty about if you do it. She is in the wrong here, plain and simple, if it were just a friend that she was close to ok. but this guys is takeing this to far, "A Crush" A crush that is destroying the relationship between you two. If she wont stop this you can, break up with her.

It would be ok if we were broke up and he went with someone else and then he realized this is not what he wanted and loved the other person. If you were not broke up and he or she went behind your back and you are allready broke up then why go back. move on.

No I dont think she should stay in a abusive relationship, what I am saying is that she is making excuses because she is in another relationship. Her marriage looks worse to her because she is haveing this outside relationship and as long as this is going on she will get no where. You can not fix a marriage while haveing another relationship with someone else. The new looks to good. Truth is she needs to get out of the mess and work on what she has. The other new in time will get old to. When a relationship gets old do you run to another, no I dont think so, fussing is hard but can be fixed! # 1 she could start by telling her husband that all this fussing and fighting is pushing her away and if he wants to stay mrried to me then I think this is something that we need to work on, it is her choice whatever she does, for me I would rather work on the current marrage than to throw it all away, I dont even see where she had posted that she has even tryed. Most of the time when you cheat the new relationship will not work out. You can not trust the other person nor can he trust you because both of you went behind the others back. I dont really think this is what she wants

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 years, we have lived together the last five years. He has told me at times we are more like room mates instead of boyfriend and girlfriend, but after you have been together for a long time the inlove part kind of dies, there are things you can do to bring this back but seeing another man has you all messed up. I suggest that you stop the outside affair and try and make things better in your current relastionship, I also agree that what is happening is that the other guy is new and you are expecting this relationship to be better, but let me tell you that the grass in no greener on the other side and you are hurting yourself by doing what you are doing. And if you tell him it is even going to be worse, you will be hurting him. If you do divorce this man I suggest that you get rid of the other guy and give yourself and your husband the time to work on your marrage, you can not do this with the other man in the picture. Years after you have been with him the same thing will happen, nothing ever stays new, it always gets old. That is what is wrong with people today they cant work through the rough times and just throw in the towel. Dont be one of those people, marraige is somthing that you have to work at and it not something that should be taken lightly. Right now you dont really know what you want because there is someone else in your life, no good, and being single out there in todays world after you have been married for a long time is a whole different ball park. Its not like you are coming out of college or high school, most of the good guys are taken and the pickens are few and far between. Get rid of him and take care of your husband, spice thing up a bit and see if you cant get the relationship back to where is was before all the fighting, if you can do that then you will be fullfiled and no need to end a long relationship to find that you made a mistake.

From my understanding most men will cheat. Not saying that all will but if you look there are 5 women to every man, lot of women throw thereselfs on men they take it just for the sex. I for one would fill that this person that cheats does not love me or they could not do this. I know I cant. Like I said before the only way I would try and make a relationship work with someone that has cheated is for them to fess up own their own. If I catch them out the door they would go. Why would a person that has told you the truth go back out and make the same mistake, makes not sense to me.

There is nothing wrong with harmless flurting, but she was hiding this from you. She would give me his name and phone# and call him and tell him in front of me that it is over and that she loves you and does not want this to go any further if not, out the door she would go. If she will go to the lenghts to lie to you then she is not one to be trusted. I am a firm believer in rebuilding a relationship if you can, but honesty, has to be the #1 thing, so far all I see is that she is not telling you anything except that she made a mistake after being caught. Seams to me she is still wanting to carry on with her game until she gets what she wants. If she cant fess up then you need to walk out and let her play her game and you can start you healing process. Its hard once someone has not been truthful with you to ever trust them again. I for one dont think I would be able to sleep at night, would worry all the time and this is not good for ones health.