shana30_1

thanks a lot you guys i have had a lot of help with this subject. as for my decision, i think im gonna make him play it slow, and take it slow. he never pressures me, but then again he knows when to make the first (since we broke up) move. everything seems okay again as for this subject, but im working on other things. guys arent my whole life even though it sounds like it thanks again for all the help!

I don not know this girl so there is not much i can say. I think your best bet would be her brother. If he knows how you feel abotu her, and he doesn't mind (which he shouldn't you are his best friend) then he could probably help you out. Make sure he doesnt care first Though!!Tell him the details and he should be able to tell you what she is feeling. I mean he has known her his whole life, right?

First of all, how long had it been since you two realized she had to make this choice? you shouldn't rush her but she DOES need to make a decision. Maybe you should start going to see her more often even though you are not officially going out. All I can say is try to to rush her, but also dont let her take her sweet time. If she loves you as much as you love her, by the sounds of it, she should forget this other guy. Show her how much you love her by visiting her more like you said you would if you were going out, but dont push her. Try to balance it. GOO DLUCK FINDING A HAPPY MEDIUM!

I am not an expert on this so I can't say I know exactly what to do, but my guess is to maybe ( next time you get a chance) tell him that you want to know where he goes when he disappears for three or four days. If he want tell you and/or he keeps doing it, then it might be time to break up with him.

lol I have had a lot of laughs reading all this, it has been a while since I have been on. I do live in the US, CA to be exact. Well, if you guys care here is an update. We broke up a couple weeks ago because of various reasons. Age being a main one. He went out with someone his own age but ended having a mutal break-up after just a few days. She thought he was too INMATURE and I don't know about him. After a few days I was not doing to good, was really stressed and missed him. I didn't really think I wanted him back, I thought I was just upset. Well after a week and a half, I realized it was our breakup that was making me so stressed. I was a nervous wreck. I couldn't eat, sleep, and to get up to go to school was nearly impossible, but I didn't let anyone see that, especially not him. One night I was sittin there and my friends decided to call him to see how he was doing. They put him on speakerphone. I listened silently as he told them it had been the worst past couple weeks of his life. When they asked why he just ignored them. They asked him these exact words, they said "Do you miss Shana?" he hesitated and said yes. They looked like someone had just gone crazy. The questioned him for nearly an hour. All things like: "Why did you break up with her?" "Why do you say you love her, if you loved her you wouldn't have done it. You went out with that other girl" And yes, he said he loved me. I didn't know what to think. He asked to talk to me but I couldn't speak. I had just hear all of this, and now I didn't know what to do or what to think. He had made my situation horrible. Knowing that we were over, but knowing we both still cared was too much. I left. yes, I walked right out the front door. I stayed gone for what I thought was ten minutes, but when I got back my friend had tears running down her face. She looked so relieved I was back. Little did I know that I had been gone for almost an hour. She had called my ex and told him. As she went through the story I broke down into tears. When she told him she didn't know where I was he started freaking out. He asked her a "billion" questions, none of which she could answer, but the most amazing part (and i came to find out she was right) she said he had sounded like he was crying when they hung up. She said I was to call him when I got back. So I gave it a shot. He picked up on the first ring, and his voice was very shaky. He asked me why I had left and what took me so long. He reminded me of a talk we had a long time ago. I was going to run away because of some situations I had in my family life. Not forever just overnight, but he wouldn't let me. As he told me about this I realized why everyone had been freaking out. That night after my friend left, I called him and appologized after a few minutes he said he had to go. All of a sudden i heard him say "i love you and i always have" there was a split second of silence which felt like forever and then i heard a click. Our conversation was over and he knew he had left me something to think about. And boy did i have a lot of time to think. I dont thik i slept for more than and hour that night. the next day he text me "goodmorning how did u sleep?" i text back "not too good i was hearing things" his reply was "Like what?" then "I LOVE YOU!!" i text him back "now im seeing things" things went phsyco from there he told me he still loved me and he was sorry he ever let me go. he said he was stupid for doing it, and that when he heard my voice he just wanted to tell me all this, but he was afraid to. I didn't anser *NOW LETS TOP THE STORY FOR A MINUTE, SOUNDs LIKE A LOAD OF BULL TO ME DOESN'T IT?!* Well the next day was school, my first day of school since the break-up at my dads house so i knew i would see him that morning and he would want me to walk with him. when i saw him and he walked jover to me, me heart was beating faster than it ever had. He gave me a look that i knew said "Can i hug u?" i just smiled at him. So he walked over and took me in his arms. He whispered in my ear that he was sorry and that he wanted me back. I didn't answer him. I just stood there with tears in my eyes. I dont know if they were happy or sad or what, but i wanted to cry. We walked to school in silence, and for once, on the way there, he held my hand, no matter who went by, no matter what age, he hand didnt slip from mine. He knew we weren't "officially" going out again, but he also knew what was in my heart. He knew of my love for him. Now this was 3 days ago and i havent seen him since then any suggestions?? IF YOU READ ALL THAT THANK YOU AND GOOD LUCK I REALLY NEED SOME HELPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!

