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Lolz.. will try that. But what bugs me is just the sudden change. I guess her body language will speak louder than her words. Will see how it goes.

Any suggestions anyone? No one can answer this so far. So I would appreciate some suggestions. Thanks

Well, there is something weird going on now.. See the thing is, in real life, we are getting on great. We can talk, though she talks less these days a little. I mean, before I knew she liked me.. She would talk more with me.. We would talk more about stuff. But now adays, when she does like, why doesnt she talk more? Is it because she is lost for words? I dont know. I mean, her body language says she still likes me alot. But communication wise, I cant tell anymore. But still, what bugs me is that in real life is that she and I get along well, we are getting closer. But once upon a time, before we grew closer, she used to talk on msn way more than she does now. I mean, she would come online, and we wouldnt talk much these days. Like she wouldnt ask me anything, and just answered me if I asked anything. She wont bring any new topics, but I dont understand. When I ask her why she doesnt talk so much, she says that she cant be stuffed typing. In other words, she doesnt want to type. What on earth! She doesnt want to talk to me?! I dont understand it, her MSN life and real life arent consistant. Is it because she has already got me so she doesnt take so much trouble to keep talking to me in MSN but in real life? I dont know. Help would be appreciated thankS!! We arent going out yet. But maybe a little tactics might help, i should avoid her a little. Like dont talk to her so much. I have my own life too anyway. Right? Any suggestions?

Dont we all get paranoid sometimes? Just wondering who is there with her or what she is doing? About thinking about her all the time.. as long as it is not an obssesion, its perfectly normal. Its called Infactuation. Asking her where she is may be implying something to her if you keep asking her those kinda things. I have a friend who has a guy crazy for her, but he acts as if he is her boyfriend already. Asking her all kinds of stuff and saying he loves her and such. But the thing is, my friend is kinda freaking out at him now, she doesnt like him doing that, I mean she likes him back but is kinda pissed at what he does. So likewise, dont scare her off. Take it easy mate.

Have you ever tried to be a close friend to her first? Without drawing any suspicions and such? Just being there for her may even assist you in your quest for the girl you like. Giving up aint worth it, there will be girls who will see you for you and might fall for you. Just relax, take it slow.

That may be so, but look at how she re-acts to her boyfriend, she isnt being faithful to him. How would you re-act if you found out that when you werent around, she went and started going out with other guys? I personally wouldnt recommend such girls. She is being unfaithful, can you really trust this kind of girls? I dont think so. Although you like her alot, she is still in a relationship, in other words, you are cheating with her. I'd say drop her. Relationships are based on trust, and her with it's obvious.

Best thing to do, is to look at it from a 3rd person view. Say to yourself, if all I wanted was for her to be my friend, would I be doing this? or would I be doing that? As for the online girl thing, say hi to them everyday if you want, I dont see anything wrong with that.

Im not too sure about her intentions. Frankly, they are quite confusing. I just came back from Youth Camp. She went as well. We had a great time together, chatting and having fun. But some times during the camp it was pretty weird. There was this time where she was wondering off by herself, so since I was heading to the lake (which is very close to the cabins). I asked her whether she wanted to come with. She was pretty reluctant, she was like "Yeah, I havent really been there yet... uhmm.. I dont feel like walking." It was like she wanted to go yet there was somethint holding her back. So I left it at that and didnt bother, I let her stroll back to her friends and didnt want to push it too far. Later on that day, we had like a game we all played that mimics 'The Amazing Race'. So she was in my team, or rather I had no team, so her team asked me to come to their team. As I came there, a camp co-ordinator came and asked if we were a group, before I answered, she said "You are in my team!" It was pretty funny. But since we were team mates, we were like mostly having time walking together and such. After games, I sat near the lake which had a great view, and guess what? She found me and was like hoping that I would follow her to the flying fox, which was this swing thing. So I just followed her around. It was great fun, she is so caring. Like we had to get someone to do the Canoeing as one part of the race. So I was like giving orders, then she was like saying in a joking manner, "Why dont you do it?" So I was joking back saying, "Because I am one of those Supervissor people who tells people what to do." But I did it in the end, cuz she suggested me to do it. So later she came up to me cuz she was feeling bad that she made me do it, so she helped me with my Helmet and Vest, assisting me to put it on and such. It was really nice of her. But that is how she is. I liked that bit of her where she did that, cuz it reminded me of a man going out to war and their woman dressing them up in their armours. Anyway, ranting on and on is just like me writing an entry in a journal or something. But I'll get to my point. The point is that I dont know if asking her for a walk was too much, cuz eventually, SHE came to find me and walked with me anyway. Her friend came up to me later as well and said that I treat the girl I lilke as if I was her boyfriend already, partly because there was this incident the night before where the girl I liked was talking about getting a coffee, so I just said that I'll make it for her if she really wanted. She told me it was ok but thats when her friend said that I was like her boyfriend already. BUT that was not really true, I was just being helpful. So sometimes I go find her and talk to her, sometimes she finds me and talks to me. So I dont think im rubbing her the wrong way, in fact I think she enjoys it. We like talking to each other and such. Like another part of the race was like doing this huge giant swing thing, two people had to do it, so since I had never done it before, she told out leader that she wanted me to do it since I had never done it before. But she is always doing thing kind of thing for me, I like it, its like she is showing me off to her friends sometimes. I dont know if this is a sign, but when people like say we are a couple or just the fact that we like each other, but she doesnt seem to mind, like she doesnt deny it either. When her friend said that I was like her boyfriend, it was also directly in front of her, she just told me to ignore her friend. Suggestions anyone? Sorry for the long post, this is all on my mind for the past 3 days. I know she likes me, its just trying to find out the next outcome.

