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I actually agree with you becuase I one of those solitary types. I have been getting out more, but over half my time I am in my house on my computer or watching tv. The longer you stay with your boyfriend the longer you stay dependent. The only real way to become independent is to not be attached or need the on going assistance of another person or system. I am not saying that you will need such support down the road, but you can't just lean on it all the time. I understand the whole safety net thing, but like I said before, you need to break free and be on your own. Besides getting the help you need for your other problems, you also need to repair your self by your self as well. Becuase there are things that you can only learn and do on your own and you can not use outside help for it.

If a girl gave me her purse to me, she will want it back very fast. Becuase I will make non stop comments about it. And if I have to carry it around even for a foot, I will most probably start acting like a girl and embrass the girl that gave me her purse. I know I sound mean, but hey the purse goes bye bye real qucik when I do this, plus is funny as well.

Yes guys do this, but tell me how long before the guy leaves or there are major problems in the relationship. The later one makings things unhealthy for both people and does more harm than good. It sounds like your doing the right things. It also takes time and effort (as in talking to people). As far as the friend thing I can see more of why you don't want to let go of your boyfriend. But you gotta becuase its unhealthy. I am better at making conections than friends (don't ask me why), but maybe if you had a good conversation with someone maybe you should ask if they would like to see an art show sometime or something like that. If you have the time you should vounlenteer for a local non-profit group. Don't vounlenteer for the big ones like the Red Cross (Note I have nothing against them and have worked with them once so far), becuase with the bigger groups there are lot of people and a more people moving about to different areas so it can get hard to know people. I do wonlenteer work and have met people thru it. None of them have been girls my age, but hey thats not really my aim with the group. The thing I find funny is when I tell people about the non-profit group they are surprise that I am in such a group. And it does score points for me.

You seem to be dependent on needing someone, which is a turn off for most guys even as friends, as us guys are mostly brought up to be independent and not depend on other people. And why are you with him until you find someone else? That right there will make most guys run away from you. Bearly any guy would want a girl that is having a boyfriend just to get some emotional full filling out of it. Heck you might as well put your self with the drug users becuase this emtional need of yours is a drug to you. I know most probably sound mean, but girl what you are doing personally to your self is not healthy and will causes problems down the road for you and for any guy with you. The best way to deal with this is to dump your boyfiriend do not get another boyfriend until you are more independent, and more emtional independent as well. Once you done that then look for a boyfriend. You be much much much better off if you become stronger as a person and feel confrontable and secure in your self than always having the emtional need to have some there to want you. I am not saying that this is a bad thing as it is a good thing, but to be so attach to it and have it become a "drug" is a bad thing. As far as finding the good guys and not the bad ones, they are there. They tend to be of the main track so to speak so try going to art shows, off beat coffe shops (ie not Star Bucks), parks, etc. I know they are out there becuase I am basically one as well.

I feel the same way and I live in Orange County. I would love it if a female would be able to have debates with me on various topics or just talk about them. But I have yet to find one. Most of the time I am helping the girl I am talking to or just chit chatting or just talking about something that has no educational value. As far as finding the real intelligent men. They are not easy as I will give you that. I consider my self intelligent and have other people, but I don't get out much (due to various reasons, but I am working on getting out more tho). Places I would think intelligent men will be at are: - At colleges (Try looking for the guys not in the main stream of people or in the library.) - Art shows - Cyber cafe's - Clubs of some kind (it being computers, math english etc) - Private social circles (somewhat like the clubs, but you have to know about them to find them which means you have to know someone in one) - At lectures - Trade Conventions or conventions (they are two different things by the way) That is what I could come up with. Ya you can run into one at the mall, at some store, at the bar, but the chances there are lower.

For me as long as the breast are from a B cup to a D cup I am all good. The size of the breast are not that important to me, its more how proportionate they are to the girls body. And as far as fake boobs I the only way to get a for sure pass from me on them is if the girl had breast cancer and a good amount of insides of the breast where removed. If a girl got implants just to make her fell more confindent about her self or wanted more attention to her body, its a no go.

