Ghalerine

I dunno why this keeps happening to me.. The last time I posted, it's about getting straight with my LDR and keeping away from a third party.. All worked out fine the last time.. Now, I guess is worse.. I am still with my LD bf.. Everything's fine with us.. Though we're really not able to make the "more-often-communication".. but as we're both busy with our work.. not too often communication have not been a problem.. Just recently, i was introduced to a guy.. He's living in another city which is quite far from mine but he's staying in my city now for a work.. he'd been needing company and i was asked to accompany him for quite some time.. we get along well.. i found out that he has no gf and i dunno if he knew if i have coz we're not talking about it... everytime that someone would see us together, they'd always say that we have good chemistry.. at first, i was ignoring these comments.. but it started to bug me when i suddenly realize that i am not missing my bf that much.. i am not really sure if having this guy's company is a factor.. i am starting to ask my self now what's going on to me.. til i found out how i am beginning to like this new guy.. and i hate it.. unlike, the previous guy.. i couldn't avoid this guy coz i ought to accompany him.. what should i do?

there's no specific place to find the one.. he/she would be in the right place and you would just know it when he/she came...

have you read the article bout the difference of someone you like from someone you love? one line there states that in front of someone you like you had butterflies.. but in someone you love you felt comfort and happiness.. hope that line helped ..

i guess i have to thank you guys.. for the advise.. yes, it is the other guy i lessened my contact not my bf.. i did call him.. and all worked fine... thanks again..

this is an update on my recent post.. i decided to lessen being with this guy coz i know to myself that i don't wanna do something stupid that would ruin our relationship.. and i decided to tell my bf how i think.. just to be honest enough.. he understand.. but what i don't understand is when he said he'll be giving me enough spce to think things over.. he's not contacting me for a week now.. what should i do? i miss him terribly!!!

you know what.. those words you said.. it's almost the same with what i've said when i was your age.. and you know what.. i just laugh whenever i remember all those crap i've said.. what i'm trying to say is.. it's normal that you feel that way.. almost all teenagers do.. but believe me.. your parents are not being OVER protective.. they're just giving you the protection you need at your age.. why? are they still accompanying you to school.. waiting you there til you're done with your class? are they making a print of the schedules of all your activities for the whole day and the whole week? are they giving personal info sheet to those who wanted to befriend you to be able to know each one of them? and that only those who passed their standards would be your friends? or are they tapping some device on your phone to be able to listen to every conversation you're making with your friends? i believe your anwer to these questions would be NO.. don't ever think that we just don't understand you.. coz we do.. we've been there.. and we're just trying to make things easier for you.. it isn't your parents trusting you more that you need now.. it is you understanding your parents.. believe me.. all these ideas you're having.. they are just ideas not facts.. stop thinking about these ideas.. it's not healthy.. try to appreciate those things your parents are doing for you.. it'll help you overcome that feeling.. also.. think of what you've said.. you said you parents are over protective then you said that they don't care for you.. did you realize how odd those statements are?

I'm new in LDR, it's been so hard for me to accept the situation at first but after some thinking I finally accept it.. but now that i did something suddenly happened.. i know how important communication is and we've talked about it already.. but because he's really so busy, everyday talk had not been possible for us.. we've just set a definite day to talk.. despite all these it's really been hard to avoid not to miss him those days that we're not able to talk.. and i can't avoid to feel bad not having him to accompany me in some activities that he's supposedly there with me... to be able to overcome such feeling I make myself be surrounded by friends all of the time.. i even do make new friends.. and there's this guy.. he's being a good friend to me.. he was almost always available to accompany me whenever i needed one.. he made friends with my friends and even with my family.. at some point he was able to help me to lessen that terrible feeling i'm having whenever i miss my bf.. one day, i just woke up and realize that i am actually spending a lot more time with this guy than my bf and that i am actually enjoying his company.. and more.. i was not able to tell my bf about him.. i did tell my bf that i met this guy.. but i was not able to tell him that i'm actually accompanying him in most of my activities.. i do love my bf.. very much.. but this guy.. he's getting my attention.. i am afraid that i would just wake up one day finding my self falling for this guy.. a thing i don't wanna happen.. but, i never feel any guilt whenever i am with this guy.. and he well knew that i have a bf.. what do you think i should do?

what her problem is? she's longing for your affection.. how old is she? if she's still in teen.. she most probably is seeking romance in your relationship..

Thanks for the post! It helped me see that LDR isn't that hard at all though we're on that hardship stage.. Thanks again..

he said.. he's falling in love with you.. he didn't say he fell already.. means he is still in the process and just backing off a bit to figure out his real feelings or the steps he should do to prove his feelings to you.. it would be better to give him time.. learn to control that strong emotion you're having right now.. it might just lead you to doinghtings that would make him back off totally.. which i know you'd never wanns happen...

dear.. it's obvious.. you miss him terribly... try to control that strong emotion.. it might lead to you doing something unhealthy for both of you... think positively..

keep yourself busy with SOMETHING else not SOMEONE else.. that's right... don't try to forget.. try to accept... think of this quote... "It is only when we learn to ACCEPT and UNDERSTAND the meaning of our failure, wel'll be able to move on with our life with out having to look back and cry over the things that could have been but will never be.."

there's somethin about my bf that bothered me. but i really don't know how to tell him.. coz i'm afraid he'd get offended.. and to ocnsider we're on an LDR.. he could easily misuderstood me telling himt hese things.. i would appreciate any comment on this..

Just wanna know.. are you a Christian? Do you believe in the Bible? Have you read the verses where it was recorded when God talked to Adam after he and his wife sinned? God said, that because of that rebellious thing they did, he'll die and when he die, he'll be back to dust coz out of it he was taken. Another verse said that a person, the moment he died, his thoughts would be gone. Another verse said that a person living knew that he'll die but a dead person knows nothing. (I just forgot the verses.. i'll send them to you next time.. I don't have my Bible here with me now).. So that simple.. when we died.. we will be back to dust and our thoughts would be gone.. If you "study" not just read the bible.. you find nothing that tells that people, when they died they'll go either to heaven or hell.. Make a research.. and you'll prove me right.. This is a long discussion but I would welcome questions.. Just send me private message..

i'm on a LDR.. just began.. at first, i really feel bad whenever i was not able to hear from my guy for even just a day.. last time we talked about this.. and i don't feel not contented on the things he told me.. these last three days.. he was not able to contact me again.. but surprisingly, but for a reason i don't know, i don't feel bad.. maybe because i am busy.. but i'm also wondering.. why am i not missing him?