I also think he may be interested. There arent that many people out there who would give you a ride when they are just friends. You need to be at least close enough with the person before they actually give a ride right?

Oh thank you! Sounds good to me! I think we'll just not put everything straight out first. She likes talking to me. She doesnt really make me do things for her. She is kinda shy, so she just comes up to me and talks to me and we have fun that way. So I guess i'll just wait.

People must really hate me. Either that or they just dont want to help..

From my view of the story, I think I might understand where he is coming from. Although im heaps younger than you and your ex. Anyway, I like this girl very much. For her birthday, I also drew he an awesome picture. All my friends and hers commented on it. She knows I like her, and she likes me too. But we are gonna take it slow. So just dont rush things. But I do know that drawing something for a lady can touch them easily. So I dont want to rush things with her, and only when we are ready will we enter a relationship. So he may be like me, or he may not. But i'm just giving you an example. I do believe that he does have feelings for you too. Same as me, the girl I like would be constantly put together with me, people think we are together. We arent though. Lolz... hoped I helped in some way.

I dont wanna burst your bubble. But there are many risk in just having sex with her. Well, you can get an STD, you can get her pregnant. So many problems.... But its your decision, people say that when you do it too young, it stuffs up your life eventually.

This is the loooooooooooooooong story short. The previous one was WAAAAAYYYYYY long and in the wrong spot. So anyway im going to make it short and simple to read this time. I like this girl alot (as we always say). She likes me too, but she hasnt told me. I heard this from a friend who overheard her talking with her best friend. She likes me, but I guess she doesnt want to tell me yet? Well, I have already confessed to her some time ago. Finally she returns my feelings, but doesnt want to tell me? I dont understand, maybe she wants to let our friendship grow first? She doesnt know that I know about her feelings for me. I dont know, I just cant understand her way of thinking. Maybe shes shy? SHe is a shy person anyway. But not telling me? I cant figure it out. What do you guys think? If you want the LOOONG story, just click on the link below. Thanks guys, Im looking forward to your advices. link removed I posted my topic in the wrong section. Sorry im new. I happened to stumble accross this site when I was looking at some quiz thingy. Sorry sorry. Lolz..

Im outgoing. But I like this girl who is kinda shy. But she is opening up to me anyway. She can be loud when she wants to be, but she is shy.

Its sad to know that there are people like this in the world, not satisfied with their girls and no time for them. I would love a girl who was possesive over me. I like a girl to want my attention as much as I want hers. Weird I know. I wouldnt mind a girl who loves me that much that she needs to pry on me. But then again, im an open person so I dont hide anything. Not that I would cheat on her anyway. She might pry on me, but she would find nothing. But doesnt prying seem a little insecure? As for your guy, I dont understand why he would travel so far just for her? Maybe he is beginning to like her and he doesnt want to lie and hurt you anymore. Frankly, I agree with what Shadows Light said.

