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Lolz.. will try that. But what bugs me is just the sudden change. I guess her body language will speak louder than her words. Will see how it goes.

Any suggestions anyone? No one can answer this so far. So I would appreciate some suggestions. Thanks

Well, there is something weird going on now.. See the thing is, in real life, we are getting on great. We can talk, though she talks less these days a little. I mean, before I knew she liked me.. She would talk more with me.. We would talk more about stuff. But now adays, when she does like, why doesnt she talk more? Is it because she is lost for words? I dont know. I mean, her body language says she still likes me alot. But communication wise, I cant tell anymore. But still, what bugs me is that in real life is that she and I get along well, we are getting closer. But once upon a time, before we grew closer, she used to talk on msn way more than she does now. I mean, she would come online, and we wouldnt talk much these days. Like she wouldnt ask me anything, and just answered me if I asked anything. She wont bring any new topics, but I dont understand. When I ask her why she doesnt talk so much, she says that she cant be stuffed typing. In other words, she doesnt want to type. What on earth! She doesnt want to talk to me?! I dont understand it, her MSN life and real life arent consistant. Is it because she has already got me so she doesnt take so much trouble to keep talking to me in MSN but in real life? I dont know. Help would be appreciated thankS!! We arent going out yet. But maybe a little tactics might help, i should avoid her a little. Like dont talk to her so much. I have my own life too anyway. Right? Any suggestions?

Dont we all get paranoid sometimes? Just wondering who is there with her or what she is doing? About thinking about her all the time.. as long as it is not an obssesion, its perfectly normal. Its called Infactuation. Asking her where she is may be implying something to her if you keep asking her those kinda things. I have a friend who has a guy crazy for her, but he acts as if he is her boyfriend already. Asking her all kinds of stuff and saying he loves her and such. But the thing is, my friend is kinda freaking out at him now, she doesnt like him doing that, I mean she likes him back but is kinda pissed at what he does. So likewise, dont scare her off. Take it easy mate.

Have you ever tried to be a close friend to her first? Without drawing any suspicions and such? Just being there for her may even assist you in your quest for the girl you like. Giving up aint worth it, there will be girls who will see you for you and might fall for you. Just relax, take it slow.

That may be so, but look at how she re-acts to her boyfriend, she isnt being faithful to him. How would you re-act if you found out that when you werent around, she went and started going out with other guys? I personally wouldnt recommend such girls. She is being unfaithful, can you really trust this kind of girls? I dont think so. Although you like her alot, she is still in a relationship, in other words, you are cheating with her. I'd say drop her. Relationships are based on trust, and her with it's obvious.

Best thing to do, is to look at it from a 3rd person view. Say to yourself, if all I wanted was for her to be my friend, would I be doing this? or would I be doing that? As for the online girl thing, say hi to them everyday if you want, I dont see anything wrong with that.

