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i agree with both of you. your virginity is something to hold on to. when you do find someone special, and get married, or however it is you do things, it will feel more special, and you wont have to regret losing it before.

no, they just dont want me to have any contact with any girls that arent romanian. period. but yeah.. i will talk to her. sneaking out did pass through my head, but i didnt really think id resort to it. thank you dpress, i appreciate your concern. and thanks MetallicAguy... this isnt the first time youve helped me out, and i really appreciate it.

nonono, my parents would freak out if they found out how i felt about her. uuhm, i hope i didnt make it sound like i have to bring someone from romanian here when i get married... it just has to be someone thats romanian in general. im going to talk to her, and see what she things about the whole sneaking out thing. the one thing i like about this is that her mom is really really awesome. her dad is a lot nicer than my parents, but he is just as strict when it comes to talking to guys.. so he doesnt even know we're seeing eachother.

well, yeah.. i guess in a way it is arranged.. wow, it sucks to think about it like that... romanians suck. buut.... about the sneaking out part, thats why ive been trying to avoid... i really have, i wanted to do this my parents way. but if it turns to that, then i guess i have no choice, because i really will do anything for her.

well, what i was taught by a wise man, and believe, is that love is not a feeling, and you dont "fall" in love, because if you fall in love, then you can fall back out. true love is not that way. love is when you are prepared and willing to do whats best for the other person no matter the consequences. so in my opinion, yes, it is possible to love two people at the same time. it would be a tragedy though... someone would end up with a broken heart.

ive moaned and complained a lot about my parents on here, but this time i have a real life situation to deal with. i used to be all bad, and disregarded my parents in everything they said. but now i try, i obey, i do just about everything they ask of me, and they know when im gone, and where i am when im gone. my parents have always had something against "american girls".. im originated from Romania, and traditionally... romanians go with romanians. my dad told me that i should stop hanging out with american girls, and if i find a romanian girl that i like, he doesnt mind if i talk to her and whatever. and ive always liked american girls.. but i guess now, ive really fallen for this girl from my church. i met her at my favorite store.. abercrombie, and i said hi, then we didnt talk for a month and a half, and then started talking at church. then we talked on the phone, and one day i asked my mom if i could go hang out with her. my mom was fine with it. so we started hanging out like 3-4 times a week, and my parents really didnt complain or anything. they did sometimes, when id get home a little late, but thats it. and i really got attached to her, and i really love her. my parents dont know that. they just know were hanging out. and suddenly, last week, my parents suddenly have a serious problem with me seeing her. now they say that i shouldnt be talking to any girls at all until i want to get married, and that people will frown upon us from church if they find out that were seeing eachother. my parents once took the spark plug wire off my car, and currently they have my license plates in their possession so i cant leave to see her. and its really hard for me... knowing that i can see her, but my parents are keeping me from it. i miss her so much. every day is just hell with my parents doing this to me. ive done everything they want, and more.. and all i ask is that i can go see my wonderful girl.. and i cant have that.. someone please help me.

youve got a way with words, i like this poem... even though its so sad

I wrote this for a girl i really like sunrays dancing from your glittering eyes wind fluttering through your precious hair Scattering the scent of your endless beauty Like rose petals through the warm summer air As i approach you at the doorstep and i see the smile on your pretty face you bring my heart a happiness that all the universe couldnt replace every time im with you the chains of life are just the past the day passes us so quickly but i wish it could forever last Its hard to explain this feeling that i feel when you're by my side it tell me to whisper sweet words to your ear then hold and kiss you through the night if a picture is worth a thousand words then why do i lack the one to show how much you trully mean to me this is what i long to know only three words cand describe this ecstasy that flows in my heart up and through these words you should remember forever because Diana, I love you

actually, i changed my mind, i think im just going to ask her. i cant do the whole plan thing today, and i cant leave her again wishing i had gotten something more then i had.

church is 30 miles away. and i guess i wanted to go so bad half for a wrong reason, but he doesnt know that. and i hate this, i mean, i do everything they want.. because i have this girl that im reallly crazy over.. and if i screw up, then i dont get to see her anymore... and then that would be the end of it for me.