Hmm.. yeah.. If I do however ask her out. Its still asking her out. She would definitely take it as a date. Hahaha... This is really funny, but I dont think her parents allow her to actually officially date yet. I dont particularly want to go out officially with her yet. I just want to continue building up the friendship. I think we call it Friends with Benefits? Its not that I am afraid of commitment or anything. I just dont want us to rush things. I'd rather be sure. People are meant to date only when you want to Marry that person. Unless ou date for other reasons like just for that sake of it. So, back to asking her out. Her friends think we make a cute couple and such. They think we would be great together. I have asked her out before, as in unofficial, but I asked her to invite some friends, so that it wouldnt seem weird just having her, and me and my friends only. So so she would have some company. Not just her alone with my friends whom she doesnt hang out with. Maybe when she tells me of her true feelings, then I might ask her out?? Maybe? What do you think?

Though you may want to find the girl who is better. Dont make yourself seem like a player though. But if you cant decide which one yet, then you shouldn't show favouritism to either of them.

By the way... Im very sorry for this outrageously long post. Please bare with me. You guys are great. Well, here's the deal. I love this girl alot. Let's name her 'Trish' so you can understand better. I should tell you more about her first, so you can understand her better. Basically, she is a quiet type of girl who can be loud when she wants to be. She isnt as open as me. She is kinda shy, she is not the bad girl type. She keeps alot to herself. She is the little miss goodie of the class kind. She isnt flirtatious. She is very nice, and kind and caring, not flirtatious or b*tchy. She would avoid someone who likes her if they confessed and she didnt like them. But to carry on with the story... We have been friends for more than a year. Frankly, I dont mind a relationship with her. But that will come later. Now would probably be too early. I dont want to rush things, we have time. But the thing is, we or rather I, have been on a weird ride along with her. We respect each other as friends. She trusts me alot. But she never liked me. Acording to all her friends. But anyway, I always thought she did. So one day, I told her how I felt. All her signs, I promise you, even my friends thought that she liked me. But well, I guess she didnt. But she didnt really respond. She said there wasnt anything wrong with me liking her though. At that moment in time, she liked her best friend. He didnt like her though. Anyway, she claimed to like two people. Her best friend and some guy that no one knew about. So anyway, I got a little upset that she didnt feel that same way. But I couldnt ignore her, and I didnt want to anyway. So we continued being friends and we got closer. We grew closer. NOW, things have been up and down, and currently the rides going uphill. But now, a friend of mine over heard her talking with her best friend. It appears that Trish likes me back. But what is she waiting for? I mean, I told her before how I felt. I have re-inforced my feelings for her many times, through non-verbal ways. Like when girls sit with me, I dont sit too close, and all those kinds of things. She seems to get pretty jealous when they sit with me anyway. I personally dont like sitting with them. I mean, I dont mind sitting with them, they just like sitting with me, but of course I would rather sit with her. When people come up with rumours about me liking other girls, I made sure she was there and casually told my other friends. Making sure she heard, and she does of course. Last week, we had the chance to sit together, we had to sit in a circle, and she was right next to me, she drew her chair next to mine, and she was considering sitting next to me i suppose. But then she sat one chair away from me. I mean, maybe she is scared of what people might say? People always make fun of me and her becuz of our signs we give each other.. and how we talk with each other and stuff. But maybe she is afraid that I might know of her feelings? At this moment she doesnt even know that I know about her feelings for me. But maybe she isnt ready? Maybe Trish doesnt want anything yet? I wish she would just tell me. But I dont want to ask, I mean, a friend of mine overheard Trish talking about her liking me, but if I told her that I know, she would get suspitious of how I knew without anyone telling me. So I just I have to wait right? I dont want to have a relationship first, it's weird, but all I want at this stage of time, is for her to tell me how she feels for me. The reason for not wanting a relationship is simple, I dont want to be with her just because I like her alot for who she is. I want to know her very well first, I want to build up our trust and such first, then when we are ready, we can start. Yet, I dont want to wait too long that I lose her. But I think it's worth the wait. What im happy about her is that if I get with her, I will be the first. Lolz. I know im very naive, but I want to be her first and last person in her life and I want her to be my first and last too. In other words, I dont want anyone else. I just want one person and dont want to be jumping from one person to another. Its awkward for me to say this, but we are pretty desirable people with a fair ammount of admirers. Both of us are very similar in values and reactions. So we think alike as well. We get along very well too.