Im not too sure about her intentions. Frankly, they are quite confusing. I just came back from Youth Camp. She went as well. We had a great time together, chatting and having fun. But some times during the camp it was pretty weird. There was this time where she was wondering off by herself, so since I was heading to the lake (which is very close to the cabins). I asked her whether she wanted to come with. She was pretty reluctant, she was like "Yeah, I havent really been there yet... uhmm.. I dont feel like walking." It was like she wanted to go yet there was somethint holding her back. So I left it at that and didnt bother, I let her stroll back to her friends and didnt want to push it too far. Later on that day, we had like a game we all played that mimics 'The Amazing Race'. So she was in my team, or rather I had no team, so her team asked me to come to their team. As I came there, a camp co-ordinator came and asked if we were a group, before I answered, she said "You are in my team!" It was pretty funny. But since we were team mates, we were like mostly having time walking together and such. After games, I sat near the lake which had a great view, and guess what? She found me and was like hoping that I would follow her to the flying fox, which was this swing thing. So I just followed her around. It was great fun, she is so caring. Like we had to get someone to do the Canoeing as one part of the race. So I was like giving orders, then she was like saying in a joking manner, "Why dont you do it?" So I was joking back saying, "Because I am one of those Supervissor people who tells people what to do." But I did it in the end, cuz she suggested me to do it. So later she came up to me cuz she was feeling bad that she made me do it, so she helped me with my Helmet and Vest, assisting me to put it on and such. It was really nice of her. But that is how she is. I liked that bit of her where she did that, cuz it reminded me of a man going out to war and their woman dressing them up in their armours. Anyway, ranting on and on is just like me writing an entry in a journal or something. But I'll get to my point. The point is that I dont know if asking her for a walk was too much, cuz eventually, SHE came to find me and walked with me anyway. Her friend came up to me later as well and said that I treat the girl I lilke as if I was her boyfriend already, partly because there was this incident the night before where the girl I liked was talking about getting a coffee, so I just said that I'll make it for her if she really wanted. She told me it was ok but thats when her friend said that I was like her boyfriend already. BUT that was not really true, I was just being helpful. So sometimes I go find her and talk to her, sometimes she finds me and talks to me. So I dont think im rubbing her the wrong way, in fact I think she enjoys it. We like talking to each other and such. Like another part of the race was like doing this huge giant swing thing, two people had to do it, so since I had never done it before, she told out leader that she wanted me to do it since I had never done it before. But she is always doing thing kind of thing for me, I like it, its like she is showing me off to her friends sometimes. I dont know if this is a sign, but when people like say we are a couple or just the fact that we like each other, but she doesnt seem to mind, like she doesnt deny it either. When her friend said that I was like her boyfriend, it was also directly in front of her, she just told me to ignore her friend. Suggestions anyone? Sorry for the long post, this is all on my mind for the past 3 days. I know she likes me, its just trying to find out the next outcome.

I also think he may be interested. There arent that many people out there who would give you a ride when they are just friends. You need to be at least close enough with the person before they actually give a ride right?

Oh thank you! Sounds good to me! I think we'll just not put everything straight out first. She likes talking to me. She doesnt really make me do things for her. She is kinda shy, so she just comes up to me and talks to me and we have fun that way. So I guess i'll just wait.

People must really hate me. Either that or they just dont want to help..

From my view of the story, I think I might understand where he is coming from. Although im heaps younger than you and your ex. Anyway, I like this girl very much. For her birthday, I also drew he an awesome picture. All my friends and hers commented on it. She knows I like her, and she likes me too. But we are gonna take it slow. So just dont rush things. But I do know that drawing something for a lady can touch them easily. So I dont want to rush things with her, and only when we are ready will we enter a relationship. So he may be like me, or he may not. But i'm just giving you an example. I do believe that he does have feelings for you too. Same as me, the girl I like would be constantly put together with me, people think we are together. We arent though. Lolz... hoped I helped in some way.

I dont wanna burst your bubble. But there are many risk in just having sex with her. Well, you can get an STD, you can get her pregnant. So many problems.... But its your decision, people say that when you do it too young, it stuffs up your life eventually.

This is the loooooooooooooooong story short. The previous one was WAAAAAYYYYYY long and in the wrong spot. So anyway im going to make it short and simple to read this time. I like this girl alot (as we always say). She likes me too, but she hasnt told me. I heard this from a friend who overheard her talking with her best friend. She likes me, but I guess she doesnt want to tell me yet? Well, I have already confessed to her some time ago. Finally she returns my feelings, but doesnt want to tell me? I dont understand, maybe she wants to let our friendship grow first? She doesnt know that I know about her feelings for me. I dont know, I just cant understand her way of thinking. Maybe shes shy? SHe is a shy person anyway. But not telling me? I cant figure it out. What do you guys think? If you want the LOOONG story, just click on the link below. Thanks guys, Im looking forward to your advices. link removed I posted my topic in the wrong section. Sorry im new. I happened to stumble accross this site when I was looking at some quiz thingy. Sorry sorry. Lolz..

Im outgoing. But I like this girl who is kinda shy. But she is opening up to me anyway. She can be loud when she wants to be, but she is shy.