Iliena

For the love of God please please don't start poking.

and yet a few more posts where ForAnother (and a few others) shows his immaturity. At what age exactly do boys realize that being mature is more attractive? to me it just shows their level of insecurity. do you really need to do something that a girl is not into to assert your manliness? because that's what that is. it's really quite sad. if they really do as they say, these boys will soon realize that all they could do is "talk" about their sexual experience rather than really experience them. to me it's not about whether you find it disgusting or not, that's not the issue. it's about respect. the manner in which it is discussed, no where do i read it suggesting anywhere close to respect. and that i find disgusting. sure some women like it, but in no way is this topic discussed with regard to how the women might feel. you could say that it's all in good fun and humor but when you're talking about doing an activity where not all girls will like it and hahaha, well we'll make them learn to love it....that's called sex abuse. and that is not so funny. you think creating a cult in which women are demeaned just to satisfy men are funny? sex jokes and humor is one thing, but the way in which you BOYS are discussing it is not.

it's better to be a "good" girl/boy and and reap all the rewards later than to be "bad" and regret it. fun does not mean it has to be bad or that you have to ditch classes, or not do your school work.

"Sunday night sex show" with sue that's right--that's what it's called. Well in Canada there are also, "hotter sex", "kink", "sex, toys, and chocolate", "sexual secrets", "my first time", "sex tips for girls", "the naughty bits" and who knows what else. I'm not talking about soft core porn or anything like that. It almost seems like the US is more sexually repressed. I remember watching the Osbourne show and it was uncensored, but I think it was better with the bleeping.

I was just curious if there's a huge difference between sex education in Canada and the US and mainly how it's being treated between the two countries. In Canada there's all kinds of television programs on sex. There's two channels in particular that you can count on to do something about sex..not trashy stuff, but educational-like material--I can name tons of shows. It's so easy to get sexual knowledge in Canada. Mostly everyone knows about Sex Talk with Sue, but there's so much more than that in Canada. I was wondering if it's the same in the US.

experience definitely. enthusiasm can only make up so much. even well endowed males, if you don't know how to use it, it's useless. of course if you love the fella, you can teach him and you can both experiment, but generally speaking, experience is better. and no it's not only about the clitoris, there's soooo much more to sex that that. you are missing out on all the other erogenous zones and not to mention the g-spot and the a-spot.

I've just been through a tough, semi-break-up. I can't call it a real break-up because he was just a friend, but we were really close and I'm really hurt. Anyway, I'm really tempted to be in a relationship right now, to take my mind off it all and I know it's really bad, but really, is it all that bad? The way I'm feeling now, a relationship seems really good--to think I didn't want to be in a relationship. It's odd, but I don't think I do, but just want that closeness again; the closeness of a relationship. So what do you guys think about rebound relationships? Another problem is that although I can find men, I don't really want any of them, I'm really choosy. I can't help it. Does anyone else have this problem--being so choosy that it's a barrier to any real relationship?

it sure is unpleasant and can be very painful the first couple of times you try it, but that will go away. you just have to find a man who knows how to do it and be gentle and patient. it's a completely different sensation from vaginal sex. it's a rather great feeling once you relax and is with someone you trust and care about. also about 7 inches into the rectum is relatively clean, the colon starts somewhere after that and that's where all the feces are. so unless you're about to defecate sometime soon, then it's not that dirty. of course the whole farting thing sometimes can be rather funny. and other unpleasantness after the fact that can occur, but that's something else.

ok this might be going a little off topic, but just to let you know...not all women are built the same way. and well even if done correctly, some women can last. tis true; it's not a myth. ...ok back to your regularly scheduled programming.

I think we're misunderstanding each other. What I mean by lasting for hours is multiple orgasms.

well whether they are metrosexual or more "manly" i prefer vegetarians...they taste sooooo much better.

Err. I don't think so. A person doesn't continue if it's causing physical pain, and well, damage to the penis or testicles isn't going to occur just because you're having sex or having orgasms. Unless you're referring to some sort of S&M maneuver or something. I don't see how orgasms are ever waste of time. Haven't you ever heard of tantric sex? Even men who don't practice tantric sex can last go on for hours and hours.

I know men who can have sex all night long and well into the morning and their sex drive is very very high.

You could have male orgasmic disorder. It can be caused by disease, injury, medicine or drugs. Most often it's caused by psychological problems. Such as depression or anxiety. So check with the doctor.