There are corporate companies that do not have such things going on, but they tend to be small. But the bigger the corporatation the more of this stuff happens becuase there is more power at the top and every pretty much wants to get a certain amount of power in the company.

Your only like 130 or so miles north of me lol. I in Fullerton which is in Orange County. I was just asking becuase there seems a good number of people on here from Southern California. But as far as the girl I thought she was closer, oh well. You do realize that you have some free tools right infront of you right? I am referring to the girls you talk to at work. Ask them for some help and I bet you will get your own personal teachers. Heck even ask them if they would like to go out as friends, and see if they can help you out. Most girls love to do such things. I am not saying to us ethe girls as actual tools, but more as a resource and people that are on the other side that can help you out.

Sounds like he is not trying to look desprate or pushy by calling you all the time. If he doesn't call you in 2 weeks, then just forget about him. As far as the zodiac thing I never really take those things seriously.

I am going to take your three things in seprate sections. So hopefully you won't be confused. Money Management The first thing when it comes to money management is to make a list of everything you spend money on. The next thing is to see how much money you spend per month and week, from your over all list. The next thing is to make two more list, one with things you need (ie food, clothes etc), and things that you want, but don't need (ie spa treaments, Starbucks, etc). Then see how much money you spend for each list. The money for your need list is what you must need per month to live on. The money you spend on your want list is what we are going to work with. Take a look at your want list and see what you get weekly and daily on it. If you get coffe from Starbucks everyday, cut back to once a week. You will save at least $20 to $30 right there. Next look at any of the big ticket items you have on your want list, and see how much you spend money on them. Lets say your big ticket items is spa treaments that you get every week. If you really want them, then get them only once a month if that. You will save even more money. Hopefully your getting the idea here. What most people don't know that are having money management problems is that they spend to much money on their wants and/or over spend on things as well. Investing One of the safest investing things you can do is to get a CD from either a bank or from a fianical business like E-Trade. And most places will contuine the CD if you don't pull out the money when it matures. IT There is no best way to learn IT. You have to find the best method for you. There are loads of schools, books, papers, articles, and you got the Internet as well to learn from.

Actually your wrong, she got upset that someone below her chanllenger her. It was not that someone got angery at her at her actions at all, becuase I bet you that she doesn't give a crap about that. She cared that someone below her setup to her and called her out on it.

Its a way of seeing if the other person is interested and to see if we like what we see. Plus it can be fun as well.

Sounds like company politics to me. My guess is that the director feels theatend by you and wants to stop you before he/she gets replaced. The thing you have to remember is that the higher you go the more greedy and games people play becuase of the power they have and a lot of people think they have the right to do so.

The girl you mentioned was most probably interested in you and made her self avaliable for you to talk to, and you blew it. You could have said; "You look lost, need some help?" But as far as you thinking that you can't have them or get these girls, its your mind set. I don't see what is stopping you from talking to girls. Even starting a coversation with the most stupidest thing is better than just sitting there and letting these girls just walk by. I suck when it comes to meeting people and generally say stupid things at first, but usually that is all it takes for a conversation to get started and I am fine after that. There are ways to get better. You can join a club at school, just chit chat with people in your classes, go to local events, etc. I think a lot of your problems is becuase your social skills are lacking, and you just need to built them up, so that talking to girls becomes easier. I think that if you got more social you will see that interacting with girls will become easier for you.. I am curious tho, what part of Southern California do you live in? I am just asking becuase I live in the same area.

I want to, but so far my attempts in talking to her have failed. I was thinking about her showing up to class bearly on time, and I remembered that she had problems with her account, and today in class she told the teacher her account is worrking now. So I am hoping she was in the computer lab trying to fix her account. And now that it is fixed, I am hoping she will show up earlier so I can at least try and talk to her. I won't see her until next wedensday, but I see what I can do. This should be interesting tho.

Around the 5'10 mark. Which is part of the reason why I am putting in more of an effort than I usually do. lozic21 - Thank you for the uh complament. But I don't think you need to tell me that pratically every girl out there is into tall guys. The first day back at college, I basically had every girl in sight looking at me, and some where even giving me "looks".

I am 6'6".

