lady_jules

I suppose that I feel like I just want to get rid of the stigma that goes along with being a virgin... I am beyond ready, so I might as well just take action, right? But then how does one take action? I only have a few single guy friends... only one of whom I find attractive... but how do I not sound pathetic or cheap?

I don't just want to sleep with any guy off the street. I am really only attracted to guys after I get to know them. I used to think that my virginity was something special, but I really don't anymore. I just don't see sex as being that big of a deal... let me explain that, it sounds wrong... I think that sex is important (otherwise I wouldn't care that I was a virgin), but I don't think that there is some magical innocence that one looses after sex. I don't know anyone else my age who is still a virgin. I just want to get my first time over with, and with someone I know so that I can stop feeling weird about the whole issue.

I am 21, normal, fairly attractive... but I am still a virgin. I haven't even had a boyfriend since high school. When I tell people this they always say that it is totally normal and admire that I am waiting for someone special. The truth of it is that I do want someone special, but I am getting to the point where I feel like my virginity gets in the way of me feeling like a sexual being. I feel like I need something to break me out of my shell so that I feel like there isn't something wrong with me. I know that it sounds pretty stupid, but should I try sleeping with someone that I am physically attracted to even though I know that there probably won't be a lasting relationship? Looking for confidence in a one night stand sounds ludicrous, but I haven't so much as kissed a guy in four years, and it's not like I am so young that I'd be scarred or something... help me out here.

It seems like you think that a woman is obligated to shave. I can understand that it might be gross to deal with, but should she really have to deal with being itchy and uncomfortable 24/7? It's her body, and having hair is not "gross"... it's normal. Until recently shaving was considered to be out of the norm... I think that it still is. If I were you I'd be VERY cautious about what you say and how you say it. DEFINITELY don't shave it for her. It's a difficult thing to do painlessly on yourself. You could just tell her that you think that it'd be sexy if she shaved. If she says that she doesn't want to then deal with it.