Gambet, first of all you can't last longer if you don't think you can do it or else it'll be one of those self-fulfilling prophecies. It could be an erectile dysfunction (caused by disease--such as diabetes, injury, or an effect of a medicine/drugs you're taking) so you have to ask the doctor if that's the reason. It could also be psychological. So really the best way is to go to the doctor, because it can be treatable. However, it is likely the fear and the anxiety that's the culprit of the prematurely ejaculation. That's what is likely causing the shaking too. You're nervous and anxious. So, what you might want to try is: 1. First breathe. Take a few deep breaths. It helps you relax and lessens the tension that causes people to prematurely ejaculate. 2. I suggest you prolong the foreplay as long as possible. Good for her and for you. 3. Next do kegel exercises, this will help you control your ejaculation. You can do this anywhere and anytime. It uses the same muscles that control the flow of your urine. This will help prolong sex and also intensifies your orgasms. So get on this asap. The sex shop should have some sort of exercise tool for your penis to help make it easier to do this if you're not sure if you're doing this right. There are several different ways of doing the kegels...as fast as possible or hold it for a long period and then doing it again. Do both. 4. The best way is to masturbate. Only then do you really get to know what's going on. You have been doing it, but now figure out at what point you feel like ejaculating. Then before you reach that point, stop yourself from ejaculating. Practice, practice, practice. It will get better. 5. Also, there are some positions that help some men prolong it. The basic missionary is one or the sitting position and others. Also if you know you're about to ejaculate, switch positions. Try using the hands or the tongue. Or just using shorter, but deeper strokes. 6. Always you a condom. This will help in making you last longer because it reduces the stimulations. 7. Do some *light* exercises an hour or so before you have sex, giving yourself time to relax. 8. Make sure she's very very ready even before you enter her. Try to be erect for as long as possible before you enter her. 9. Relax and enjoy it. keep yourself well rested and stress free. Well I hope that helps.

trim at the very least because hair attracts sweat and sweat is not pleasant and the odour...not good. cleanliness is so important.

did anyone mention good oral sex? if not, then good oral sex. spontaneity. variety. guys knowing how to pleasure a girl...which usually means knowing when to hold off and please her for a while. lots of foreplay. paying attention to what she likes. not being selfish in bed. so many things...

seriously i think masturbation does all manner of good things for the body and mind. and not sure about the other women on the thread, but i share these things with my girlfriends...we talk about this often. and i know women who MUST orgasm to sleep. i don't understand why people don't want to do it. for those afraid, but want to try, it's just self-exploration. you'll know what feels good. do what feels right. but books would help a lot, especially to find those spots..g-spot, a-spot...

for women and men: masturbate as much as you want...it's better for sex. the more the merrier.

oh men can definitely have multiples...they even sell exercise equipment for the penis to better achieve it. what might help is if men practice kegel exercises like what women do. the more you practice the easier it will be to achieve. all you got to do is to stop yourself from letting off your load. what happens is that you still get the orgasm because you've reach your plateau, but you just don't go the last extra step. as long as you keep doing this, you can go on and on all night.

ok first, shaving will make you grow in thicker. so might not be a good idea. i recommend waxing...or using those new bikini hair remover products. you might have to use it twice it fully remove the hair though, but it works and absolutely painless. personally i think men should trim or in some way get rid of the hair...so listen up guys. cause it definitely makes it more pleasant. it really, really does.

i'm one of those people who enjoy mj every now and then. not addicted to it in the least. if i never had one ever again i wouldn't care. and actually i do know what i'm doing when i'm high...it just lowers my inhibitions...but that's not to say i do stupid things..i'm still absolutely myself. your sense of right or wrong doesn't go away. more than anything you should question your personality first...if you're the type to abuse things like this...whether it be alcohol or weed or whatever else.

Goodness! some of these stories are horrible, but i gotta say DBL, you're absolute EVIL!! i personally don't understand how women can be attracted to a guy like you described yourself as being...i can see it happening, but i just don't get it. extremely low self-esteem they must have had. but i think it hurts you too because you must have had your own issues in order to do those things. i'm so glad i don't have such stories to tell...i'm been relatively lucky in this...also helps that my self-esteeem is largely intact and i'm not psychotic enough to be attracted to a monster. all very wonderful men, physically and personality wise. the only bad thing is being into causal sex and not knowing enough to know the other guy, who seemed fine with it might have been hurt. but i'm slowly patching it up. i have hopes! p.s. i think ForAnother you're just at that immature stage where you think being a "tough" man is cool...i too have hopes you will get over that. you might not think "touching" is too bad, but sometimes it can be very degrading and humiliating. it hurts.

sorry, haven't read the other posts...and not quite sure what your original question is but...it seems you're a little down on relationships. which in my opinion really might stem from your disappointment in not having been in one yet and/or fear of it. well, i can only speak for myself, but personality is the greater part of a relationship. being able to carry a good conversation is very attractive. so what i would suggest is that you try not to focus so much on wanting to get a relationship so badly or fearing it so much (which although your question isn't phrased as such, it seems you do want a relationship in some respects...sorry if this is wrong though). it causes all sorts of disasters...it's also quite noticeable. do whatever interest you and whatever keeps you happy and sane. do all the normal healthy activities...sports, going to concerts (this is also an excellent way spot to meet people...those out of the way ones). and another thing, don't be afraid to talk to girls. strange how all the normal, perfectly nice girls don't get asked out because men assume all sorts of things. tsk tsk for assumptions (opps i made one myself didn't i? . oh and may i repeat my oft repeated phrase: be friends. that's the key to any healthy relationship, in my humble opinion. relationships work out, but like anything, it takes work and lots and lots of compromise on both ends. so many people, so little time...that's why it doesn't just work the first time around..usually. but you just have to keep trying because love is the best feeling in the world and i don't think anyone should miss out on it.

personally i wouldn't give a card at all. i think men are a little scared of intense feelings like that early in a relationship. but then again i'm not a huge fan of cards. just thought i'd give you a different opinion. go with how you feel.