i think shell like it. and i will try to be straight out with it. thanks again... everyone

how do you deal with two-faced parents? about two months ago, my dad physically abused me, and i left to one of my friends house for a couple days. before this, i wasnt the greatest kid.. id leave without my parents knowing, keep lots of stuff, lie about where i am. my parents found me there, and talked to me and my friends parents. we agreed that if i did my part, then they would let me out more, and theyd be easier on me. well, ive been trying, and i still mess up sometimes, because im nothing close to perfect, but ive been working hard, and listening and trying to please them. but then these days come along where my dad decides that he is going to make me as angry as he can. today i wanted to go to church.. my dad wanted to go to this boring tiny little church with like 20 people, and i wanted to go to my church, because all my friends are there, and its more exciting. my dad decided that im not going to have my way of going to church, and took the spark plug wires from my car so it doesnt start. now i hate him, because he wouldnt let me go to church.. and i really think thats pretty messed up, because hes the one that wants me to be a good little christian boy. i guess thats not really what he wants after all

i will.. but when i ask her out, thats how i want it to be.

i am going to... i made a plan on how to. its still not perfect, but she wont forget it... ever. david isnt much competition though.. i found that he flirts and will probably do anything that has legs and walks. that kinda sickens me. oh well.. oh.. just in case you guys want to know the plan... operation heart sorry.. i had to give it a name. anyway.. im gonna ask her to go fishing.. and well go to the lake. then on the dock, theres gonna be us both having fishing poles, and also one in the middle... and eventually she will ask whos it is.. and ill say.. hmm, i dont know, but lets see if they caught anything. then ill reel it up, and show her whats on there.. and im not sure what yet, but ill have something on there asking her to be my girlfriend. tell me what you guys think

that easy huh? i guess i think about it too much. every time i look at her.. i want to, but cant get myself to do it.

you were right!!!!!! i saw her today, it was her.. and her friend. she did bring up why i was so upset last night. i told her shed find out soon enough, and that it wasnt her.. or my friend.. but i realized it was my fault the night got ruined, and i acted like an idiot. then she said not to wait forever to let her find out. then we talked... and i kissed her hand, and lol we walked around the whole park holding hands. aaand, i guess im just really happy. any advice on what i should do next?

thanks a lot youve really helped and given me a lot oh hope. i know i should have handled it better... its just... i dont know whats wrong with me soemtimes.

thanks... so do i apoligize for being an idiot tonight, or just go on with things.. because before you replied, i was just ready to forget about the whole thing. thanks a lot... im gonna think hard about what you said

well... it was a sad day today... theres this gorgeous girl that i am really crazy over.. and most of my friends know. sometimes we hold hands.. or hold eachother.. so there is something going on.. but i just havent told her how crazy i am about her. well, yesterday i talked to a friend, and she really convinced me to finally get out with it. and today i took her, and two of my friends to go to the beach.. and i wanted to tell her. but to my dismay, she and one of my friends were flirting the whole time. then we went to this little restaurant, and he came up to me and said.. dude, you both like eachother, go and start something. and i was just shocked that he would have the nerve to come tell me that after he had bee flirting and touching her and stuff.... then we drove home, and she asked what was wrong, because i didnt say anything at all... but i couldnt.. and really didnt want to get it out. now im just upset and cant sleep at all. anyone have any encouragement or advice? id really appreciate it

i guess you're right.. i do like her, i don't know how she feels about me though. we'll have to see how that turns out.. but right now, im worrying about my parents

well.. shes not my girlfriend, we're friends now.. until now.. ive hid most everything from my parents, because i know how they are.. and i guess i havent been dating exactly role model girls.. but this time, i have nothing to hide.. i mean, shes not exactly a goody goody, but shes a better person then even I am. thanks for your input.. i really appreciate it

OK... heres my problem.. i met this girl, and shes really awesome, nice.. a great influence.. shes great to hang out with. But i have a dilemma.. my parents are really paranoid about me and girls.. and i have to tell my mom about her.. and she wants to meet my parents.. but i dont know how to tell my mom.. im afraid of what she might say. PLEASE give me some advice or tips.. thank you!

lol, well.. i dont think theyd rather have me be gay.. my dad despises gay people.. i have no problem with them, my dad does though... my dad is.. against many things.. hes a strange guy, ill tell you that.. well, good news, my girlfriend is starting to go to my school on monday, so im really really really happy.. and excited.. i cant wait to be with her. anyway.. thanks for the advice.. lol, and i agree, if you old enough to drive, you should be able to date too. thanks again for taking your time to read this.

well, i think you should go talk to that girl, straight out, tell her how you feel about her, ask if she feels the same about you. thats the best way to do it. best of luck

hey there, im really sorry, it must be really tough for you.. you need to make some friends that care and can be there for you and make you feel better. and you are not better off dead, even though i dont know you... i dont want you to die, dont think suicidal, if you do suceed in suicide, you will leave many people feeling guilty. i think people are taking you for granted, im sure your a great person.. sometimes people lose sight of that. so take care of yourself.. try hard in school, focus on your career, thats really important.. stay strong, i hope i was some help.. best of luck