sereneangel20

well i think he ahs decided for himself...its been 5 days since he has talked to me at all.....so i suppose this means we are done.

I totally understand you guys because I just posted something of that nature a few minutes ago before I read this! I hate it, i dont knwo if hes doing this because hes afraid to get close to me because of what his ex did to him. Or if he only wants me when he feels like it! I cant deal with it much longer about ready to end it if he doesnt talk to me within the next couple days

Ok so I have been seeing this guy matt for about two months now. 2 weeks into our relationship I find out he has a 5 week old son. He told me he hates his ex more than anything but loves his son and goes to see him on the weekends which i completely respect him for doing. I was very understanding about it all considering we are both 20 here. But then the next week I found out when he goes home he sleeps at her house, supposedly on the floor. wait it gets worse! So i asked him to call her in front of me and tell her about me. He refused saying i wasnt being fair because she wouldnt let him see his son anymore. After this fight we didnt talk for alomost a week. During that time i called him about 8 times the first couple messages were kinda mean then the last of them were apologies (all my friends thought i was stupid). So i figured we were over and i had my roommate bring his guitar over to his apt for me. the next night me and some of my girls went to a Tragically Hip show (which is Matts fav band) and i met the band and even convinced the lead singer to call matt for me. so that night i get back and go to his apt at 3am and tell him about the voicemail he got and told him if he wantedto talk to get ahold of me the next day. He did and we worked it out and everythign was fine because he had supposedly told Sarah his ex about me. supposedly hes gonna take her to court now. I never had proof he had called her or anything just to let you know she lives 40 minutes from the college we go to and i knwo no one oin that town so i have no connections. the next week everythign was great and then on monday he called said he was gonna play poker with the guys which was cool with me. then i didnt hear from him at all again until thursday and he had tons of bs excuses. of course i let it go and now hes done it again this week! Sunday we spent the whoel day togetehr and everythign was great and now its wednesday adn i havent heard from him since 630am when he got up and left for work on monday. I talk to one of his friends on aim all the time and he told me "to be patient with Matt" because of what happened with him and Sarah. I am not sarah!!! He doesnt have to play these games and i cant take it anymore and I dontknwo what to do to get this blowing me off thing to stop! SOmeone needs to give me some good advice besides just breaking up with him!

sweety i can totally understadn where you are coming from! My bf talks about his ex ALLLLL the time and its always bad stuff. Problem with mine is that he has a child with her, and they are going through custody battles. It's really hard dealing with it especially since he will hardly tell me the reasons he hates her so much. It drives me crazy though, I should prolly tell him it does but then again i dont want to complicate matters anymore than they already are.

Thought Id just let you know...we worked it all out and now we are back together!! I am soooo happy!!!

OK so I was dating this guy Matt. Hes 20 Im 20 we both go to the same college and things were great for about a month. He was what I considered perfect. Everyone thought we were so great together and so did i. Then I find out two weeks into it that he has a 6 week old son. That I was able to get over, then last week i find out when he goes home to see his son (which i was also understanding about) he sleeps at his ex girlfriends. Supposedly he sleeps on the floor and he does this to help her out. But he would always tell me how much he hated her. SO i confronted him last friday adn told him if he wanted to stya with me he had to call Sarah (the ex) and tell ehr about me because she didnt know i existed. He refused saying i was unfair. SO I left him a bunch of messages over the weekend and he has not returned my phone calls at all. My roommates boyfriend ran into him yesterday and he told him that hes pissed because at the end of one of my messages I had said "Im going out and having a good time tonight...dont forget thats how I met you" SO last night i called and left him a message saying i was sorry adn that I didnt meet anyone over the weekend and to please call me and explain what is going on and he hasnt. What shoudl I do now?