Well it seems that I have finnaly gotten lucky and ran into a tall girl in one of my classes. She seems to have interest, how much it is hard to say as today she seem to be on a shy side as she was biting her nails and playing with her hair pretty much the for full length of the class. She look to her left (I was on her left side), but only truly look back a couple of times. I was sitting in the row behind her. But the thing that is making me flip flop is that she had a chance to sit next to me as there was an empty chair next to me. I did my best to "present" it, but instead she sat in the row in front of me. When she went in the row in front of me I made eye contact and gave a small smile, and she bearly gave one back. I did tried to talk to her when we where leaving, but the other people in the class got in the way, and me and her go in opposite directions after that class, so unless I want to be late to my next class (which will not be a good thing as it is a quarter class), so talking to her is going to be diffcult unlit my quarter class ends, but she may has loss interest by then. And if your wondering why I didn't move, because I was already sitting and class was about to start, and there was no empty chair next to her to move to. But the thing I hear, mostly from moms (why I have no freaking clue why, lol), is that girls want guys my height, especially the tall girls. I would think that this girl would have sat next to me today in class so that I could talk to her. I know how shyness can effect you as I use to be very shy, but I would think that she would make the move. I keep on trying, as finding a girl this tall that is not blowing me off is a rare thing to find. But if I could get replys from tall girls on their responses and thoughts on this that woud be very very very helpful to me as I will have a better understanding of whats going thru her mind. And I could at least come up with something that may help me.

I would date a girl that is drop dead gorgeous, but if I see something I don't like I am "walking" away. A girls' looks get me to look, her body langauge and behavior gets me to approach.

I post my answer since there been bearly any guys answering lol. Over all I go for a womans body than one part of her. But saying that a flast chested girl is a turn off to me. I don't need a girl with huge breast as B cups are just fine for me. But I think it goes back to what RayKay said about the breast being proportional to the rest of the body. The more proportional the breast, butt, and hips are to the rest of the body the more likely I will be attracted physically to the girl. Yes there are guys that like girls in the smaller cups, but they are hard to find due to us guys talking about breast and noticing them.

When learning becomes impossible? Only when you make it so. Yes brain chemistry is a factor in how much you can learn, but if you find a way that increases your knowledge you can over come it.

Be happy your not like me. I can be talking to a person I just met that very day and in 15 minutes they open up to me, and in 2 hours they are totally open to me to the point that I can ask them anything and get anything out of them. I don't always get peoples negative side, but I do get to hear peoples problems tho, and I hate it when this happens. If your wondering what type of people I attract, all kinds of people and ages. I have attraced babies, to grandmothers, and everything else in between. But I view this ability as a good and bad thing, as it does have its uses, while on the other hand it can be easily be abused and used for the wrong reasons.

There has been times when females critize me on something and I respone "What do you expect I am a guy.", and they agree and leave it at that. And usually after that they learn that they better expect me to do guy things that have very little female touches to it. I have yet to apologies for my standards in girls or the way I act for the most part. But I rather have an average looking girl with a personality that I love and has a high intellegence, than a girl like Jessica Alba, becuase I see no point in having eye candy on my arm that does nothing else. Becuase smarts and personality are also important to me as I grew up with these two things, and I learned to value them over physical looks. Yes I want a girl to be good looking, but she doesn't need to be a knock out.

Its the same for all ages really.

Let me guess your young and most probably in your teens. But anyway, to answer your questions. If a girl i don't know smiles at me does that always mean they like me? Most of the time its a no. Most girls that smile at a guy passing them are just being nice and nothing more, and there is nothing to read past it. There are some smiles that say other wise. It is hard to describe them thru text as it is easier to see them in person and know what to look for. Do girls sometimes show their attraction with a more serious look? Very few girls are like this. Is this cause i dont smile at them much? Most of the time it is not the case. The girl that is passing you may be having a bad day or is focusing on something else or is thinking about something and not paying attention to a guy smiling at her. But smiling at girls that pass you usually does the trick, but it is not a for sure thing becuase you don't know the mind set of the girl, nor what she is currently thinking about. I am not telling you don't smile, but just be aware that you may not get one back all the time, thats all.