Maybe you should try talking to him. Asking him exactly what his sis told him. If he likes you too, he should trust you when you tell him your not stalking him. Maybe the convo will lead to a date you never know....good luck!

Maybe you should try talking to him. Asking him exactly what his sis told him. If he likes you too, he should trust you when you tell him your not stalking him. Maybe the convo will lead to a date you never know....good luck!

Beats me sounds like hes just messing around but im not too sure. GOOD LUCK! lol

Wow, it sounds like you have been through a lot with this guy. I think you should sit down and tell him what you just told us. Tell him you care about him. Tell him that you want an answer; does he care about you or does he not? Tell him you are not going to give him any more chances and that you are tired of his back and forth behavior. If he says he cares about you tell him that you want to be with him, but if he leaves and goes back to that girl i think you should give up on him. After 30 years it must be hard, but thats what you must do. As for his "living situation" why dont you have him move in with you? I hope everything works out!

Im not an expert, but it sounds to me like this guy is a phony. With the distance you can never be sure. He could have tons of online gfs and you would never know. It sounds to me like he doesnt care as much as he says he does. I know this can be hard to accept based on past experiences, but you should face the facts. Chances are you will never meet this guy. Im sure you could find someone who lives around you who you could be with who could acctually hold you etc. Good Luck figureing this guy out.

I think maybe you are both a little uneasy and dont trust each other. If you think you care about her you should sit down with her and talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you dont mind her having guy friends but them calling her constantly and her flirting with them makes you uneasy. She cant control who calls her but she CAN control herself and the flirting. Maybe you two should spend more time together. If she really cares about you she will at least try to respect you wishes. As for the two other girls, you have been with this one for 2 years, you shouldnt be cheating on her like that, at least you should be able to say shes the only one doing something wrong. Listen to your heart and figure out which one you care about the most.

It sounds to me like you are starting to care about this girl more and more. As for why she said that it could be because she thinks you dont really care about her, or it could be because she likes you too, and she doesnt think she is good enough for you. Maybe you should try asking her how she feels about you. Good Luck!

Thank you guys for your advice. I guess I should tell you that you would have to know us to understand that we arent that far apart in maturity. I am pretty mature for my age, and he is pretty immature. That sound kind of conceeded but it is the truth. People who know us both agree with that. As for asking him why he doesnt I will when he calls ( hes supposed to call in a cupl hours) Thanks again!

hey, this is my first post so yeah. Im dating this guy. Im 13 and he is 17. My mom knows but not my dad. But he wont hold my hand or anyhthing in front of some of my friends or his friends. I it because he doesnt care about me, he embarrassed to be with me, or hes just shy? Can someone please help? He doesnt try to get me to do stuff I dont want to but is the age still too much of a differecne?